The sexual objectification of little girls

[Dorian Gray]

34. I had a lot of the same issues

with my mom growing up. Looks were important to her, and she raised me in much the same way your mom did you. I also gained a lot of weight in my adulthood, also as a big FU to her. I have lost most of my excess weight (though after having a baby last year, I need to drop about 15 - 20 lbs to get back to where I was before the baby... Um... yeah, it's not happening so easily. Andd you know what? I don't really care. My baby is more important to me than the lbs, so if I don't work hard enough at it, so what?

I think it's so important loving who you are no matter what. And weighing more or less doesn't change your essence. So embrace you, and you and your weight will do whatever you do. It does not make you a bad person. And if your mom treats you terribly because of it, that's her issue. If she's anything like mine, things won't change much once you lose weight.

Despite having lost 100 lbs before I was pregnant, my mom still criticized everything I ate. At a lunch, she removed a bread basket from me (Even though I had lost 100 lbs and was newly pregnant) because she was worried about the carbs I was eating. I had one piece. A lot of the fascination with diet is about control and their issues. It doesn't really get much better, even if you are at an "acceptable" weight. I am now in the high end of the proper weight range for me, and I feel fine. My mom still criticizes my food choices, though. Can't wait to see what happens if I dare use butter on a piece of bread at Christmas. LOL.

My husband, however, is supportive, and I feel like I've gotten way beyond those issues.