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In reply to the discussion: Marriage tips from a rapist, on ABC [View all]Egnever
(21,506 posts)it does not make it consent I agree but does it make it rape? I think that diminishes rape.
As a former 13 year old boy had I been in his shoes and had sex with a teacher I found attractive would I look back on it now as horrifying or rape? Would I look back on it fondly? Would I be ashamed? I am just not sure how I would feel about it but I am pretty sure I wouldn't feel like I had been raped. I am also pretty sure I would not have wanted that teacher to be called a rapist.
Now had I been forced somehow by threats of failure or parent phone calls or whatever to have sex with a teacher I would feel much differently about it and would take the first opportunity to get away from that person. I would certainly look at that as rape now later in life. I would want that person to be labeled a rapist.
This doesn't seem to be the case here. In this one particular instance. He had 6 years while she was in prison with no contact allowed, plenty of time to get away from any influence she had over him and went straight back to her when she was released.
Because of what has transpired up to this point I think calling this woman a rapist diminishes the word and concept of a rapist.
I completely understand people disagreeing with that.