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TheMastersNemesis

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Mon Mar 23, 2015, 03:00 PM Mar 2015

On Rather Being Dead Than Disabled. My Response To The Post By Kama Aina. [View all]

I need to make a separate response to the post that Kama Aina made by the jerk who said they would rather be dead than disabled. They need to be in a situation where they face a decision about being dead or disabled. I remember so many academic philosophical arguments about what a person would do under such a circumstance. No one can know what you would do if you were faced with a life decision that is truly drastic.

I can really sympathize with Kama Aina on disability because I faced a really terrible decision on March 7, 2014. I had become infected with staph in my left foot. Partly because I did not fully understand my predicament soon enough I was told on March 6, 2014 that my left foot could NOT be saved from a raging staph infection. I was also septic as well. It did not take as much as heartbeat for me to decide my foot would have to be given up. The alternative was that I would not be around much longer unless I agreed to amputation. I could have never imagined ever being faced with such a decision in all those ACADEMIC arguments I remember from my you in philosophy classes.

To add insult to injury my right leg was infected as well. And when I woke up after surgery my left foot was not only gone as well as half my lower leg. What was even worse was that the left side of my right calf had a huge wound 6 inches long, 1 1/2 inches deep and 1 inch wide cut out of it. You could see the almost to the bone. And I was hooked up to a wound vacuums. And when they did the first wound change I thought my right leg was being sawed off without medication.

Go another month down the road and my right knee had to be flushed because I still had infection. And eventually I ended up with two separate pic lines and total of 53 days of antibiotics. I was one big mess and barely mobile for 3 months. And it took 9 months to heal good enough to start on a prosthetic.

I spent most of a year in a wheel chair. I also went on a trip to California for a week in a wheel chair. That adventure was quite a challenge. And I recently returned from Honolulu in using a wheel chair most of the time because my new legs was not yet fitting right.

Now I would not want to go through such a horrific medical event again. However being alive is still worth all the pain and suffering actually even though I was far from my previous fully functional self. I am on my way back and my prosthesis is getting better. You do not just get a new leg and start walking immediately. It is a difficult trial and error process.

Having said all of this I have met others who face a much more difficult challenges than I. And I have met a lot of people who value living enough to work through much more challenging disabilities than I.

A person might believe they would rather be dead a than disabled. How terribly short sighted. And may they NEVER face being disabled.

I CAN GUARANTEE ANYONE ONE THING. WHEN YOU FACE TERRIBLE DECISIONS THAT OTHERS MUST MAKE BEING DISABLED OR DEAD, IN MANY CASES A PERSON WILL CHOOSE MUCH MORE DISABILITY THAN THEY COULD EVER IMAGINE BEFORE THEY GIVE UP ON LIVING.

Then again look at Mr. Hawking.

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I have the impression that the suggestion of "death over disability" was a little insulting for you. sibelian Mar 2015 #1
None of us would WANT to go through that--but we would pinboy3niner Mar 2015 #2
Thank you. lovemydog Mar 2015 #10
I don't think that we can just make one size fits all here. There are so many types of disabilities. jwirr Mar 2015 #3
Agreed, but didn't see the thread with Kama Aina. While the spark of life remains, we won't let go. freshwest Mar 2015 #4
Here you go. KamaAina Mar 2015 #5
Very nice piece,very well written. Its amazing what we can do when it comes to it. As you well know. marble falls Mar 2015 #6
My friend chose suicide ErikJ Mar 2015 #7
I wouldn't even begin to judge someone for doing that tblue Mar 2015 #17
Thank you for sharing swilton Mar 2015 #8
The problem is that the OP in question was really about assisted suicide, not living with disability pnwmom Mar 2015 #9
The astute reader will note that I left out the part about assisted suicide KamaAina Mar 2015 #16
Haven't read all of the posts. tblue Mar 2015 #18
But when people click on the article, as many will, they will discover it's really about something pnwmom Mar 2015 #19
We've beaten the assisted suicide horse to death around here KamaAina Mar 2015 #20
So, are you saying that the community's opposition to PAS pnwmom Mar 2015 #21
Both. KamaAina Mar 2015 #22
I think their reaction is understandable, but doesn't justify general opposition to PAS. pnwmom Mar 2015 #23
Kicked and recommended a whole bunch! Enthusiast Mar 2015 #11
I chose disability too - but I still support assisted suicide whatthehey Mar 2015 #12
My thoughts are with you treestar Mar 2015 #13
These events can be life shattering- KrazyinKS Mar 2015 #14
Such a worthwhile posts. democrank Mar 2015 #15
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