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In reply to the discussion: Marriage tips from a rapist, on ABC [View all]Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)This is why we have the phrase "statutory rape" -- it describes a particular subset of rape, where one person said "Yes" but was too young to give legally effective consent.
You write: "Rape to me is not something that ends this way {their marriage} and if we are going to label any sex we don't agree with rape I think you take a lot of the appropriate revulsion to rape away." This is certainly not a case of using "rape" to describe any sex we don't agree with. I don't agree with Woody Allen having sex with his son's sister but it wasn't rape. OTOH, if it meets the legal definition, then it is rape even if they later get married.
When it comes to the revulsion factor, I don't agree with the "rape is rape" meme if it's interpreted to mean ignoring all distinctions among rapes. One adult sleeps with a willing 14-year-old, another holds a knife to a 14-year-old's throat -- I don't have a problem with saying that revulsion is appropriate in both cases but that my revulsion is greater in the latter case.