Ah, my most trusted friend. You brought the goods. I didn't see a thing. That's precious, LOL! (Reply #155)

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155. Ah, my most trusted friend. You brought the goods. I didn't see a thing. That's precious, LOL!

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'Imagined.' 'Personal.' 'Agenda.'

They should try looking in the mirror for an example!

Duh, dismissive, authoritarian and *term that starts with a 'W' that must never be said on DU* man who is *looking down his nose theatrically, yeah, we get that* and refuses to understand. I apologize for the horrible run-on sentence, but it's that kind of day.

As Obama says, 'Bucket!'

The sad part of watching this is like the old adage of kids running with scissors*:

It's all fun and games until someone pokes an eye out.

*More like knives in the back, at least it feels that way to me. Of course, because of my gender, i'll be called 'hysterical' or be accused of an 'Imagined.' 'Personal.' 'Agenda.'

Bucket!

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263 replies	Author	Time	Post
What the heck is a microaggression, anyway? [View all]	Comrade Grumpy	Apr 2015	OP
This message was self-deleted by its author	1000words	Apr 2015	#1
Winner. The thread can end here.	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#2
It doesn't end there. If you take a look through the posts below you guys are getting clobbered.	Cheese Sandwich	Apr 2015	#20
Racism is there in almost all context.	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#22
Glad she wasn't at Eeyores' last Saturday. The Haze! The Haze!	Eleanors38	Apr 2015	#44
shit that minorities/women have to put up with on a daily basis	geek tragedy	Apr 2015	#3
interested myself, i see those above you did exactly that calling it butt hurt. too fuggin' funny	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#10
This was the actual thread win. nt	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#165
in case we get deletes cause they stepped right into the shit.	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#11
Ah, my most trusted friend. You brought the goods. I didn't see a thing. That's precious, LOL!	freshwest	Apr 2015	#155
+1	Hong Kong Cavalier	Apr 2015	#16
+1	uponit7771	Apr 2015	#50
This post wins! (nt)	LostOne4Ever	Apr 2015	#172
*	ronnie624	Apr 2015	#237
It's a term coined by a professor at Harvard to describe the unintended racial slights that black	Brickbat	Apr 2015	#4
Thank you	treestar	Apr 2015	#34
Like how pen-labels are printed to favor a right-handed writer, for instance?	Orrex	Apr 2015	#39
I know what this town needs	Capt. Obvious	Apr 2015	#43
No	Chiquitita	Apr 2015	#154
Obviously the comparison was facetious, but...	Orrex	Apr 2015	#162
It's forgiving but not forgetting. NT	Trillo	Apr 2015	#5
My motto. n/t	freshwest	Apr 2015	#161
Not "butt hurt", and take that crap elsewhere	snpsmom	Apr 2015	#6
we have quite a few privileged types around here who openly sneer at the perspectives	geek tragedy	Apr 2015	#8
Yep. And they have been feeling particularly aggrieved since they are getting called out on it	Number23	Apr 2015	#127
It's attacking their purity and easily affordable innocence. Who wouldn't be aggrieved? Wha! n/t	freshwest	Apr 2015	#158
WAIT! They are the real progressives. Excuse me for breathing, Ebers. Not you, geek. n/t	freshwest	Apr 2015	#157
Well done!	Behind the Aegis	Apr 2015	#9
+1. But I would add ...	1StrongBlackMan	Apr 2015	#26
Good addition.	Behind the Aegis	Apr 2015	#29
A loud, clueless crew here feel that the only minority experience worth even caring about is one	Number23	Apr 2015	#129
The other pearl, is show me the link to who said that, liar! That's baiting a member for a hide.	freshwest	Apr 2015	#164
Show me the link! SHOOOOOW MEEEEEE THE LIIIIIIIIINNKKKKKK!!!!	Number23	Apr 2015	#219
HA! Exactly. n/t	betsuni	Apr 2015	#220
But, but, you don't understand us! You are so mean to us! Sobs Not our fault!	freshwest	Apr 2015	#232
WELL, WE IZ ONLY TRYIN 2 HALP YA CUZ YA NED US!	freshwest	Apr 2015	#229
I HAZ A BUCKET!!!!!111!!!! nt	betsuni	Apr 2015	#234
Thanks, Obama! The term buck-et will go down in history. n/t	freshwest	Apr 2015	#236
Or hysterical. Or dishonest. Tiresome reading this here plus RW sources, now. n/t	freshwest	Apr 2015	#160
You mean like this? ...	1StrongBlackMan	Apr 2015	#18
Or verbiage like this when talking about a grown black man.	NCTraveler	Apr 2015	#28
with such an arrogance of privilege and entitlement. or adult role in the situation. nt	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#30
No ... Knowing the history of that poster ...	1StrongBlackMan	Apr 2015	#41
Point very well made.	NCTraveler	Apr 2015	#42
But take heart ...	1StrongBlackMan	Apr 2015	#53
Thank you for highlighting this	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#149
exactly	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#152
Lovely and reasonable post. And yes, 1/2 the thread were posters of multiple ethnicties, genders	Number23	Apr 2015	#227
it's pretty clear	JI7	Apr 2015	#182
That would be my impression as well. nt	Hekate	Apr 2015	#230
Thank You.	JaneyVee	Apr 2015	#23
Well done and THANK YOU for posting.	emulatorloo	Apr 2015	#36
Here's a decent article on the topic from Psychology Today	Revanchist	Apr 2015	#7
It has a pretty concise definition of the term:	Comrade Grumpy	Apr 2015	#13
That's just a bunch of hooey! You know, 'cause science!	justiceischeap	Apr 2015	#92
Great article. nt	stevenleser	Apr 2015	#15
Great article- too bad most here will just pretend they don't know anyway...	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#64
Thanks, I've always enjoyed researching topics	Revanchist	Apr 2015	#70
It does seem like a topic that can be abused from both sides...	stevenleser	Apr 2015	#223
It is like most issues, something that can be abused.	Behind the Aegis	Apr 2015	#233
Micro aggressions are when you don't attack someone personally	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#12
It's like anything we name or measure	The2ndWheel	Apr 2015	#19
Three things	YoungDemCA	Apr 2015	#49
Disagreeing with academics isn't anti-intellectualism. You need to understand what that term means	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#60
Bigotry is not bigotry unless proven in a lab- to your satisfaction....	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#62
The existence of discrimination can be proven with statistics	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#66
Because obviously women and POC are making it all up- denying the huge and endless	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#71
How would i know the difference between truth and claims without requiring proof? It's interpretive	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#75
Lol- without "proof" you allow yourself to conclude POC are lying to us all?	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#76
How many are you talking about? Give me numbers	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#79
Lol- you think that these slights- both big and small didn't happen unless	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#80
This message was self-deleted by its author	1000words	Apr 2015	#81
That is all I ask for	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#83
When someone tells you that ...	1StrongBlackMan	Apr 2015	#203
Depends what I'm doing that offended them	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#204
What is an aggression?	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#82
Well said and I second every word, LittleBlue. nt	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#91
Does it matter whether it is intentional or not?	kwassa	Apr 2015	#169
What is the threshold?	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#170
I believe this woman was talking from her personal experience.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#173
She needs to persuade if she wants white people to stop	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#180
She is right.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#189
It's not a responsibility whites have to accept	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#197
Of course not. That is white privilege, in a nutshell.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#205
It's free expression in a nutshell	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#211
every person in the nation has the right to be an ass. to be a racist, misogynist and homophobe.	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#214
You're half-right	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#218
her voice of one, educated me and made me think, once i listened to kwassa.	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#190
Are you saying that you don't keep a MS Excel spreadsheet of every time a POC has been slighted??!	Number23	Apr 2015	#138
Requiring people to imagine and balance every conceivable way	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#90
That you focus on dismissing individual acts instead of acknowledging the huge patterns of behavior	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#94
I put economic issues NUMBER ONE because without economic security	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#95
Number one for YOU, because you're hurting now too.	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#97
I was sticking McGovern flyers in door handles when I was 15	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#99
Fear of the draft was high for young men back then, so....	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#100
Wow. You are one nasty piece of work, you are.	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#103
So you got nothing but venom and nakedly self serving positions.	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#104
You know not one damned thing about me	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#105
When you get past this xenophobic bullshit that your interests are #1 perhaps you	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#106
You are so far beyond clueless about me	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#107
Ha, no. actually my opinions are valuable and well respected.	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#108
The funniest thing	betsuni	Apr 2015	#109
The ones I have received that were clearly intentional I have remembered	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#113
Self interest, again and again. Dudes lives matter!	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#114
you know. there is another thread of bewildered, ... where do you get that dems put $ ahead of peopl	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#117
Maybe he doesnt have dreadlocks?	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#188
Yessssss	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#98
when will you men notice as you hold up the dollar, that our women /girls are losing life and right	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#115
If women had more money	LittleBlue	Apr 2015	#118
if if if.... whereas if a dem doesnt get in 2016 we lose the supreme crt and women and girls	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#121
So welcome to Dickens' London to get a couple of SCOTUS justices?	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#125
i get were your priorities are. they are not with girls/women lives, but the all mighty $	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#126
I want to see every person living in this country	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#130
you think i am trolling, seeing how important the supreme crt is for our women and girls?	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#133
Again- you're talking about middle class white men. Sorry but....	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#144
How?	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#150
From the reading list. OMG, just blithely read about people's oppression and	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#153
Abso-freaking-lutely.	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#122
At this point, if Hillary can add teeth to Ledbetter and devote more time to reproductive rights I	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#119
i am all about hte supreme crt. those worried about their $ should be too. seeing how the	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#124
Life is for every last man and woman, boy and girl.	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#120
but not smart enough to figure out the relevance of the supreme crt to women and girls lives in 2016	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#123
Your tunnel vision is amazing.	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#128
yes, so throw the girls over board, women.... to the back of the bus. hifi. no. nt	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#131
This is trolling me. Point to one thing that supports your absurd contention.	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#135
if clinton is the candidate, do you vote? that is my point.	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#137
Who I vote for depends entirely on the dynamics of my state's poll data	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#140
that is all. nt	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#141
While I usually agree with you seabeyond	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#142
arent you sweet...	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#145
As for the other Breitbart twerps above	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#163
How nice it is to have to READ about rights being trampled.....	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#148
ya. that was the tunnel vision. i ignored all that and stuck with supreme crt. piece of cake. nt	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#151
What you've missed is that women and POC have been impoverished for years,	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#143
i didnt get into it, but yes... saying a fiscal equality with women blacks and gays? well, they	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#147
Wow. Twenty-odd posts of you	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#221
Whatever hifi... Nt	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#222
I think it takes two forms....	Revanchist	Apr 2015	#67
Microaggression is tiny acts of suspected racism that you can't prove	Cheese Sandwich	Apr 2015	#14
So it	phil89	Apr 2015	#21
No, they aren't always "unprovable."	Behind the Aegis	Apr 2015	#25
ty. i love to hear when we are on a role.... to awareness. very simple,	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#31
"yet all three come across as compliments" No they don't. Those are flat out insults.	Throd	Apr 2015	#32
Depends on perception.	Behind the Aegis	Apr 2015	#35
So true ...	1StrongBlackMan	Apr 2015	#45
Or,	NOLALady	Apr 2015	#61
Yes this too. Thank you.	Cheese Sandwich	Apr 2015	#38
+1. n/t	1StrongBlackMan	Apr 2015	#40
This post is so good I am almost tempted to rec this thread.	Number23	Apr 2015	#139
No, what's absurd are people like yourself who assume that racism doesn't exist	geek tragedy	Apr 2015	#37
Yeah this exactly. Just because I can't prove it, doesn't mean it isn't happening.	Cheese Sandwich	Apr 2015	#52
Cool assumption you just made, lacking proof of course.	LanternWaste	Apr 2015	#65
Well, this OP and a few of the replies are Exhibit A.	Starry Messenger	Apr 2015	#17
Are you saying I microaggressed by posting the OP?	Comrade Grumpy	Apr 2015	#24
When faced with the choice between	Codeine	Apr 2015	#46
Well said. The OP is baloney- they will continue to ignore enlightening posts here....	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#73
Wow, you PC folks are really charming.	Comrade Grumpy	Apr 2015	#85
wouldnt " PC folks" be kinda rw fox news'ish? nt	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#88
It's another RW meme- and we're shocked to be called "you guys" to boot.	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#89
Goes on too much around here to be termed "micro"	Eleanors38	Apr 2015	#48
I don't think I can type that post differently.	Starry Messenger	Apr 2015	#101
My entire life experience from sixth grade until I quit high school...	hunter	Apr 2015	#27
We're being nice when we call them microaggressions, to be honest.	DemocraticWing	Apr 2015	#33
Isn't it lovely they are so willing to guide us through life?	freshwest	Apr 2015	#166
I want to thank our more thoughtful posters	Codeine	Apr 2015	#47
Nice post.	Bobbie Jo	Apr 2015	#59
Good on you for saying so.	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#77
I was going to give the definition, but I see that the first post has whitesplained it already	mwrguy	Apr 2015	#51
Thanks for saying it! n/t	freshwest	Apr 2015	#167
I sent the JHU student government an email saying they were too NICE to Chick Fil Hate.	alp227	Apr 2015	#54
wow, you did that really well...	mike_c	Apr 2015	#55
How disingenuous.	ismnotwasm	Apr 2015	#56
This is Berke Breathed's account of it	Scootaloo	Apr 2015	#57
Stop believing in god and you can experience that shit firsthand.	MindPilot	Apr 2015	#58
I got the shit kicked out of me at age 8, for saying "I don't believe in God" on the school bus.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#112
It's smaller than a milliaggression	Nye Bevan	Apr 2015	#63
Deffinitions:	NM_Birder	Apr 2015	#68
Is google down? nt	LeftyMom	Apr 2015	#69
No but you can learn more from multiple people's perspectives	Revanchist	Apr 2015	#72
Microagressions	romanic	Apr 2015	#74
An excellent explanation.	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#93
Except it's wrong	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#171
war on straight white men	JI7	Apr 2015	#78
I think that it is a term that- like many- has the potential to accurately raise awareness, yet also	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#84
One millionth of an aggression	jberryhill	Apr 2015	#86
The new academic concept of microagressions	TM99	Apr 2015	#87
lol passive aggression is a term from 80s self-help books	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#168
It really bothers some here to have their sacred cows challenged.	TM99	Apr 2015	#201
Actually you illustrated my point. D'oh! nt	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#228
What point?	TM99	Apr 2015	#242
+1	Pooka Fey	Apr 2015	#245
Your definition is incorrect.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#249
I know what the 'definition' is.	TM99	Apr 2015	#250
Human behavior has been human behavior forever.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#253
No, what it tells you is that I disagree	TM99	Apr 2015	#255
It isn't a step removed, but a step towards specificity.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#256
I disagree.	TM99	Apr 2015	#257
The phenomenon described by the term microaggressions is a real thing.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#259
I am criticizing both language and what it attempts to describe	TM99	Apr 2015	#261
"Racism" and "sexism" isn't enough anymore...	davidn3600	Apr 2015	#96
OMG - "those people" want to use better, more descriptive words to discuss phenomena that	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#102
You mean phenomena like the "nightmare" of going to a concert-- and seeing white people with dreads?	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#110
Yeah some kid said something silly on the net, and it's used to discredit	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#111
Someone's tumblr meme is not a "field of study".	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#116
Blammo! nt	hifiguy	Apr 2015	#132
Why do you assume "field of study" referred to the tumblr thing?	gollygee	Apr 2015	#134
to dismiss it? nt	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#136
It dismissed itself, when person in question called white people wearing dreads a "microaggression"	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#177
i prefer to listen. you might actually take the time to read kwassa'a post. fuggin' excellent.	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#178
I do. Because i think peoples' hair is their own damn business.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#184
Great.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#175
I don't think it's a simple either/or dichotomy	gollygee	Apr 2015	#243
It wasn't a blog, it was a published op-ed piece.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#244
Also, I'll say this about "culture". Like music, like art, it is a melange, a conversation, an	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#246
Gas lighting bullshit.	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#146
Absolutely.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#159
Musta hit a nerve.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#176
Nah. Hit my bullshit detector.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#181
Well good for you!	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#186
Of course! That is your white privilege.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#191
My white privilege says that white people should be able to wear dreads?	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#195
White hair doesn't naturally dread.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#200
I think there are white people on this planet whose hair, given time and inertia, will naturally	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#207
No, DU is piling on.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#247
Kind of obvious that your function here- like the kid who pulls on your pony tail till	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#193
I'm responding to the thread, as are you.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#198
You're here to mock, and are pretty shitty at it- or did you think	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#202
I'm expressing an opinion that you, apparently, disagree with.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#206
And the "tumbler meme" bullshit?	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#208
dismissive. nt	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#210
If "microaggression" is a legitimate field of scientific study	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#213
Yeah that would be appropriation of black culture	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#231
The distinction, of course, is in the intent and communicated message. I get that.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#235
I didn't read the now notorious article so I don't have an opinion	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#238
I kinda weighed in on my original response, which I think is a good, workable one for me.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#239
On the other hand the person who wrote THIS OP	daredtowork	Apr 2015	#240
I came into it from the context of the other thread, and answered honestly.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#241
my youngest son liked to play black. he thought it cool. he thought it a compliment	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#209
So you think every white person who has dreadlocks is "playing black"?	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#212
I think the focus on one dumb college kid- is dumb....	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#216
That's how it came up in the first place, isnt it?	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#226
why do you make up... so you think? no. i clearly stated another example. separate of dreadlocks.	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#217
Except she wasnt talking about other examples, she was talking about dreadlocks.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#225
hey kwassa. thanks for you post way at the top explaining this better, for all of us.	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#179
I think it was on the other thread, but you are welcome.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#183
i did not go into the OP with the story of the young woman. i really did not know anything about	seabeyond	Apr 2015	#194
Thank you.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#196
Ocean dumptruck tangerine.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#174
And.....that's one of your better posts.	bettyellen	Apr 2015	#185
Awwwww	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#187
See Revanchists #7. It's an important sub concept of these. Nt	stevenleser	Apr 2015	#156
how about people digging up some college student's blog to find something to be outraged over	JI7	Apr 2015	#192
It was an op-ed piece published a few days ago.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#199
Comrade Grumpy dug it up. Why did he do that? To mock, apparently.	kwassa	Apr 2015	#248
Comrade Grumpy dug it up doing his daily search for drug policy and EDM items.	Comrade Grumpy	Apr 2015	#251
So, do you feel the concept of microaggressions is silliness, too?	kwassa	Apr 2015	#252
I was familiar with the behaviors, although not the term. And I don't know that I like the term.	Comrade Grumpy	Apr 2015	#258
Microaggressions are small examples of racism ...	kwassa	Apr 2015	#260
What the heck is with people who can't bother to use google?	BainsBane	Apr 2015	#215
I'm curious what you as the OP think about this now.	stevenleser	Apr 2015	#224
Microaggressions are the little shit that people of color, women, LGBT people, etc have to endure.	backscatter712	Apr 2015	#254
I agree, on all those examples.	Warren DeMontague	Apr 2015	#263
What the heck is a microgreen, anyway?	betsuni	Apr 2015	#262

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