Marriage tips from a rapist, on ABC

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67. "Rape is a horrific crime that causes lifelong scars"

Completely agree with that.

Which is why in this instance I think you diminish the horror of rape by calling this woman a rapist. Just this woman and only because of how the relationship has endured despite what is clearly tremendous pressure from society for it to end. Also because I was a 12- 13 year old boy and I doubt I would have any lifelong scars from this. The media coverage and circus of it probably would have left a mark but the relationship itself I am pretty sure I would have been fine with. Most likely happy about.

Now had I been manipulated or forced by some pressure to have sex with a teacher I would feel completely differently. I would certainly have issues and I would certainly consider it rape. I also would not go out of my way to have contact with that person.

The battered wife however would. So I suppose that would still leave the question ....

6 years of no contact is a long time. I am not sure even a battered wife would hold on that long, maybe they would.

I am not sure. All I can do is look at my own feelings and relate them to myself and from what I can see this young man seems to love this relationship he has taken the actions I would in my mind have taken had this been a relationship that far from leaving lifelong scars left my happy and fulfilled.

Maybe he is the battered wife I have no way of knowing, I dont think so though and because of that I think calling this particular woman a rapist diminishes a word that absolutely should be taken very seriously.

I understand if you don't feel that way.