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13. There is an explanation for that.

John Bradshaw came up with it 20 some years ago.
He basically said that there are 4 types of families which produce the most dysfunctional people.
2 types are "repressed families"
fundamental religious,
and military families ( not ALL, but "majority&quot ...think The Great Santini
Where external unyielding rules are applied

2 types are "chaotic":
families where a parent has a serious mental illness ( think manic depressive)
families of active addicts/alcoholics.
where chaotic, unpredictable erratic behaviors are the norm

Essentially they are families where emotional needs conflict with external beliefs.
Thus you get the over the top reaction to gays from the repressed people, etc.

I saw those patterns over and over again with my clients.