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81. So, does the book explain why monogamy came about?

Sat Feb 14, 2015, 03:16 AM

Feb 2015

Why aren't we all just randomly screwing 14 people a day? I'm not claiming that those that wish to do so shouldn't. But I find this claim that it is natural about as helpful as saying I should just shuck indoor plumbing and modern clothing and live in a yurt and fur right now in 15 degree weather, because that's natural. It makes the same amount of sense. The reasons people don't forgo pair bonding are the same reasons they live in sturdily constructed homes and drive cars and use electricity and build governments. Society is pretty beneficial and pair bonding is a key part of that which is why it has endured. I'm sure that book you're endorsing argues that isn't so, but it's nonsense.

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Experience: I�ve slept with 3,000 men (63 year old grandma) [View all] Omaha Steve Feb 2015 OP

you go, granny!!!!!!! niyad Feb 2015 #1

This makes me feel very tired 840high Feb 2015 #4

Men sleeping on your hand isn't so much the problem. TheCowsCameHome Feb 2015 #20

Heehee - I need more coffee. Much more. 840high Feb 2015 #31

I almost spewed my coffee. kwassa Feb 2015 #33

Some men can only count their hand. rug Feb 2015 #39

at first glance, I thought he was wheeling a loaf of bread. Warren DeMontague Feb 2015 #87

Anything in a pinch. rug Feb 2015 #94

Right. Whatever floats your boat, IMO. nt Laffy Kat Feb 2015 #129

and I think 'it's not natural' to sleep with 3000 people. opinions differ. ND-Dem Feb 2015 #2

who defines "natural"? niyad Feb 2015 #5

in my post, i do. that's why i said 'opinions differ' ND-Dem Feb 2015 #11

Don't let them call you a square just because you don't want to devote your adult life to sex. Dreamer Tatum Feb 2015 #13

+1 840high Feb 2015 #70

er, um you're a little confused Saboburns Feb 2015 #120

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IMO science contraindicates it to some degree treestar Feb 2015 #102

I doubt she actually ever slept snooper2 Feb 2015 #8

As opposed to having sex with the same person 3000 times? Augustus Feb 2015 #43

I'm 52 and have had sex maybe 200 times in total (with someone else). OnlinePoker Feb 2015 #48

Are you married or in a relationship? tazkcmo Feb 2015 #52

Married 12 years OnlinePoker Feb 2015 #65

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i don't want to. it's not my area of interest. ND-Dem Feb 2015 #138

The female Wilt Chamberlain. nt LittleBlue Feb 2015 #3

If 1 is too few, 3000 is way too fucking many. nt Dreamer Tatum Feb 2015 #6

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I agree that love and sex are separate ... Myrina Feb 2015 #7

put it in context with the SI cover and posters flipping their shit over that :) snooper2 Feb 2015 #10

Horny is the word I'd use. ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #136

Umm...it feels good? Xithras Feb 2015 #12

Yup. HappyMe Feb 2015 #15

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Indeed they are. Xithras Feb 2015 #28

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I could have written that. Pacifist Patriot Feb 2015 #29

Yes! Control-Z Feb 2015 #30

errrrr ... Myrina Feb 2015 #46

Sex drive varies from person to person. Codeine Feb 2015 #63

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Good for her. HappyMe Feb 2015 #9

I'm not going to criticize them or say they were wrong Lurks Often Feb 2015 #14

Sloppy 14ths? Ewww. Shrike47 Feb 2015 #16

Condoms were almost certainly being used Lurks Often Feb 2015 #23

Sometimes I go to the deli justhanginon Feb 2015 #35

Wilt Chamberlain claims to have slept with... one_voice Feb 2015 #17

I wouldn't mind being 3001! Yavin4 Feb 2015 #18

Frame is high-mileage, but she'll do in a pinch Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #60

"in a pinch", what a rude thing to say. classy. nt Logical Feb 2015 #119

riiiiiight Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #141

You were insulting her. But sure you don't get it. Like I said, Classy! nt Logical Feb 2015 #142

I think she's very pretty too OriginalGeek Feb 2015 #64

Well, that is One Way to make a Spectacle of Your Self. Mission Accomplished. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #19

Being happy, and true to yourself is a spectacle?? Saboburns Feb 2015 #121

If making a *spectacle* of herself is making her happy, who am I to judge? Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #139

I'm not an orgy guy. Ace Rothstein Feb 2015 #21

I'd have to get new clothes, I'd have to get new friends, louis-t Feb 2015 #26

Is there an EZ pass express lane? TheCowsCameHome Feb 2015 #22

Do you mean a drive-through Slam-bam 840high Feb 2015 #34

Yeah, and you don't even have to roll the window down. TheCowsCameHome Feb 2015 #41

that is how most of them go Skittles Feb 2015 #73

Instant coffee. Instant sex. I prefer 840high Feb 2015 #75

Article says they opened a swingers' club. I wonder if she can climb that stripper pole. n/t benz380 Feb 2015 #25

This is cool. F4lconF16 Feb 2015 #27

Good for her! sibelian Feb 2015 #36

Sex on a pedestal? progressoid Feb 2015 #37

I hope she practiced safe sex. Rhinodawg Feb 2015 #38

good for her, and them. KG Feb 2015 #40

14 men in one night? skypilot Feb 2015 #42

Right? prayin4rain Feb 2015 #45

I was thinking the same thing. kcr Feb 2015 #80

I can't get my brain around either the logistics or... Pacifist Patriot Feb 2015 #50

The shuttle bus must've been half empty. TheCowsCameHome Feb 2015 #53

Unless... skypilot Feb 2015 #58

an orgy or huge swap party? Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #59

Go to a swingers club sometime. Codeine Feb 2015 #66

I don't think a lot of talking was involved. Shrike47 Feb 2015 #89

If you can get it, get it! bigwillq Feb 2015 #44

If it makes them happy and no one gets hurt, whatever. There are all sorts of people doing all sort uppityperson Feb 2015 #47

If you're reading this, young lady... jomin41 Feb 2015 #49

Different strokes... liberal N proud Feb 2015 #51

To those who commented, may I recommend "Sex at Dawn" (no, it's a book! Really) MarshallS Feb 2015 #54

So, does the book explain why monogamy came about? kcr Feb 2015 #81

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There's a distinction to be made between physical evolution and social evolution. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2015 #101

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It shouldn't be controversial that our collective social psychology has evolutionary origins. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2015 #113

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"What is wrong with me" is my apparent inability to communicate effectively... lumberjack_jeff Feb 2015 #117

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Dang! Manifestor_of_Light Feb 2015 #55

Does that leave callouses? HereSince1628 Feb 2015 #56

Most likely serious bruising, beveeheart Feb 2015 #83

She may well be telling the truth as she sees it. ladjf Feb 2015 #57

She must know a lot about manly firmness. betsuni Feb 2015 #61

Ew. TeeYiYi Feb 2015 #62

All power to her, but I'd be embarrassed to be her granddaughter. mainer Feb 2015 #67

I wonder what was said in the removed posts Omaha Steve Feb 2015 #68

Not sure. Xithras Feb 2015 #76

Thanks, Obama Ramses Feb 2015 #69

gross! Skittles Feb 2015 #71

I was gonna go 'Yuck!', but 'gross!' works. Bonx Feb 2015 #72

careful, Bonx Skittles Feb 2015 #74

Not by me... SomethingFishy Feb 2015 #116

yes Skittles Feb 2015 #118

yeah well I've had sex with ten gazillion women , yeah atleast that many olddots Feb 2015 #77

STOP IT OLDDOTS Skittles Feb 2015 #104

3,000 partners is nothing - I've had sex with 3 brazilian women... petronius Feb 2015 #78

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The very first response was You go, granny!!!!! kcr Feb 2015 #82

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I don't have anyone on ignore, and I don't see anyone I'd consider horrified kcr Feb 2015 #99

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Actually, my point was to show kcr Feb 2015 #143

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Of course there is. But you aren't among them, are you? kcr Feb 2015 #146

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WTF Skittles Feb 2015 #105

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right, so I am not "clutching my pearls" over this gal Skittles Feb 2015 #107

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Nasty Girl Kaleva Feb 2015 #130

Maybe this is free publicity for their business? pnwmom Feb 2015 #84

Better title for this article: "People in sex industry have sex!" Bad Thoughts Feb 2015 #95

K&R! DeSwiss Feb 2015 #85

there is a lot between having sex only with someone you love and with 14 people in one day JI7 Feb 2015 #88

yknow, 'slept with' is a childish way of say 'fucked'. KG Feb 2015 #90

And she ain't no ways tired! nt benz380 Feb 2015 #91

... MoonRiver Feb 2015 #92

Lucky gal KentuckyWoman Feb 2015 #93

Whew! yallerdawg Feb 2015 #96

Going by some of the posts, tolerance = people who only share the same views I do Lurks Often Feb 2015 #97

To each his own vankuria Feb 2015 #98

she is likely addicted to the "novelty" chemicals that our brains/bodies release�. KittyWampus Feb 2015 #100

Ick. cwydro Feb 2015 #110

I'm with you on that! n/t PasadenaTrudy Feb 2015 #114

An attractive older woman who really, really likes sex. Aristus Feb 2015 #111

Reminds me of a joke about two guys a girl and a lost set of car keys. n/t Monk06 Feb 2015 #123

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WELCOME to the DU Omaha Steve Feb 2015 #125

I wish I had her energy. notadmblnd Feb 2015 #127

! Kali Feb 2015 #131

bless her little heart. mopinko Feb 2015 #132

The 14 guys in one night reminds me.... 3catwoman3 Feb 2015 #137

I'm indifferent. At least she comes off a lot less sleazy than, say, Gene Simmons. nomorenomore08 Feb 2015 #140

Helen Fisher, Ph.D: Why People Fall in Love G_j Feb 2015 #145