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gwheezie

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33. as a woman who had an abortion, I

Sat Apr 25, 2015, 11:23 PM

Apr 2015

Would prefer to avoid getting pregnant. This was back in the day but it cost me almost 200bucks I didn't have and I lost a day of work and it was moderately painful and I didn't feel too good for a couple of days on the order of cramping. That being said I am so glad I actually was able to scrape the money together, I had several facilities to choose from a bus ride away and it was pretty quick and safe. I went in the morning. I was out by early afternoon in time to be home when my daughter got out of school. I can't imagine the nightmare women have to go through today to get a legal medical procedure. I just can't believe we have to go through this fight again.
Saying I would have preferred to avoid an unwanted pregnancy is in no way shaming. I was barely making ends meet and going to school. It cost money and I lost pay and couldn't afford to take off work the next day. I would have done it again and again if I had to. I felt no shame then or now.

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I think abortion is like a root canal. [View all] pnwmom Apr 2015 OP

That's one of the best, and least judgmental, analogies I think I've ever read. NYC_SKP Apr 2015 #1

It is a medical procedure. Downwinder Apr 2015 #2

Why would my post make you think I'd want a politician to make my medical decisions? pnwmom Apr 2015 #3

Dental is not covered by Medicare. Politicians decided. Downwinder Apr 2015 #13

I'm pro-abortion/root canal/triple bypass and every other fucking medical procedure. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #4

And I respect your choice. pnwmom Apr 2015 #8

You started this thread because you judged pro-abortion posters and found them wanting. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #23

The need for an abortion CAN be prevented, in most cases. Chemisse Apr 2015 #25

Are you pro-abortion? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #30

Ah, such a breath of fresh air! haikugal Apr 2015 #39

Thank you! beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #42

K & R good post. Thinkingabout Apr 2015 #5

This comparison to cardiac or dental procedures is crazy, IMHO. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #6

It's a moral judgment. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #7

And get edicated{sic} PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #9

I guess I should have been more edicated. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #12

And you shouldn't be. One in three women have an abortion by age 45. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #16

Exactly! n/t Chemisse Apr 2015 #28

So what's wrong with being pro-abortion? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #32

What's wrong with being pro-choice? pnwmom Apr 2015 #44

You said you don't feel "right" about being pro-abortion. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #47

That's not what I said. I said I am pro-choice. pnwmom Apr 2015 #62

How is what you feel about abortion different than how we feel? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #115

Absolutely nothing. What's wrong with admitting you're pro abortion? PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #52

Because I'd rather avoid an abortion, if possible. I'm not pro-root canal, either. That's just me. pnwmom Apr 2015 #56

We all would. What's wrong with being pro abortion? PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #59

Pro-abortion = anti-choice Chemisse Apr 2015 #63

What??? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #65

Isn't that what this term implies? Chemisse Apr 2015 #81

No. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #83

Holy crap, no! beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #87

What a crock of shit. Solly Mack Apr 2015 #67

We're promoting abortions, Solly. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #73

Maybe we should offer up KitchenAid� mixers for making fetus dip Solly Mack Apr 2015 #80

Fancy!! PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #85

Of course! Solly Mack Apr 2015 #91

That's a good idea, they'll go great with the Ginzu knives. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #92

Fuck it. Just grab an ice pick. Solly Mack Apr 2015 #95

LOL! There is some skill involved. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #99

Lol! Chemisse Apr 2015 #88

No, it doesn't. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #71

I don't think it's wrong that you are pro-abortion. pnwmom Apr 2015 #66

But you are pro abortion. You just think it's icky to say it. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #79

I think abortions, like root canals, are unpleasant, uncomfortable procedures pnwmom Apr 2015 #89

And you think we feel they're pleasant, comfortable procedures? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #110

Being pro-abortion is favoring abortion as an option. Chemisse Apr 2015 #58

There should be exactly as many abortions as are necessary. That could be more than there are. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #68

This makes good sense. Chemisse Apr 2015 #98

Are you fucking kidding me? We're promoting abortions? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #70

That is certainly what it sounds like. Chemisse Apr 2015 #94

Maybe I should find a new term? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #101

I don't see anyone doing that by being pro-abortion. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #78

That is what you mean. Chemisse Apr 2015 #103

I think you read only the title and not the content of the thread or linked article PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #107

Really? I didn't think about it at all. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #108

Now that is a mind-boggling enlightenment Apr 2015 #86

Exactly Warren Stupidity Apr 2015 #10

I'm not making a moral judgment about pro-abortion hussies beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #14

That's not true. I recognize that contraception can and does fail -- through no fault of the user -- pnwmom Apr 2015 #11

How many dentist offices are there per state right now? PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #21

I addressed that in the OP: pnwmom Apr 2015 #26

That's pro-abortion. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #37

Totes. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #40

If "pro-abortion" is the same as "pro-choice" then why is it so important for you to distinguish pnwmom Apr 2015 #43

Why is it so important to YOU, pnwmom? You started this thread. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #45

I'm not against your pro-abortion stance. But I'm more comfortable with a pro-choice position. pnwmom Apr 2015 #49

That's pro-abortion. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #54

We all think they "are better off avoided, if possible, " PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #55

Exactly. Does she think we really have an Abortion of the Month Club? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #61

I'm in one. You get a free one after the twelfth punch. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #69

Do I get to choose who to punch? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #74

SOL PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #77

Well maybe you do! LOL. Chemisse Apr 2015 #76

Edicate {sic} yourself. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #90

No, Jesus F Christ, it doesn't imply anything of the kind. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #97

Clearly I need to repeat myself. Chemisse Apr 2015 #100

There is *no* problem with the term. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #102

The whole discussion was about owning the issue, changing the narrative. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #48

I did read the article. Chemisse Apr 2015 #111

Sigh. Nope. Wow, you're jaded. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #117

I thought you were biased because of the label but now I realize I was wrong. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #122

I just had that realization as well. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #129

It took them a while to get there. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #130

On the plus side, I was the whiz on my high school debate team! PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #132

We learn so much about ourselves here. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #134

No, the procedures are completely comparable; that's why the different responses are irrational. Donald Ian Rankin Apr 2015 #139

I think you are saying the same thing. PowerToThePeople Apr 2015 #141

no one attempts to stop you from having a root canal cali Apr 2015 #15

Unless they decide that you don't really need one. Orrex Apr 2015 #19

And if you read my post I say that abortions should be just as available to anyone pnwmom Apr 2015 #20

That's pro-abortion. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #41

The term pro-abortion doesn't feel as if it fits me as well as pro-choice. pnwmom Apr 2015 #84

You still haven't explained the difference between how you feel and how we feel. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #104

That is a point I made in the OP, where I said that an abortion should be as freely pnwmom Apr 2015 #46

I recommend you change dentists. Solly Mack Apr 2015 #17

I wouldn't have to drive 150 miles for a root canal. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #18

Yup. And that's why I said abortions should be just as available, no matter pnwmom Apr 2015 #22

So... You're supportive of abortion? Dare I say, "pro" ? PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #24

Bingo. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #29

I'm pro-choice. Period. But I wouldn't want to go through an abortion pnwmom Apr 2015 #31

Which means you support abortion. And are pro-it. Yay! PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #34

How is that any different than what pro-abortion posters feel? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #35

People start threads all the time. For whatever reason. There are no rules. n/t pnwmom Apr 2015 #38

You said "Because that's the one that feels right to me." beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #50

I don't "need" to explain anything to you. pnwmom Apr 2015 #53

Why start a thread about the differences if you're not going to discuss them? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #57

^^this PowerToThePeople Apr 2015 #60

Yep. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #64

I can not speak for others PowerToThePeople Apr 2015 #72

It's very condescending. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #75

If that's the case they should just stay in the closet with the anti-abortion wingnuts. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #82

I saw that in another thread as well. Another poster. PowerToThePeople Apr 2015 #96

No way, it's appreciated. Thanks. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #105

You are welcome PowerToThePeople Apr 2015 #118

Oh, you're needed and wanted PTTP, very much. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #106

TY PowerToThePeople Apr 2015 #119

.. PowerToThePeople Apr 2015 #27

as a woman who had an abortion, I gwheezie Apr 2015 #33

And I feel lucky that I never found myself in that situation, pnwmom Apr 2015 #36

I think it's a good analogy. Chemisse Apr 2015 #51

Edicate {sic} yourself. You're so very wrong it's kinda sad. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #93

this person has a great point but you're again resorting to presumptuous, unfounded belittling n/t zazen Apr 2015 #114

What point? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #125

I'm still waiting to hear a logical response to this. Chemisse Apr 2015 #116

Like I said, you're jaded by right wing framing. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #121

Oh that is rich. Chemisse Apr 2015 #126

No, I did not call you right wing. Read it again. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #127

You know nothing about me. Chemisse Apr 2015 #135

Are you claiming that reasoned arguments were not presented to you? PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #136

How are we "trying to increase the numbers of abortions in this country"? beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #109

You're just stealing my idea to boost your own numbers! Solly Mack Apr 2015 #113

I'm driving a busload of gals to Vegas tonight. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #120

Damn. Wish I'd thought that! Solly Mack Apr 2015 #123

Just because there is a dentist on every corner PowerToThePeople Apr 2015 #131

Hey, PTTP beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #137

outstanding post! Kicked and recommended. PatrickforO Apr 2015 #112

Yes, use an IUD which can pierce the uterine wall and cause the need for a hysterectomy Lordquinton Apr 2015 #124

I have never "desired" a root canal. And I think they should be available to anyone who wants/needs pnwmom Apr 2015 #133

Thanks. I agree, and have had one because the guy was sterile. babylonsister Apr 2015 #128

I'd be wearing dentures now if I hadn't had all those rootcanals when my teeth cracked &/or abcessed Hekate Apr 2015 #138

What we don't need gollygee Apr 2015 #140

As a dentist please allow me to say PCIntern Apr 2015 #142