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In reply to the discussion: Obama should do nothing... [View all]merrily
(45,251 posts)I never said sociopaths were not real or anything close to that. I said anger was not the only emotion.
I never said people don't get angry. To the contrary, the point of my reference to St. Teresa was to say everyone gets angry.
Maybe you cannot control the first knee jerk "flooding over you" of an emotion. But, you most certainly can manage your emotions.
You can choose not to stew over something by moving on to another, more productive activity. You can choose to get yourself into another emotional mood. For example, counting my blessings and focusing on how grateful I am for them will almost always get rid of my sadness. But, sure, I have to feel the sadness initially, or I would not start deliberately counting and focusing my blessings to get rid of the sadness. People forgive and love the killers of the loved ones, though I am sure the knee jerk is often vengefulness.
I've done it and seen it too often to say it cannot be done. But, hey, if you'd rather hang on to anger, I won't try to stop you. I just assumed you might not want to.