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In reply to the discussion: OMG I'm going to be thrown into the street! [View all]JTFrog
(14,274 posts)You are a very wise and compassionate person.
During the nuclear crisis in Japan, I tried to get my brother to come back to the states. He's been living in Japan for over 30 years. He didn't have the money to come back and it was gonna take an additional three or four thousand dollars to get his dog back here with him. So he wouldn't leave. He was facing a nuclear meltdown and he wouldn't leave his dog.
People are complex. I don't find anything unbelievable about what TTW is going through. I am sad about the things being said in this thread. I can understand people being upset at not getting a thank you for helping. But is that why they were helping? So they could get a pat on the back? Do you know how many times I've given money to a stranger knowing that I'll probably never see that person again and have no idea how the person will spend that money? If you are going to give conditionally...let the person know your expectations up front. Maybe that would make it easier for all involved.
I really hope that your situation works out. I guess the reason this all upsets me so much is that I have been there. I had relatives that treated me the way TTW got treated in this thread and it just really brought back a lot of that pain. I was very young. I had a baby. My mother had just died. I didn't have a drug addiction. I wasn't mentally ill. But I was homeless for nine months and lived in my car. That was a million years ago and I'm way past that now. I am so glad that the internet didn't exist back then. I had a hard enough time asking anyone for help to begin with. And I still do.
I don't have any answers here. All I know is that some folks made it seem like they went out of their way to get information on TTW and spread it around in private messages and started making all kinds of public accusations. To me, that just seemed like cruelty stacked on top of cruelty.
I'm sorry for being so hard on those people. I'm sure in their own way they believe they are doing the right thing. It just makes me incredibly sad.