Marriage tips from a rapist, on ABC

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46. Does it excuse beating a woman if she marries him? It's ok then?

After all, she consented to marrying him, right? She could have just left. She could have not married him. I guess she must be ok with the abuse. She can't be unwilling since she's married to him. Just as in abusive relationships, on some level there probably is some degree of "love", but that doesn't excuse the abuse in any way. This isn't a perfectly analogous situation, but it's not that far off.

Mary Kay Letourneau Fualaau is a predator. She preyed upon someone very vulnerable. We have no idea what happened in Mr. Fualaau's past or his mental health. I suspect that there is some serious vulnerability, however, due to existing mental illness and or trauma. And that's what predators do. They carefully choose their targets and then they begin to groom them. It's is a very systematic and very disturbing process. She began grooming him at 8 (!!!), I think another poster mentioned. From the few details available here, it certainly seems to me that this is the case with Mary Kay Letourneau Fualaau.

I think this predatory aspect is much easier for people to see when it is an older man preying upon a young girl. For some reason it gets all twisted up when it's a woman preying upon a boy.