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In reply to the discussion: OMG I'm going to be thrown into the street! [View all]pipi_k
(21,020 posts)I know from her other OP on this from February that she was doing just great there for 9 years until all of a sudden last year the landlord just refused to fix things.
That's when things started going downhill.
So in March of last year she wasn't in crisis.
Nor April. Nor May.
Nor June, July, August, etc.
Plenty of time to assess the situation and, without being under pressure or in crisis, to come up with a Plan B.
Did that happen? No. Or it sure doesn't sound like it anyway.
Instead of contacting DUers about that situation (whereupon she would get some very good advice about documenting living conditions, withholding rent and putting into escrow or whatever else is legal in her state), she waits till the last minute and is suddenly in crisis.
Once...OK.
But twice???
This situation did NOT come on overnight.
People are giving some goddamn good advice in other parts of this thread and it looks like most of it other than collecting cash from DUers is getting pooh-poohed.
"Here, do this"
"Oh I can't do that because....blah blah blah"
"OK then, here's a suggestion"
"No, that won't work because...blah blah blah"
How many times does someone have to "be in crisis" before people get tired of being enablers? Enablers think they're being so damned noble but they're not. They're merely making it possible for someone to stay stuck in the same dysfunctional behavior patterns.