I May be Going to Debtor's Prison

[Horse with no Name]

211. I get where you are coming from and I get that with your emotion

You have been through this.

From experience, I will commiserate that NOBODY understands a custody battle unless they have been through one.

That being said...have you ever talked to the kids of parents who got shared custody? I have...and NONE of them recommend it.

Biggest complaint is that they never feel like they have their own space.

One in particular...both respective parents remarried spouses who had other children. While she was swapping homes every week...she never had her "own" space. There was tremendous jealousy between her and the step-siblings. By the time this child reached the age to decide where she wanted to live, she chose her Mother. Then, her Dad out of spite filed for custody because her Mom was using drugs. After a brief stint of living with her Dad solely, they went back to the here one week, there one week, etc.

She didn't fit in anywhere...and with two families in close proximity...she ended up living with MY family during her Senior year of High School after she turned 18.

As a young adult...she has trouble forming relationships, is very unstable, and generally just an unhappy person.

Kids NEED stability. In places where abuse isn't a factor...people don't try hard enough to salvage marriages that could be salvaged. So...IMHO, when people make choices to make themselves happier at the expense of their children's well being, then they really find themselves in a mess of their own making and the children shouldn't be responsible to hold together the lives of two adults who couldn't get along for the greater good. The best interests of the child should be preserved at whatever cost...even if it makes the NCP unhappy.