Do you ever notice that often white folks who are most skeptical of minority accounts of racism

[salin]

172. I don't participate here, as much as I once did.

To a great extent that is because my professional life started taking more time (60+hrs), which meant my personal time was divided into smaller parts. When I was most active here, there were at first under 10k posters which grew to 50k posters.

As a smaller community than we have today, it was easier to distill personal posting style - from message. This is much harder to do as the on-line community has grown so large.

I also have spent years working with adolescents. Moody as heck. Have to, in the moment, discern message from delivery. Including working to not attribute motive (as I have learned assumed motive is not always correct when you listen to the message beyond the delivery - as teens are often capricious in their beliefs). But the core idea can be really significant.

I try to read for that, rather than reading defensively. It doesn't always work - but it for me, it works way better than gut level dismissiveness.