Got wife help. We have a friend here who is really helping both of us thru today--yesterday

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30. It may not be what you think it is.

I can only make a suggestion here. A person's reactions to various situations depends on their state of mind, expectations and other variables, of course.

As has been said, some therapy might help her. The reason I say that is you both may be caught-up in the symbolic aspects of the situation. While it is easy to understand wanting to have pets and trying to convince other people and the Association to make a change, the reaction you are seeing is troubling.

Consider expanding your view on this and consider if the reactions she is having are representing symptoms of something that is deeper than the circumstances that are acting as a catalyst. You may both be so distracted by the situation that it is not easy to notice what really needs attention there and that could lead to a better outcome and some insight and more happiness for both of you, pet or no pet.

Glad you have a friend for support and who may be able to help you resolve that, but it is not bad or shameful to find a good professional therapist to help you both see into this matter. I don't mean someone who is just going to prescribe drugs, but a good insightful listener who has tools and techniques to help you find resolution to what is presenting itself by way of circumstances acting as a catalyst for what is being avoided or repressed.

Good luck.