I am doing online dating

[Divernan]

201. Then you have the "Looking for Nurse With A Purse" old guys.

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That's the descriptive phrase I learned from a female, recently divorced cousin. She's in her mid-60's, in good health and physical shape, attractive & happens to look at least 10 years younger than her biological age. She finally got out of a long dead marriage to a very emotionally cold guy when she inherited a bundle from both her parents and a childless, wealthy aunt.

She's joined some in-person, live singles groups (not on-line), and in talking with other widowed/divorced women in those groups came across the "looking for a nurse with a purse" descriptive term. She has been the target of the aging male equivalent of the iconic female gold-digger.

I've witnessed a couple of horror stories for both men and women who have married (way too quickly) a partner they met on line. They'd have been wise to invest in a private investigator to check out financial and criminal histories. When it comes to both profiles and email communications, there's a whole lotta lying going on. People who are lonely are not very objective and are vulnerable to getting conned. If I were you, I'd look for someone who already has a fulfilling life - which means healthy relationships with their own families & a circle of friends with whom they share interests. (And I mean healthy interests - not spending their evenings at the local bar with other regulars.) And if that doesn't describe you as well, I suggest focusing primarily on finding activities you enjoy and friends who share your interests.

I think your response was good. Heard a funny line on a tv sitcom to the effect that men look at mirrors as often as women, but men are always delighted with what they see. If people had to write really honest profiles, it would be a hoot. One sleazoid at a yacht club I belonged to was known for hitting on any single women he spotted, and lying like mad about himself. Several of us female members had fun one afternoon writing up a true dating profile for him - divorced, alcoholic, sexist, racist, near-bankruptcy, chronically unfaithful, balding, pot-bellied, lives-on-his-boat, drives-a-20-year-old-junker, conservative in search of wealthy woman to pick up his bar tabs, fall for his lies and service him sexually.

Good luck to you in finding a good partner. Just be careful - as per the theme song of the Monk series, it's a jungle out there!