I am doing online dating

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120. speaking of double standards though

I like for people to be kind to each other. It seems like a double standard to me to have the attitude "he said something mean" and to then feel like that justifies any sort of mean-ness to him.

Bullies ALWAYS think that the person they are picking on - DESERVES it.

That doesn't look very misogynistic to me. In my own experience with online dating, since I am looking for younger women, I see very few of them who are looking for very much older men. Most of them seemed to cap their preference at about 3 years older than themself, if memory serves. If this guy is 53, like myself, is it somehow misogynistic for him to not be interested in women older than 59? I did not see anything stating how old he is.

And so what about his double standard? Suppose I liked large women? And suppose I was contacted by a large woman who was interested in me and her profile said "I am not interested in fat men". Why should I care about that? In fact, that seems to make a good fit, since apparently, in spite of her own girth, she likes skinny guys. That makes me a good match for her interests. Am I supposed to be all offended about the fat men that she is rejecting? Is she supposed to be offended about all the skinny girls I am rejecting in spite of my own skinniness?

Or is it okay for me to reject large women because I am skinny myself? I don't exactly have washboard abs.

Seems to me if you want to find a reason to hate somebody you always can - if that makes you feel good somehow.