I am doing online dating

[NikolaC]

28. I met my husband through online dating

I was a widow, with a 3 year old and a friend of mine suggested that I try online dating to get out there again. I tried several online services, including Match.com and Eharmony with no luck. I too found that there were a lot of men who were looking for a Halle Berry, or Cindy Crawford type, etc. Totally unrealistic. Personality, a good heart and a conscience were low on their list of likes. Yet, the guys who were looking for perfect women were not "perfect" themselves. It was very depressing.

I met my husband when I was about to give up on online dating. We chatted for a few weeks, met, were engaged a month after we met and married four months after we met (in Vegas, much to the chagrin of our families). I know it seemed crazy, but we just knew and have been married for ten years now. We even know of two other couples who met online and are still happily married. It takes time, weeding out of a lot of turds and is not for everyone. I and a few others that I know got lucky, but that does not mean that online dating is for you necessarily.

I suggest trying a couple of different sites, if you are able to afford it, and giving them a month. If it still doesn't work out, then don't feel discouraged. There are a lot of other ways to meet someone. I have friends who met their spouses at work, hobby clubs and church. IMO, there is no one completely perfect way to meet someone.

BTW, I love the way that you handled that guy. I wish that I had been so creative with the rejections that I got at the time. Good luck with your search. I hope that it works out for you.