I May be Going to Debtor's Prison

[quakerboy]

91. Fail to take care of your kids, go to jail

Seems like a moderately fair trade off to me. Especially since, if his story is true, He had the option NOT to go to jail, and instead chose to go to jail.

Granted his story is sad. Sounds like things could have gone differently with a few small changes in what happened to him. But many many people have setbacks in life. Divorce is not uncommon. business attempts failing is not uncommon. Unemployment and being underemployed and in dire financial straits are not uncommon.

But it all rests on one thing. If his story is true, he is potentially going to jail for being an idiot. If its true, the mother is a terrible person. Terrible people do not make great parents. If its true, he has a heart of gold. If its true, he would make a far better parent. And if its true "Through all of the perjury she committed (you can bet your life I can prove it), I never decided to have it brought up", He chose to let his children be raised by a criminal, in order for them not to see their mother sent to jail. He chose to go to jail in order to let his children be raised by a criminal. That was his poor choice.

If he was raising his kids, making them his priority, and he was struggling to pay the bills to do that, I would be all sympathy. Although, if he was fiddling with starting a business while they went hungry, I would struggle with that. But as is, he has a story with a built in get out of jail free card, and is refusing to use it. Which sounds flat improbable, and makes me doubt the veracity of the whole story.

My aunt left her abusive husband, and got an order for child support. He rarely paid anything. But he did manage to fund his drug habit, as well as providing great Christmas gifts to the kids in order to have his moment of" what a great dad". But My aunt received regular assistance with the kids from my grandparents. And I know for a fact he told his family, as well as every social worker involved over the years that his wife(a woman so traumatized she still sleeps in her shoes decades later) was physically abusing him(a woman who refused to spank even the most deserving child) and otherwise a horrible person. I guess that makes it ok for him to have skipped out on all but 5 months of 16 years of payments.

It would be curious to see the objective facts.