I am doing online dating

[Puglover]

139. Hang in there.

After my "divorce" at 40 I went to the gym and got into tip top shape. Being a gay man 40 is perilously close to being pretty much done. When in my 20's I never screwed around. Probably why I am still alive but I wanted to just have some NSA anonymous sex. So armed with my six pack and a resolve to just play around and not look for a husband I hit the computer and phone hookup lines.

For about a year I had fun and then it just got boring. I did learn one thing. Most (not all) people know within 2 seconds of laying eyes on someone whether or not they would be interested in dating them. Especially in the online/phone dating game. I realize my knowledge is mostly male based (being gay) but most women I have asked about this agree.

In 1997 I was feeling frisky and got on the phone line one night and arranged a meet up at local coffee shop for some afternoon delight. I showed up and sitting there was one of the best looking men I have ever laid eyes on. I thought, "Yeah that's why I got out of bed this morning, to have someone look at their watch, make up a fake appointment and run the hell away."

We talked, walked around the lake, went out for dinner. Imagine the cartoon sound of brakes screeching on my "NSA hookup" and it turning into a date.

We got married 1/9/15 after living together since 1999.

I got rejected a thousand times. I did my share of rejecting. Hopefully kindly although it simply isn't fun to have someone tell you, "Sorry you don't do it for me."

And although I agree with the sentiment that "men are pigs" this pig has never once strayed from our monogamous relationship. All I had to imagine when tempted was the thought of losing what we have. And thankfully the pig in me listened.

When I look at him he still takes my breath away. Not so much for the good looks (still there) but for the miracle that is my love and husband.

Any dating isn't for the faint of heart. It's tough out there.

Good luck.