I am doing online dating

[hfojvt]

168. it's really hard to say never, and no one

I certainly do not have the experience of ALL men at all times.

When you say "I was pressured" - by whom? Your friends? Your family? The guys who wanted to have sex with you?

I am pretty sure women are not required to have sex with anyone, although they may be encouraged to do so by friends or co-workers or relatives. My brother advised me to have sex with a woman who was pursuing me, even though I was kinda not attracted to her (kinda, because my body wanted to have sex with her, but my mind did not).

How do you know what people are assuming? Did they assume you wanted them, or did they just hope you would?

And how do you know what they thought? You say "they were entitled". I don't see any proof of that. They threw guilt at you? That does not prove any sense of entitlement. That is a technique they were using - to try to get what they wanted. There is something they want and they are trying their darnedest to get it. That has nothing to do with entitlement, only desire.

I don't know why entitlement needs to be assumed, and I do not know how to explain it - it is what they want, and not what they think they deserve.

And this line "to only have sex with those you want to have sex with" is just absurd. Those guys, probably want to have sex with Cheryl Tiegs or Princess Diana, but they know that is not gonna happen. They are settling for who is available. The great thing for men, many men, is that they want to have sex with any woman they can get. They want somebody.

Me, I am sort of an odd duck in that regard. If I started talking to you in a bar, I would not be after sex. Not that I might not take it, if it was offered. I would be thinking - conversation now, future dates and phone calls, and IF things go well, then sex (and marriage) somewhere down the road.