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63. There were a lot of us...

Wed Mar 4, 2015, 11:23 PM

Mar 2015

Not just siblings, but cousins too. We did all manner of unsafe things from the day we were born until... Unfortunately, until some were put in the ground, but definitely until we went our separate ways.

I see on facebook were people celebrate this unsafe upbringing (riding in the back of pickups for example) as 'the way things should be'.

My wife and I didn't let our kids run around like that. One of the reasons parents let their kids run around unsupervised (50's, 60's and 70's) was because moms were overwhelmed BECAUSE they had so many kids.

I once dove off the back of a baseball backstop (or whatever they're called) when I was in 3rd or 4th grade and my siblings left me unconscious in the park. One of my older brothers friends carried me home where my parents put me on a blanket where I lay unconscious until I came to.

I don't think there's such a thing as watching your kids too close. Even when they're finding their way, making their mistakes, perhaps you watch secretly and quietly, but you watch their back to make certain that they are safe. Not just kids either, we all should be keeping each other safe. Not by tattling to the 'agencies', but by offering to help.

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When my wife and I were kids this was normal now it is abuse? [View all] diabeticman Mar 2015 OP

We have, and it's not abuse in any way shape or form where I come from. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2015 #1

I walked just over a mile alone each day to reach my school. It was normal in the 50s & 60s. In_The_Wind Mar 2015 #2

Ya, me too, but the hazards along every mile are not the same. HereSince1628 Mar 2015 #10

Thanks google street view maps. I just looked at the house I lived in when I was 9. In_The_Wind Mar 2015 #31

It was normal in the '70s and '80s, too. HuckleB Mar 2015 #11

I have five year old and a nine year old. bravenak Mar 2015 #3

Funny there is not a murderer registry. nt Logical Mar 2015 #17

There should be. bravenak Mar 2015 #18

How about assault? DUI? Robbery? Burglary? Why not all of them? nt Logical Mar 2015 #19

Don't get all buck wild with me!!! I'm not the one. bravenak Mar 2015 #20

No murder registry but a sexual one is a joke. Murder is a little worse. nt Logical Mar 2015 #23

I like the sex offender registry being there. bravenak Mar 2015 #25

And in some states, someone can be put on the registry Mariana Mar 2015 #28

So true, misused a lot. nt Logical Mar 2015 #30

It's not a joke - let tell 840high Mar 2015 #52

It is a joke there is not a murderer registry. nt Logical Mar 2015 #54

Child sex offenders are often repeat offenders. KMOD Mar 2015 #68

Why? plantwomyn Mar 2015 #75

I still would like to know where they live! Nt Logical Mar 2015 #76

yep 840high Mar 2015 #82

Yet sex crimes have recitivism rates at the very bottom, compared to other felonies. X_Digger Mar 2015 #22

The man who raped me as a child died in prison after raping another child. bravenak Mar 2015 #24

Your admittedly horrible experience trumps actual data? Hrmm. X_Digger Mar 2015 #27

Living in a state with a high rate of sexual assault I'm doing the exact right thing. bravenak Mar 2015 #29

I raised 4 and never looked at the registry once. What state do you live in? nt Logical Mar 2015 #32

It's difficult to figure out Aerows Mar 2015 #37

The rape capital of America. bravenak Mar 2015 #46

It is exactly the right thing for you. I am also Ed Suspicious Mar 2015 #33

I'm with you and brave Aerows Mar 2015 #38

I'll ease up when they start listening to me. bravenak Mar 2015 #43

I stand with you, bravenak. I was sexually assaulted as a child. And I check the sex registries! Dont call me Shirley Mar 2015 #56

Thank you. I don't think it's weird at all to check the registries. bravenak Mar 2015 #60

+1. When the majority knows this, then a positive change in society can occur. Dont call me Shirley Mar 2015 #93

Ours flew the nest, without being wrapped in bubble wrap. X_Digger Mar 2015 #34

Did you live in the Rape capital of America? bravenak Mar 2015 #45

New Orleans, Knoxville, Tampa, Miami Beach, among others.. X_Digger Mar 2015 #47

Did you read about Alaska tho? bravenak Mar 2015 #48

And NOLA was (still is?) the murder capital. X_Digger Mar 2015 #49

But you think I'm overprotective? bravenak Mar 2015 #51

Wait, you assume I've read every post you've made in this thread? Lol. X_Digger Mar 2015 #53

Yes. I usually read every post on a subthread I respond to. bravenak Mar 2015 #55

Your kids, your call. But would you consider parents who made a different call "abusive"? Comrade Grumpy Mar 2015 #74

It depends. bravenak Mar 2015 #78

I am sorry. Really sorry. 840high Mar 2015 #79

It's ok. I think people think that only happens in books. Blinders. bravenak Mar 2015 #80

my wife is EXTREMELY overprotective of her son backwoodsbob Mar 2015 #84

That's different. He's grown. bravenak Mar 2015 #85

it's coming backwoodsbob Mar 2015 #88

Not your job to support grown men. At all. bravenak Mar 2015 #89

yep backwoodsbob Mar 2015 #90

I'm going to step right up to the plate Aerows Mar 2015 #36

So you think nothing a parent does can be too overprotective? Nothing? nt Logical Mar 2015 #39

I think if a parent is wary Aerows Mar 2015 #41

Thank you. bravenak Mar 2015 #40

Exactly Aerows Mar 2015 #44

This is clearly insane. Warpy Mar 2015 #4

+1000 nomorenomore08 Mar 2015 #77

Name the officials involved and try to get them fired. AngryAmish Mar 2015 #5

The article doesn't mention the route they walked. femmocrat Mar 2015 #6

Why don't you think they're safe any more? HuckleB Mar 2015 #8

Well, they are famous now. femmocrat Mar 2015 #12

And yet it's safer than it was 20, 30, 40 years ago. HuckleB Mar 2015 #14

We're becoming a very fearful society. HuckleB Mar 2015 #7

That is crazier than shit. hifiguy Mar 2015 #9

we would travel miles on our bikes at that age in the fifties spanone Mar 2015 #13

I can remember at age 10 riding my bike 6 miles along the gravel shoulder of a narrow county road tularetom Mar 2015 #15

My mother put me in my playpen teenagebambam Mar 2015 #16

I was a feral child, and I can't claim it was all good... hunter Mar 2015 #21

In Middle School in the 70's, I sometimes walked 6 miles to get home. Maedhros Mar 2015 #26

i went into the woods once by myself, got out of the area i knew following some imaginary trail, ND-Dem Mar 2015 #65

When I was a kid, we didn't see our mother from morning to night liberal N proud Mar 2015 #35

Something that is a mile away is not in my neighborhood but is in a nearby neigborhood Bluenorthwest Mar 2015 #42

i used to run all over the place MFM008 Mar 2015 #50

My sister and I ran all over the neighborhood cwydro Mar 2015 #57

So many kids don't even go outside today, though KMOD Mar 2015 #71

I know. cwydro Mar 2015 #92

There is a difference between abuse and neglect loyalsister Mar 2015 #58

when i was a kid we were out from dawn to dark, went all over the neighborhood, to the store, ND-Dem Mar 2015 #59

my brother & i were latch key kids a lot, if we did not go 3 doors away to grandparents. pansypoo53219 Mar 2015 #61

When I was in kindergarten in the mid-50's, SheilaT Mar 2015 #62

There were a lot of us... Blanks Mar 2015 #63

If You Want Free Range Kids, Go Live on the Range Upward Mar 2015 #64

When I was a kid, I would be gone all day on my bike. My friends and I would only come home to eat midnight Mar 2015 #66

It's absurd to believe that constitutes neglect Dyedinthewoolliberal Mar 2015 #67

sad part is, there are kids who are genuinely abused being neglected/ignored by CPS whereisjustice Mar 2015 #69

Ironically, crime rate in the US has been dropping for twenty years. progressoid Mar 2015 #70

I don't think we're getting 840high Mar 2015 #81

I live in Florida where people come for sun, sand, and sea. Criminals come too. 1monster Mar 2015 #72

Ridiculous overreach. KMOD Mar 2015 #73

Six is a bit young, but the 10 is OK taught_me_patience Mar 2015 #83

I have kids the same age abelenkpe Mar 2015 #86

I suffered the opposite. My parents were jailers. Manifestor_of_Light Mar 2015 #87

Kids who lived relatively close to our elementary school walked in the 60s and 70s. Yo_Mama Mar 2015 #91