Got wife help. We have a friend here who is really helping both of us thru today--yesterday

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3. There are battles you fight on the front line and battles you fight from afar.

If your wife is in a stage of depression as she's trying to do harm to herself, there is no shame in that, it's just something you need to be realistic about and address, and you, as her caregiver, need to get her out of the situation. This is non-negotiable.

Vote until you gain resolution if that suits you, but don't keep your wife in the midst of this emotional upheaval at this time. It's wrong to risk her health for the sake of a stance on an issue such as this. No one is going to come out the better for such a fight. Be realistic.

Get an attorney, document your wife's plight and sue the pants off them. You'd have one hell of a case based on what you've said to date.

I wish you and your wife the best of luck and outcomes in this situation, know that. Her mental health, anyone who is involved mental health is what should be first priority, and you need to address that and deal with the situation accordingly. I'm sure your healthcare professionals are telling you the similar things. It's their jobs, listen to them and do as they say.

Depression kills. Know the illness you're dealing with and the statistics involved. There is no honor to be gained by ignoring the potential life threatening consequences of an illness. All that road leads to is loss, heartache and self loathing.