I am doing online dating

[Jamastiene]

107. Men don't have to even shave.

Women don't shave, we are considered uncouth. Men don't shave, they get to name their hairy areas of their bodies. Women are less than. It is the message that is reiterated from the day we are born until the day we die. Men don't have to wear makeup, no matter how ugly they are. Men don't have to wear nice clothes. They don't even have to fucking bathe down here in the south, and believe me, you haven't smelled BO until you have smelled it mixed with deer piss, catfish chum, tobacco spit, and spilled beer. And I'm supposed to voluntarily sleep with those men until I magically "become straight?" I don't think so.

Uhm, that's just the way it is. Men can be as nasty and unkempt as they want to be and still pick and choose only the youngest skinniest women they want. Women have to take what we can get AND even though we are the better looking of the species WITHOUT the fucking makeup, we are expected to layer it on like we are baking a fucking 10 layer cake, THEN, make it look like we aren't wearing any.

I hate to have to be the first one to flat out say it, but those types of men are pigs and they see women as arm candy, just something to brag to their REAL true loves, their "bros," as in "bros before hos." They say it all the time.

Being a lesbian, I have been subjected to a lot from the worst males of the species. I know how they talk when women aren't around. It's not pretty. They love their male friends and their dogs more than they love their wives OR their women on the side. But, they are not gay. They just hate women. Gay men just love men and don't hate women. See the difference?

Example, when I was first out of high school, my first boss kept telling me there was something wrong with me because I didn't get all hot and bothered every time a George Michael video came on. When I tried to explain to her that I was gay and that wasn't ever going to happen, she told me he could "straighten" me out if I forced myself to go nab him and try to sleep with him. You get where I am going yet?

Straight men like the one you mentioned hate women and love their male friends. They only sleep with and/or marry women so they can brag to their friends and get their male friends' approval. Gay men don't hate women and love their male boyfriends and husbands. Gay females love women but don't hate men even though some men do try their damnedest to make us hate all men. No, some of us just hate the "bros before hos" types. Others lesbians don't hate them, but I do.

And the point to my story about my boss. She thought a gay woman, me, should go try to have sex with a gay man, George Michael, (who she did not even know was gay at the time, to "straighten" me out. I always knew he was probably most likely gay, but she really did not. She wanted him to throw her against the wall and all kinds of dreamy school girl crush stuff that almost, ALMOST, made me feel sorry for her. I humored her so I could laugh at her dumb redneck bigoted ass with my friends who knew he was gay,

So, you handled that right. I would suggest telling the next one to give his best male buddy a big sloppy wet kiss for you, but I don't want to see you get kicked off the dating site. Chances are, he can tell you that you are trash because he can see you when you turn sideways and make 9 year old boy faces at your age, but women have to just put up with an infinite amount of shit just to survive in this world and hear insults from losers like that along the way. What's so bad about it is that even those of us who are lesbians and not the least bit interested in men have to hear that bullshit from those types too, because they have always been in charge and probably always will be in charge.