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merrily

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14. Very true. My home has been invaded by several times, usually by accident, believe it or not.
Tue Feb 10, 2015, 07:36 AM
Feb 2015

Without realizing it, I was one of the first people to move into the building, which had been converted from commercial to residential. Contractors working on the conversion had been storing some of their stuff in my apartment and did not realize someone had moved in. Apparently, they still had keys or were given passkeys by the doorman. So, they'd show up at my apartment first thing in the morning, looking for a ladder or something, just as I'd be getting ready to go to work.

Once, I walked out of the shower nude, to find two of them just outside the bathroom door, chatting with each other. I screamed and they ran out. I think we were almost equally horrified at that moment, but I never felt safe again, especially since the building manager and doorman continued to allow people in without my advance knowledge if someone showed up I was at work. Finally, I sued. but even that did not stop the building manager from accessing my apartment whenever he thought he had a reason. (His idea of a reason included spying on a neighbor.) It was a horror show, and the fear lasted long after the events ceased.

Getting raped at home is on a whole different level, though, especially if your rapist is a relative or trusted visitor. Unimaginable.

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Driving makes it easier to avoid rape. Exhibit A Feb 2015 #1
We can solve that by forbidding you to leave your home at all unless accompanied by a male relative. merrily Feb 2015 #6
And yet women get raped at home, too. Ilsa Feb 2015 #12
Very true. My home has been invaded by several times, usually by accident, believe it or not. merrily Feb 2015 #14
Yup, a similar situation happened to me in a college apartment IronLionZion Feb 2015 #17
It was a stranger. Ilsa Feb 2015 #30
This man Turbineguy Feb 2015 #2
Sounds like they have a raping problem rather than a driving problem to me jmowreader Feb 2015 #3
+1 Exhibit A Feb 2015 #4
Right. JDPriestly Feb 2015 #8
I wish just one US president would saying something like this and Jamastiene Feb 2015 #32
Most who fixate on the behavior of a rape victim as the reason for her rape have huge problems. merrily Feb 2015 #15
Winner! smirkymonkey Feb 2015 #23
If your first instinct upon seeing a woman standing next to a broken down car eissa Feb 2015 #31
No Saudi women get raped? No women got raped before cars were invented? merrily Feb 2015 #5
Well that just clears things up! ChosenUnWisely Feb 2015 #7
Well Saadoon looks like it rhymes with maroon rpannier Feb 2015 #9
Please keep in mind get the red out Feb 2015 #10
At the same time, though, who is ready to cut down dramatically on driving, air conditioning, merrily Feb 2015 #16
I wish for renewables get the red out Feb 2015 #18
We are on our way, though not always as quickly or as wisely as we could be. merrily Feb 2015 #19
I agree get the red out Feb 2015 #20
I don't think you should curtail it. merrily Feb 2015 #22
For all our talk, we really don't care how you treat women. Got any more cheap oil? jtuck004 Feb 2015 #11
Clearly this Saudi Arabian historian is a fucking idiot. Enthusiast Feb 2015 #13
And the conclusion of this kind of logic is that we should lock everyone up in cells so they dont stevenleser Feb 2015 #21
He should have said they treat women like princesses Major Nikon Feb 2015 #28
This guy's premise is Kryptonite level stupidity at work Pooka Fey Feb 2015 #24
This is the kind of "reasoning" that makes everyone who hears it hifiguy Feb 2015 #36
LOL Pooka Fey Feb 2015 #37
So women who drive poorly maintained cars are asking for it? MindPilot Feb 2015 #25
...," he fantasized. Iggo Feb 2015 #26
That's great coming from someone who probably has to keep himself Guy Whitey Corngood Feb 2015 #27
This is a first for me whatthehey Feb 2015 #29
Ok I may be dim but I don't see abakan Feb 2015 #33
Makes the guy who worried about the rumble seat in early US cars rpannier Feb 2015 #39
What a lovely man. (eom) StevieM Feb 2015 #34
Saudi Arabia = hifiguy Feb 2015 #35
And they can't open a bank account in a regular bank because male tellers would rape them aint_no_life_nowhere Feb 2015 #38
Todd Akin is Saudi? KamaAina Feb 2015 #40
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