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bravenak

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210. I think that's why I don't believe in corporal punishment.

Wed Apr 29, 2015, 03:29 PM

Apr 2015

I got beat with straps, shoes, belts, and a telephone cord. I told myself never. I was a straight a student who never even got detention. That kinda abuse made me start skipping school to cover the welts. That was normal for black kids until, hell, I think my generation stopped it. We don't hit our kids like our parents did. Still slightly think my mother is unable to care for children properly. She never hits my kids, but I keep reminding her not to just to make sure. It hurts her feelings but I lack trust. My kids would not understand. When they act out, they go to thir rooms, alone. They hate that. I also take away their kindles. Yeah, they back talk and test the limits, but they are not too bad, pretty sweets. Hitting kids steals something from them(empathy?). Desensitizes them.

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The hideous white hypocrisy behind the Baltimore �Hero Mom� hype: How clueless media applause excuse [View all] DonViejo Apr 2015 OP

She was scared. bravenak Apr 2015 #1

I'm with you. I am white but I think she was terrified and he was trying to disregard her desparate jwirr Apr 2015 #8

Exactly. bravenak Apr 2015 #12

That's not the point. Yes, she was scared. But much of the media was applauding her for pnwmom Apr 2015 #53

That is different. jwirr Apr 2015 #61

WHAT is different? Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #83

That she is talking about the MSM not the mother. I fully support the mother in her fear. jwirr Apr 2015 #116

And in doing so you are missing the point of Joan Walsh's article. pnwmom Apr 2015 #156

A rule to live by - "The Media" is usually FOS MaggieD Apr 2015 #227

Well said! Thank you! n/t markpkessinger Apr 2015 #242

She said she didnt want him to end up like Freddie, so she was motivated. nt 7962 Apr 2015 #155

Couldn't that be part of the plan? Fantastic Anarchist Apr 2015 #245

If people get violent ann--- Apr 2015 #182

The mother has already acknowledged her wrongdoing. How long will Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #282

I was commenting because ann--- Apr 2015 #291

That's what resonated with me deutsey Apr 2015 #11

Yep. bravenak Apr 2015 #14

if i had it to do over, barbtries Apr 2015 #20

When my children were much much younger... Mother Of Four Apr 2015 #289

+1 deutsey Apr 2015 #290

Scared and wrong. Lots of people do things because they are scared, but that doesn't mean pnwmom Apr 2015 #51

Exactly. bravenak Apr 2015 #52

I was happy to read the mother's perspective on this. I'm not worried about her being a bad mother. pnwmom Apr 2015 #74

White flight white privileged bigot racist assholes claim that there is a BLACK CULTURE NoJusticeNoPeace Apr 2015 #57

Yes. Anything negative is black culture and if white kids do it, Rap! Hip hop! bravenak Apr 2015 #60

Instread of addressing the article, I see the racists are in here attacking US. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #62

Jury results BainsBane Apr 2015 #255

Juror #1 is brilliant! mahalo BB Cha Apr 2015 #274

The Alerter's "concern" and all those who agree with him/her is Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #281

I'm white, and my dad would've done the exact same thing as she did! 7962 Apr 2015 #158

Work with him? Your learning curve and experience and this kid is VASTLY different NoJusticeNoPeace Apr 2015 #164

+1 nt Live and Learn Apr 2015 #277

I think she was more pissed off than scared...in fact know...just listen to her snooper2 Apr 2015 #63

Ah yes, the Angry Black Female. Of course. She's not frightened for her son endangering himself... Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #67

oh come on get over yourself...she has a right to be pissed of her son was being an asshole snooper2 Apr 2015 #81

More racist dribble. I see you. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #88

Obviously you responded so quick I see Reggae Shark wasn't an influence... snooper2 Apr 2015 #95

I don't know what the fuck that means. All I see is your racism showing. The other nonsense Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #96

Post removed Post removed Apr 2015 #112

WTF??? boston bean Apr 2015 #157

Post removed Post removed Apr 2015 #163

Posting a video titled "hanging tree" to a black person is disgusting. boston bean Apr 2015 #175

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Your excuses make me sick, your actions ever more so. boston bean Apr 2015 #185

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There was nothing to read into. It was plain and obvious. boston bean Apr 2015 #195

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Your doubling down continues. I assume it will continue. boston bean Apr 2015 #199

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Moving on to strange for cover. Thou doth protest to much, I think. boston bean Apr 2015 #207

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Right. I will stick with my logic. boston bean Apr 2015 #223

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I'm sure many people feel the same as me. boston bean Apr 2015 #235

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You could have just apologized. I'll leave the polling up to you. boston bean Apr 2015 #239

Snoop has had 2 more hides here and is now flagged for review. nt alp227 Apr 2015 #273

snooper has 3 well earned HIDES. Cha Apr 2015 #276

hmm, pleasantly suprised. boston bean Apr 2015 #278

Welp. And now every other message snoop has SELF DELETED. nt alp227 Apr 2015 #293

Boston Bean, you're not going to get anything worthwhile from that poster Scootaloo Apr 2015 #252

Especially now that he can't reply. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #256

I was hoping someone would alert. boston bean Apr 2015 #257

I was on the jury. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #258

Jury results for post #190: Auggie Apr 2015 #292

You need to take a huge fucking chill pill. n/t Comrade Grumpy Apr 2015 #146

And you need to not tell me what I need to do. Slavery is over. White folk don't get to tell Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #152

Holy crap did you hit THAT nail on the head. 7962 Apr 2015 #181

You "need to take a huge fucking chill pill." Cha Apr 2015 #275

Did you even listen to her comments? Obviously not. 7962 Apr 2015 #160

Anger and fear are cousins. Her fear caused the anger. bravenak Apr 2015 #71

apparently she had already caught him throwing rocks at the police, he was already participating snooper2 Apr 2015 #91

There is a huge difference here Kalidurga Apr 2015 #132

Since I'm dealing with this Stalwart person above I went to find an interview with her- you nail it snooper2 Apr 2015 #140

Awesome! It was kinda obvious. bravenak Apr 2015 #143

Anger OFTEN covers over fear. n/t pnwmom Apr 2015 #80

Very often! It's a Duval Apr 2015 #170

I would have done the 840high Apr 2015 #98

I probably would have too. And regretted it. bravenak Apr 2015 #203

yes.i wouldnt call it being a hero JI7 Apr 2015 #128

Looking at it again, I agree there was nothing abusive about it treestar Apr 2015 #171

I felt like I understood her yeoman6987 Apr 2015 #169

I felt a little sick because I could see myself doing that and regretting it. bravenak Apr 2015 #180

In that situation definitely yeoman6987 Apr 2015 #231

"Please come home now, Dear" Ms. Yertle Apr 2015 #2

Then why didn't she literally pull him out of that dangerous situation? And why is the media pnwmom Apr 2015 #54

I didn't se her 840high Apr 2015 #104

You didn't see her being out of control? I did. And she admitted that she was: pnwmom Apr 2015 #115

Full quote - 840high Apr 2015 #213

That changes nothing. White people shouldn't be applauding a black mother's pnwmom Apr 2015 #215

I don't view people as black or white. I view 840high Apr 2015 #253

Yeah, right. Just like you don't notice if someone is male or female. pnwmom Apr 2015 #259

I do notice if someone is 840high Apr 2015 #261

And unless you are blind you also notice the color of their skin. pnwmom Apr 2015 #262

Color doesn't interest me - perhaps 840high Apr 2015 #263

Then you aren't interested in hearing about how the lives of other people pnwmom Apr 2015 #265

How are you solving it? You post a lot. It's 840high Apr 2015 #266

Any time White America sees a black BOY or MAN brutalized, they cheer it on. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #3

"Brutalized?" Please... derby378 Apr 2015 #13

Of course I was exaggerating, co-signing the larger point that Joan Walsh is making in her OP. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #22

good to clarify heaven05 Apr 2015 #35

zactly Duppers Apr 2015 #161

Huh? Being brutalized? WTF? AgingAmerican Apr 2015 #21

This message was self-deleted by its author Buzz Clik Apr 2015 #32

Roll your fucking eyes all you want. The media is calling this woman a "hero". She is on Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #58

I agree too. bravenak Apr 2015 #65

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That was an explanation of the MOTHER's motivations. bravenak Apr 2015 #73

This message was self-deleted by its author Buzz Clik Apr 2015 #84

Almost as special as how you continuously move the goalposts... adorable, even. LanternWaste Apr 2015 #92

Yep. The mother explained hers. bravenak Apr 2015 #100

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I never mentioned you once. bravenak Apr 2015 #131

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I don't need a ploy. It's just true. bravenak Apr 2015 #142

Racists in this thread in full force, too. Rather than addressing the substance of Joan's article... Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #76

Crazy shit, right? bravenak Apr 2015 #87

Kudos to you! I see them here, too. Again, not attacking the white woman, Joan Walsh... Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #94

Yep. Typical. bravenak Apr 2015 #114

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Nope. Not giving it no rests. bravenak Apr 2015 #105

This message was self-deleted by its author Buzz Clik Apr 2015 #124

You started it. And I'm the arrogant one cause I don't care what you think. bravenak Apr 2015 #136

This message was self-deleted by its author Buzz Clik Apr 2015 #139

Ok. But I was never talking to or about you, just so you know. bravenak Apr 2015 #145

They're going to keep telling YOU to "get over yourself"! LOL!! You didn't write the article! Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #212

I'm arrogant. bravenak Apr 2015 #214

You're arrogant, uppity and angry. And it's not racism unless THEY say so! So, get over yourself! Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #216

Stop being so uppity! Just do as you're told and take a chill pill! bravenak Apr 2015 #217

Racists? You wish. 'Bye 840high Apr 2015 #202

I dont know, I think if it were the same situation, the woman would get similar coverage 7962 Apr 2015 #193

It's the way they are lionizing her. She does not agree and regrets her actions. bravenak Apr 2015 #198

I guess we disagree. I was hit like that as a kid, 7962 Apr 2015 #204

I think that's why I don't believe in corporal punishment. bravenak Apr 2015 #210

Yeah, I never could get that: getting hit and you didnt do ANYTHING wrong. nt 7962 Apr 2015 #220

For real. It was terrifying trying to figure out if you were being 'bad'. bravenak Apr 2015 #221

This message was self-deleted by its author Buzz Clik Apr 2015 #66

My opinion. This is what Joan Walsh wrote. Take it up with her. I agree with her. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #72

This message was self-deleted by its author Buzz Clik Apr 2015 #79

No worries. Criticize me all you want. It's your right. But you WILL NOT silence me! Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #85

This message was self-deleted by its author Buzz Clik Apr 2015 #89

Your self-indictment is admirable. LanternWaste Apr 2015 #93

Black folks are cheering 840high Apr 2015 #113

What's with this: "GET OVER MYSELF"? I didn't write the fucking article! Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #147

Post removed Post removed Apr 2015 #149

LOL - I see many black, hispanic, native friends of mine dbackjon Apr 2015 #141

Truth hurts, don't it? Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #150

For you, I guess dbackjon Apr 2015 #237

+1000 Cali_Democrat Apr 2015 #251

When will white people learn? We have NO CLUE about ANY of what that mother is dealing NoJusticeNoPeace Apr 2015 #75

damn white people anyway hfojvt Apr 2015 #172

I won't oblige - want to 840high Apr 2015 #200

I spoke out against it. I understand her fear but also do not cheer any violence. interesting take, uppityperson Apr 2015 #4

And so many on DU are essentially saying....... WillowTree Apr 2015 #5

Who is saying this? And the vast majority of "black kids" were peacefully demonstrating. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #24

Unfortunately, and typically, the media wasn't SHOWING the vast majority of peaceful demonstrators. pnwmom Apr 2015 #179

True. Of course. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #187

Links, please. I don't recall seeing any DUers post that. n/t Gormy Cuss Apr 2015 #28

The people who are at fault are the media, for applauding a parent at her pnwmom Apr 2015 #59

Actually, some people here have corrected me in suggesting that we black folk are cheering Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #162

I think Joan Walsh's piece was spot on. pnwmom Apr 2015 #174

Yep. Absolutely. Those who assert that "blacks were cheering too" missed the point... Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #196

I agree. I am white and I would have more likely than not done he same thing. boston bean Apr 2015 #254

Exactly. Thank you. I think other folks get it, too. They are just Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #283

The fuck? Egnever Apr 2015 #6

You disagree with this comment from the article by Joan Walsh?... DonViejo Apr 2015 #9

Completely Egnever Apr 2015 #44

You are right. 840high Apr 2015 #201

You must have missed the dozens of news reports that lionized this woman for her desperate, out-of-control pnwmom Apr 2015 #90

So because it was on the news Egnever Apr 2015 #126

she was a scared mother, not an action figure, nor is she Cruella deVille as some handwringers are geek tragedy Apr 2015 #7

FUBAR! Left coast liberal Apr 2015 #10

or the left only looking at this mom from the hits. i am disgusted with both sides. nt seabeyond Apr 2015 #15

I'd be tempted to do exactly what she did. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2015 #16

if in another time and place, this woman would have been charged with child abuse or assault. nc4bo Apr 2015 #25

Did she succeed? treestar Apr 2015 #40

the almighty media seems to think so. nc4bo Apr 2015 #42

So true treestar Apr 2015 #159

My 8 year old son gets into violent christx30 Apr 2015 #154

My nine year old daughter is like that. bravenak Apr 2015 #177

a facebook friend said the mom should have joined the son in the protest m-lekktor Apr 2015 #17

Mother seveneyes Apr 2015 #18

+1 n/t lumberjack_jeff Apr 2015 #29

Some think the Police started it: Eyewitnesses: The Baltimore Riots Didn't Start the Way You Think libdem4life Apr 2015 #19

did you write this barbtries Apr 2015 #23

Thanks for the tip...Fixed it. libdem4life Apr 2015 #27

The police instigated it, just as they did in Ferguson. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #26

Oh, for fuck's sake: "beating her 16-year-old son" Buzz Clik Apr 2015 #30

...^ that 840high Apr 2015 #123

We're being gamed. Buzz Clik Apr 2015 #148

I don't know that "hypocrisy" sums it up well. Behind the Aegis Apr 2015 #31

disagree. mothers imo feel her completely. the mother level is deep. elehhhhna Apr 2015 #41

Some do. Some don't. For different reasons. Behind the Aegis Apr 2015 #45

Disagree. I'm a mother of a son whom I love deeply. To me, a mother who bangs on a kid, curses at libdem4life Apr 2015 #70

she was freaked out. that'd all I can tell from the video. elehhhhna Apr 2015 #86

That group wasn't rioting...clearly...they were trapped by the buses and metro closed down. libdem4life Apr 2015 #127

also, whites first reaction isn't "great mom", it's "his dad should be collecting him" elehhhhna Apr 2015 #46

Do what now? Behind the Aegis Apr 2015 #48

I have ears. just reporting what I hear. elehhhhna Apr 2015 #77

That still makes no sense. Are you trying to make a point? Behind the Aegis Apr 2015 #110

why are you looking for an argument? elehhhhna Apr 2015 #117

I am looking to understand your comments. That isn't an argument, that is a conversation. Behind the Aegis Apr 2015 #122

some folks love deflecting attention away from the real issues... nc4bo Apr 2015 #133

Yep. You see how they've come after me for dare agreeing with what Joan Walsh has said. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #167

Really? bravenak Apr 2015 #56

no shit. Do I have to write a ten paragraph essay here defending my elehhhhna Apr 2015 #99

I wasn't angry. It's hard to put tone into the messages. bravenak Apr 2015 #120

I agree. And those who pretend to not know what you meant are lying. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #125

Yes, the mom said she feared for her son Duppers Apr 2015 #176

My coworkers found it amusing awoke_in_2003 Apr 2015 #184

Yes, the white privilege Fox news stereotype of how a black mother should punish her kid project_bluebook Apr 2015 #33

They need to stop labeling people 'hero'... Blanks Apr 2015 #34

+1 treestar Apr 2015 #38

So this breaks down according to race? treestar Apr 2015 #36

Walsh puts into words what Puglover Apr 2015 #37

Frankly - I think America KT2000 Apr 2015 #39

Being a mom trying to get through to a teen son just SUCKS. lostnfound Apr 2015 #43

+1000 Duppers Apr 2015 #209

She was also a 'hero,' or at least did the right thing, elleng Apr 2015 #47

Joan Walsh said her piece was NOT directed to other African Americans like your friend. pnwmom Apr 2015 #97

Why does Joan Walsh get to dictate anything? yeoman6987 Apr 2015 #222

She doesn't. But the OP is about Joan Walsh's piece. pnwmom Apr 2015 #225

Fair enough. I'd bore everyone to tears if I tried to write something. yeoman6987 Apr 2015 #232

AMEN!!! I made the point that if the kid was white she'd be in jail!!! uponit7771 Apr 2015 #49

There is one thign that also get hidden DonCoquixote Apr 2015 #50

I think my Mom would have done the same thing. bigwillq Apr 2015 #55

The media shouldn't be holding up the reaction of a frightened, out-of-control angry parent pnwmom Apr 2015 #64

That's very much the way I was reading the zeal for this event. Racist white folks love watching a Ed Suspicious Apr 2015 #69

Are you kidding me? WTF. And you know this exactly how? libdem4life Apr 2015 #78

I'm speculating. I know nothing. Ed Suspicious Apr 2015 #82

You don't think that was behind the Faux news spin on her actions? pnwmom Apr 2015 #103

I think everything that day was racist. What has me gobsmacked, is the cheering on of a very libdem4life Apr 2015 #138

wrong. white people love to see any teenagers be humiliated. elehhhhna Apr 2015 #111

This could also be the case. You make a good point. Ed Suspicious Apr 2015 #121

That's a pretty racist thing to say dbackjon Apr 2015 #144

whatever. I'm white, I see it. elehhhhna Apr 2015 #191

That was hardly a beating Renew Deal Apr 2015 #101

This is an excellent piece! Thank you! n/t pnwmom Apr 2015 #106

Salon jumped the shark during these riots, discrediting the publication LittleBlue Apr 2015 #107

Totally agree with you! Duppers Apr 2015 #218

Sorry...she is too me rtracey Apr 2015 #108

To me she is 840high Apr 2015 #130

I agree rtracey Apr 2015 #234

We demonize Dorian Gray Apr 2015 #109

" is essentially justifying police brutality, " Fucking Bullshit Incitatus Apr 2015 #119

No, this is where it starts. This wasn't the first time...that was clear in the interaction. libdem4life Apr 2015 #151

That was not a "brutal" "beating" Mike Nelson Apr 2015 #129

Gee, I guess the message from the media is we should publicly flog the uppity ni**ers.... Spitfire of ATJ Apr 2015 #134

Joan, you missed it on this one Duppers Apr 2015 #153

Yes. Your son understood what you did for him. LittleBlue Apr 2015 #224

Thank you! Duppers Apr 2015 #238

Until I was 18 I took orders from my parents The Green Manalishi Apr 2015 #165

Mainstream zentrum Apr 2015 #166

Exactly right! This is exactly what Joan Walsh was saying. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #284

She was just doing everything she could to save her son liberal N proud Apr 2015 #168

liberal you are my hero donnasgirl Apr 2015 #178

I wonder what Joan Walsh would have done if it had been her son or daughter out there? totodeinhere Apr 2015 #173

so she means white right wingers are applauding it treestar Apr 2015 #186

Women cannot win, I don't care what color we are, we can't win Hekate Apr 2015 #188

kick Dawson Leery Apr 2015 #189

Hmmm..... Doc Holliday Apr 2015 #192

Walsh is showing her own privileged 'cluelessness' bigtree Apr 2015 #194

Not sure how. Walsh's argument actually supports what Ms. Graham is saying here. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #211

she can spare me her analysis of why blacks can defend the mom's actions vs. whites bigtree Apr 2015 #226

Go back and read Walsh's article when you have time. That is exactly Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #243

I did 'go back and read' it bigtree Apr 2015 #247

I don't like most of Walsh's writings, especially when she covers Obama. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #285

a desperate and scared mom KMOD Apr 2015 #206

This is a insightful statement.... blackspade Apr 2015 #208

+100000000 MaggieD Apr 2015 #229

^^^This post is the best of this discussion IMO Stuckinthebush Apr 2015 #241

Exactly Walsh's point. People here pretending not to understand. Liberal_Stalwart71 Apr 2015 #286

Indeed blackspade Apr 2015 #288

It's interesting, Toya Graham recognizes most moms are working closeupready Apr 2015 #230

I think Walsh nailed it loyalsister Apr 2015 #233

Violence against kids is never OK. Whether the police or Flatulo Apr 2015 #240

I couldn't agree more. Fantastic Anarchist Apr 2015 #244

What about this one? Quantess Apr 2015 #246

That is nuts. The Mom cared enough about the safety of her her son Quantess Apr 2015 #248

Was the kid actually participating in anything? Catherine Vincent Apr 2015 #249

Apparently he was either throwing a rock or ready to throw one. nt tblue37 Apr 2015 #250

Wingnuts will abandon her now they know she's a single parent n/t UTUSN Apr 2015 #260

My criticism is not for the mom. Bonobo Apr 2015 #264

"Praising a mom for beating her son suggests only violence can discipline black kids." WTF?? Number23 Apr 2015 #267

You don't have to say it for it to be obvious that thought is at work unconsciously. Bonobo Apr 2015 #268

If a white mom did the same thing, I'd have the same reaction. I'd understand her fear Number23 Apr 2015 #269

What about a dad? Bonobo Apr 2015 #270

I'm sure this is important to you for some reason, but I have no idea why you are jumping Number23 Apr 2015 #271

As you said, it is interesting to me. That's all. Bonobo Apr 2015 #272

Only the misguided or Snow Leopard Apr 2015 #279

I support & applaud what this Mom did. GOLGO 13 Apr 2015 #280

I salute Ms. Graham, as well. hamsterjill Apr 2015 #287