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underahedgerow
(1,232 posts)those seemingly insignificant things...
Age, well, too old, in a zimmer frame? Great for friendship, sure. Will he be as fun and active as I am? Probably not, but some of my very favorite and dear friends are actually extremely old. Lovely to stroll the gardens and get drunk with, but not much else.
Too young? Well, in fact, younger men want younger women. I am STRONGLY suspect of younger men who have this whole cougar fetish. It's just wierd and too far out there for me. 'Young for mature' is the phrase I see. It just grosses me out. That being said, older men want younger women too! Most of the ads I see are from guys average age 60+ looking for women under 50.
Height, well, anthropologically speaking, taller men are more successful hence more instantly attractive. That being said, my exceptionally wealthy best friend George is shorter than me. And he's an asshole, but gawd I love him. He's one of the guys who's not quite divorced and still living with his wife, but she lets him have girlfriends. He forgot to tell me this when we first met. Now it's wonderful to torture him about.
Salary... well I make a good living and enjoy a very, very nice lifestyle. Do I want to support a man? Uh, no. A man that has a good income often enjoys a very nice lifestyle as well (if he's not an arms dealer or drug runner). He's worked hard, is usually entrepreneurial, hence a bit more intelligent... Why is this a bad thing? Granted, my lifestyle is in that horrifyingly awful, dreaded .001%, and I make no apologies. I enjoy nice things, but in reality live a very simple life. I found a line of work that lets me enjoy that lifestyle without having to finance it. I get to spend other people's money for them, redecorating and managing their fine homes around the world. It's a bit like being in a museum... I get to enjoy all the benefits of the beauty and the art, hence the lifestyle without splashing out for it.
We didn't mention overweight men, did we? I think that being overweight indicates esteem and self image issues, which means psychological issues. A person who takes pride in their appearance, makes an effort to stay slim and healthy, doesn't wander around in tee shirts, sweat pants, cargo shorts and jeans, indicates a (relatively) mentally healthy person. I like to dress nicely and expect my partner to also. It's all about making an effort about one's personal appearance. Nicely dressed on the outside, a well kept home, good organization, it's all indicative of a mentally healthy person.
So which should I choose to check out first? The guy with the Aston Martin or the guy with the 2001 Subaru? 
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