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12. Thanks for the link to a passionate, thought-provoking essay.

Reply to me b zola (Original post)

Sat Apr 4, 2015, 10:16 PM

Apr 2015

All children need to be validated, and this is a special challenge in families created by adoption.

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Dear Adoptive Parents: The Burden of Adoptee Loyalty [View all] me b zola Apr 2015 OP

Every child handles adoption differently TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #1

I doubt non adoptive children feel much different Egnever Apr 2015 #2

Well, you just summed it up... me b zola Apr 2015 #3

Upset me? Egnever Apr 2015 #4

Pretending that adoptee issues are no different from non-adoptees is harmful me b zola Apr 2015 #16

Unfortunately, some adoptees have inherited TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #25

^^^Your second paragraph^^^ Hekate Apr 2015 #35

interesting, thx for posting Mosby Apr 2015 #5

WTF? SomethingFishy Apr 2015 #6

Please do not insult my adoptive parents, they have done nothing to you me b zola Apr 2015 #7

Step back and pretend that it's not about the parents' egos. Gormy Cuss Apr 2015 #8

It's Possible RobinA Apr 2015 #43

I think the article is written from a painful perspective Gormy Cuss Apr 2015 #44

Happy to hear that you would never adopt me b zola Apr 2015 #52

My adopted kids are still teens TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #24

Far from a universal truth Somethingtosay Apr 2015 #9

I heart fairy tales me b zola Apr 2015 #10

I respect your experience Somethingtosay Apr 2015 #11

I feel special that your first post to DU was to my thread me b zola Apr 2015 #13

Oy Somethingtosay Apr 2015 #15

Welcome to DU. NOLALady Apr 2015 #27

23&me Somethingtosay Apr 2015 #29

Welcome to DU. Sincerely. Nuclear Unicorn Apr 2015 #31

Welcome to DU. I hope to see you around. Hekate Apr 2015 #36

Welcome to DU! Adrahil Apr 2015 #42

But couldn't self-selection be at work here? The adoptees who come to meetings pnwmom Apr 2015 #20

These were the bullies as I grew up, these fucking stooges me b zola Apr 2015 #21

What happened to you was evil. No child is an "it." And no child should ever pnwmom Apr 2015 #22

Your grandmother was hateful because she was Irish? Mariana Apr 2015 #30

yeah, that what I said me b zola Apr 2015 #32

This message was self-deleted by its author Hekate Apr 2015 #38

You carry around a lot of pain. TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #26

Welcome to DU, Somethingtosay! n/t pnwmom Apr 2015 #19

Thanks for the link to a passionate, thought-provoking essay. pnwmom Apr 2015 #12

Thank you for being a consistent voice for adoptees me b zola Apr 2015 #14

this article is too stupid to comment on. Invented syndrome. kwassa Apr 2015 #17

Please don't adopt...or if u do make sure its a puppy me b zola Apr 2015 #18

This sort of mean-spiritedness--not discussion of adoptee issues-- Heidi Apr 2015 #46

The views expressed in the article are FAR from universal, Heidi Apr 2015 #23

Honest to God, posting about adoptee issues is like an episode of Bill Mahers republican in a bubble me b zola Apr 2015 #28

I agree with you on many issues TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #37

Thank you for that very kind, experienced and reasoned post! Heidi Apr 2015 #47

Thank you. :) TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #48

Oh my, your hatred is showing me b zola Apr 2015 #51

I read and understood the article. Heidi Apr 2015 #53

she is describing her experience and projecting it onto every adoptee cali Apr 2015 #40

+ a whole bunch cali Apr 2015 #41

So, I guess being in foster care is far better for abandoned kids AnnieBW Apr 2015 #33

Apparently posting from an adoptee POV is the ultimate Rorschach test me b zola Apr 2015 #34

generalizing, particularly to this extent is pretty fucked up cali Apr 2015 #39

And daring to confront such a sweeping generalization Heidi Apr 2015 #45

"Loathsome" me b zola Apr 2015 #50

I am adopted and I think this article is right for some and wrong for others el_bryanto Apr 2015 #49