I May be Going to Debtor's Prison

[stupidicus]

137. no he's not

he's going to one his choices built.

As a father who won custody of his child 25 years ago in a state where such was by far the exception, I never saw a dime of the 15 dollars a week ordered, or my state notifying the state in which she's dwelt since as is required by law -- so I have my own "injustice" issues to whine about. And to make things even worse, after he reached the age of majority I sued and got a judgement based on that figure with the help of the state, under the Fed Title IV as I recall (which all this stuff falls under), only to have the state subsequently close the case and collection efforts contrary to the law as well, since that can only be done by either them collecting it, or my signing off on it. Of course these "closings" are what underlie the awarding of more "block grants" from feds to the state, so it is really a fraud being perpetrated in cases like this, which I'd love to pursue as a Qui Tam action, but haven't for reasons I won't bore you with here.

So for those here calling it a "racket", I wholeheartedly agree.

Having said that, of course the burden the court imposed on my ex is in no way comparable to that imposed upon him, but as a parent, his first duty and responsibility is to his children. Granting they were apparently not wanting of anything, assuming his stuff about his ex and her good fortune of finding a provider are true, that in no way eliminates his responsibility any more than my ability to provide for my son without the assistance of my ex eliminated hers.

Furthermore, given that he likely had at some point in time, legal counsel that informed him of the ramifications of his actions -- or inaction in this case -- the whole thing it would seem, rests upon whether he was making what the court would see as a good faith effort to follow its edicts. Without having the court record at our disposal to weigh and judge the facts in the matter, this isn't a matter of a "he said/she said" thing between him and his wife, but rather between him and the state/court.

As much as I'm inclined to as a victim of state/court chicanery (albeit of a different kind -- no punishment for my deadbeat ex) to offer sympathy and empathy for his plight, I'm also as a victim of a deadbeat parent who knows intimately the BS they spew in defense of themselves while excluding any sense of duty or responsibility to the child, inclined to say say in the absence of a full airing and therefore knowledge of all the facts, that it is totally legitimate for those who think it stinks under a "smell test" here, to call his big emotional appeal stinky.

As a result of all of this, imo you and the rest here that are basing your stuff and outrage based solely on his "version" of facts in the matter are on no better footing to defend it than those who're promoting the opposing "deadbeat dad getting what he deserves" pov, and it's hardly worth the measure of interpersonal conflict and discord I see resulting from what is in the final analysis, a "We really don't KNOW" situation.

But by all means, have at it. Reading the fights is much more entertaining than "dittos"..lol