Dear Adoptive Parents: The Burden of Adoptee Loyalty

[SomethingFishy]

6. WTF?

"She will be loyal to you above all else because this is what you have taught her is most important to you. By both your spoken and unspoken cues. Because she realizes deep down, at a subconscious, instinctive level that what matters to you most is that this adoption work out the way you want to work out--that you are desperate to see this adoption be what you always dreamed it would be: That happy ending of a doting, grateful, happy child eager to sing your praises, eager to thank Almighty Adoption and Almighty Adoptive Parents for giving her such a wonderful life."

You think that's why I adopted my son? So I could brag about what great parent I am and so he could sing my praises?

Frankly all I got out of this useless and insulting "article" is that adoptive parents are all narcissistic and selfish.

I don't know you or your parents but if this is how you were treated, that your parents thoughts were more important than your own, then I'm sorry that happened to you. But if you think that this is generally how adoptive parents think, I can tell you you are wrong in at least one instance, and probably a lot more.