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158. I assume so because in my experience it is that way.

Almost every time. Women are treated as property in our society, and have been for 1000s of years of history. There are almost inevitably patriarchal attitudes under phrasing like that.

This is where i say yes, we shouldn't assume anything about the person. So I don't. I won't judge the guy unless he provides some sort of comment or action to show that he thinks of women as property (those actions may be subtle, mind you). The guy is clearly in a hard spot, and probably lonely as hell. I have a lot of sympathy for him.

That said, I don't think it's wrong to assume that the words were sexist. Again, it's been thousands of years now that women have been considered property under a long, long rule by men. The effects of this patriarchy on our lives range from obvious to incredibly subtle. Whether this guy meant it that way or not, that language and phrasing do mean something. Words matter.

I don't assume the man is sexist; I assume his words are rooted in sexism. The distinction is critical, and looking at the responses to my post, I'd say I didn't make it clear enough. My apologies.