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uppityperson

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44. Not my story, but stories

Thu Apr 2, 2015, 03:36 PM

Apr 2015

A friend had her 4th abortion in 2 years because oral contraceptives were not right for her, condoms failed and she was not ready to take on parenthood. It was for her an easy decision. She later decided it was time, now has a teenager.

An acquaintance was happily pregnant with twins and heartbreakingly miscarried one. She got an abortion rather than waiting for the inevitable, for the second to also die and be passed. It was for her a heartbreaking decision. The couple conceived again quickly, now are grandparents.

A friend got pregnant and rather than getting a divorce got an abortion. It was for her a complicated decision. She has no children.

A 45 yr old acquaintance was pregnant and rather than risking genetic issues and dedicating her next 20 years to raising another child, got an abortion. For her it was an easy though also complicated decision without regrets.

There is no "right way" to feel or be but many different ways.

No judgements.

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My abortion story [View all] pnwmom Apr 2015 OP

We must never let them repeal Roe V Wade... NYC_SKP Apr 2015 #1

AND we need to find more alternatives. MORE ways to provide access to abortion. Because calimary Apr 2015 #37

I remember that offshore save haven clinic. We also need funds/transportation. NYC_SKP Apr 2015 #41

+1000. n/t pnwmom Apr 2015 #47

Great post ismnotwasm Apr 2015 #2

My story gwheezie Apr 2015 #3

Thank you, gwheezie, for sharing this. pnwmom Apr 2015 #5

. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #30

So glad you got out. And lived to tell. calimary Apr 2015 #42

Testify Hekate Apr 2015 #4

My story qwlauren35 Apr 2015 #6

I hear you. Skidmore Apr 2015 #7

Thank you, qwlauren35. pnwmom Apr 2015 #8

I'm not religious ismnotwasm Apr 2015 #15

I've been reading the stories on this thread. Skidmore Apr 2015 #9

Thank you for your perspective on this, Skidmore! pnwmom Apr 2015 #11

I am so glad that your friend had a choice. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #10

Thank you, PeaceNikki. I think the more we share our stories, pnwmom Apr 2015 #12

Thank you for this thread. Abortion is a moral and positive choice that liberates women, saves lives PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #16

Almost 1 in 3. Wow. I didn't know that. Thanks for the info, PeaceNikki. n/t pnwmom Apr 2015 #22

I understand gwheezie Apr 2015 #13

Exactly. I will never even respect anyone who wants to restrict women's reproductive rights. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #17

Peace and strength to all women faced with difficult decisions KMOD Apr 2015 #14

I will be on the line, shoulder to shoulder with you, PeaceNikki. lark Apr 2015 #26

I've heard it here on DU: "We don't have to *pretend* abortion is a good thing". PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #53

Thank you for sharing the story of your courage. qwlauren35 Apr 2015 #32

Thank you for sharing, pnwmom. City Lights Apr 2015 #18

Just keep being the good friend you are.. fadedrose Apr 2015 #19

I had an abortion before Roe v. Wade wryter2000 Apr 2015 #20

Well, I do think that sounds hard -- way too hard, and quite a lot for a 17 year old to handle. pnwmom Apr 2015 #23

we need to stop saying "it is always a gut wrenching decision". sometimes it is a no-brainer. mopinko Apr 2015 #21

Exactly. We need to stop insisting that they be 'rare', but demanding they be safe and accessible. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #24

We need to maintain quick access to the morning after pill. lark Apr 2015 #28

I agree. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #29

Good points. You'd think that would be something everyone could agree on -- pnwmom Apr 2015 #33

Because abortions aren't really the root issue. lark Apr 2015 #49

passing that little packet of dna on to the next generation is our most basic function. mopinko Apr 2015 #54

You are right -- every woman's situation is unique. pnwmom Apr 2015 #25

you are right. the stories really matter. mopinko Apr 2015 #39

Word! libodem Apr 2015 #34

+100000. I realized at some point I had to stop trying to protect the feelings of pro-birthers.... Hekate Apr 2015 #43

"it's the grandmothers who carry memories of what went before." pnwmom Apr 2015 #48

Not my story, but stories uppityperson Apr 2015 #44

I wonder if they normally check for pregnancy when women commit suicide? ErikJ Apr 2015 #27

if there was an autopsy it would be found. mopinko Apr 2015 #38

As the comic old folk song put it: "the coroner's 'quest was hard with me, because I'd acted frailly... Hekate Apr 2015 #50

I am a very firm believer in it is the woman's decision, hers alone, others should not make Thinkingabout Apr 2015 #31

My story came from my late father-in-law. He was an internal-medicine MD. calimary Apr 2015 #35

Your father-in-law was a wonderful man, and clearly lucky pnwmom Apr 2015 #45

He sounds like an amazing man. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #52

My story is a little different than the younger women who have written here. I was divorced 2 jwirr Apr 2015 #36

Thank you for sharing this with us now. Roe vs. Wade is vital and all our stories pnwmom Apr 2015 #46

not an unusual story, tho. mopinko Apr 2015 #56

And I would imagine that today with the economy not working for many of us it is even more common. jwirr Apr 2015 #58

yeah, cuz the 1% is so prolife. mopinko Apr 2015 #59

We are still one of the most backwards countries - erronis Apr 2015 #40

I unconditionally support choice. yallerdawg Apr 2015 #51

i've appreciated reading all of these stories fizzgig Apr 2015 #55

a story of a friend of mine. mopinko Apr 2015 #57