I am about to become a caregiver again. [View all]

[sheshe2]

Last edited Mon Apr 13, 2015, 12:08 AM - Edit history (1)

It is not my profession or my full time job. It will soon become one, on top of the other one.

I joined here two and a half years ago, weeks before a family member nearly died in an accident. Actually they were dead when they were picked up by a med flight. It was months before they were released to our care. As a family we pulled together and signed on to days we could shuttle them to doctors. The good news they are fine now.

We, my sister and I tried the year before to take care of my dad at her home, Alzheimer. She worked part time. Forty hour work week for me then 30 hours taking care of dad. He use to bathe and feed me as a child and now here I was bathing him. The in home care ended after his bouts with suicidal tendencies then his stroke. More care than we could give him. He passed in November 2014 as did another family member, a younger one who had been diagnosed with cancer in December of 2013 and died a few days after my dad, on Thanksgiving Eve. We won one fight, lost 2 others.

Now it is my moms turn. Soon to be 89, long life, yet that doesn't make it any easier. Several ER trips in the past 2 weeks, one for a mini stroke. She needs surgery and I doubt she will survive it. She gets weaker. She has always been so vibrant.

I have been reading up on the stress, headaches and insomnia a caregiver goes through. Fits me to a tee, as it does any caregiver. Then there is the pain of the loss. There have been to many for us.

I have nieces and nephews and grand ones as well that I adore. Yet soon, my core family, it will soon be my sister and me.

I am so very tired.