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F4lconF16

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124. And I have yet to hear a satisfactory answer to that.

Sun May 10, 2015, 04:29 PM

May 2015

Ever. It seems like something pretty basic that religion should answer...but it can't.

Thanks for that quote, always been one of my favorites.

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A Cancer Survivor Designs the Cards She Wishes She�d Received From Friends and Family [View all] Liberal_in_LA May 2015 OP

+1 pinto May 2015 #1

related topic- reddit recent super long thread - stuff disabled people don't want to hear or Liberal_in_LA May 2015 #7

Oh hell yes. Thank you. REP May 2015 #133

I LOVE those. I want to know where I can get a box full to have on hand. Hekate May 2015 #2

more at the link Liberal_in_LA May 2015 #4

Splendid! Fairgo May 2015 #59

Those are just beautiful! I hope she sells a million of them. CaliforniaPeggy May 2015 #3

yeah. makes you think. Liberal_in_LA May 2015 #5

Excellent! Here's links to her blog, link to buy on each card. uppityperson May 2015 #6

And don't forget, "God has a plan !" Hoppy May 2015 #8

I'm sure s/h/it does. I hope the plan is to send those stupid MF to the landfill of the universe. erronis May 2015 #10

"s/h/it" ablamj May 2015 #24

No s/h/it. Iggo May 2015 #114

A bible thumper actually asked me what I had done to "deserve" my cancer. Contrary1 May 2015 #17

Same thing happened to me when I had cancer. leftofcool May 2015 #37

Ooooohhhh...please, please, please, please... ChisolmTrailDem May 2015 #115

Oh yes pleeeeeeeease! nt SusanCalvin May 2015 #132

... Enthusiast May 2015 #52

that's just fucking horrible steve2470 May 2015 #64

The problem is that F4lconF16 May 2015 #66

Or we are a toy SusanCalvin May 2015 #71

Oh my goddess, that's hilarious. F4lconF16 May 2015 #72

Most of them try to fudge over it all -- "God has his mysterious ways," "It's not for us to know," Arugula Latte May 2015 #109

You nailed it, F4lcon hifiguy May 2015 #118

And I have yet to hear a satisfactory answer to that. F4lconF16 May 2015 #124

That's so selfish, because the reason they say that treestar May 2015 #74

Fear is a powerful thing. DeadLetterOffice May 2015 #125

Give them back the Bible with pickaxe and spade: Ecclesiastes 9:11 . . . Journeyman May 2015 #122

Those are much more appropriate malaise May 2015 #9

Well guess what people???? onecent May 2015 #11

Well, you call them and ask if there is anything they need... Contrary1 May 2015 #12

+1. I emptied litter boxes, washed dishes, and went wig-shopping. winter is coming May 2015 #14

+1 F4lconF16 May 2015 #16

You think I am not an "us"?????? This post was about NOT receiving the kind onecent May 2015 #21

You were the one who typed "I, too, wouldn't KNOW WHAT TO SAY??????" Contrary1 May 2015 #30

think this poster Duppers May 2015 #62

I have found it useful to say how can I help you? kairos12 May 2015 #106

Ew. F4lconF16 May 2015 #13

^^^^This^^^^!!!! haikugal May 2015 #19

+1 PassingFair May 2015 #27

...and I can back that up with anecdotes. ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #126

Holy shit. Orrex May 2015 #108

Bravo! hifiguy May 2015 #119

You are my new hero. Curmudgeoness May 2015 #121

It's not about you, okay? She didn't want or need to be told about someone else dying of cancer... Hekate May 2015 #32

Really. You think that my Dad, dead from cancer, at the age of 38 happened for a reason... Luminous Animal May 2015 #33

"Everything happens for a reason" is the one that made me want to punch people in the face. polly7 May 2015 #35

But then there are other people who might be comforted by it. treestar May 2015 #76

Well I have a huge family and many friends - I've never heard one of them say they were polly7 May 2015 #77

One of my cousin's wives died of ovarian cancer treestar May 2015 #79

I've lost many people very, very close to me. Not one believed they were dying for a reason. polly7 May 2015 #83

Then the erstwhile comforter should tailor his or her remarks to the recipient's feelings Orrex May 2015 #110

Truly... and this is just me who found out I hated hugs and hated platitudes at my husband's ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #127

Sometimes you don't need to say anything Ms. Yertle May 2015 #36

Wow, you think you can tell her what the fuck she should be happy with?? Disgusting. nt Logical May 2015 #49

Usually, you don't have to say anything...just be there Fairgo May 2015 #60

Cancer ridden or starving children suffer Duppers May 2015 #61

How about not touching me like you're afraid of catching my cancer? How about talking to me.... marble falls May 2015 #68

Yes there does seem a certain irony in treestar May 2015 #73

See post 65. F4lconF16 May 2015 #81

those are excellent! BlancheSplanchnik May 2015 #15

brilliant! secondwind May 2015 #18

Well, guess what? Manifestor_of_Light May 2015 #20

As if, Ms. Yertle May 2015 #38

"that sucks" actually works fine JI7 May 2015 #41

Don't know that Ms. Yertle May 2015 #44

If someone told me that, I'd tell them to fuck off. F4lconF16 May 2015 #46

Yep. Don't shove beliefs. SusanCalvin May 2015 #53

I've given up on being patient with that type of thing. F4lconF16 May 2015 #65

"Religious privilege" SusanCalvin May 2015 #69

Idk if you've checked it out F4lconF16 May 2015 #70

Thanks SusanCalvin May 2015 #75

Bahaha ain't that the truth. F4lconF16 May 2015 #80

You too. SusanCalvin May 2015 #86

You'd take offense at that? treestar May 2015 #82

No, not offense. F4lconF16 May 2015 #85

That sucks SusanCalvin May 2015 #57

It's my 'go to' response. DeadLetterOffice May 2015 #128

Sounds great to me! SusanCalvin May 2015 #131

I'd tell you to fuck off if you did. HERVEPA May 2015 #78

People who are really dying don't seem in general to be that hostile treestar May 2015 #84

I have heard that myself... F4lconF16 May 2015 #88

Why not? treestar May 2015 #90

You should say something like my thoughts will be with you HERVEPA May 2015 #93

I'm not all that terribly religious and don't talk about it treestar May 2015 #95

I'm a volunteer escort at Planned Parenthood HERVEPA May 2015 #99

Really. SusanCalvin May 2015 #102

I don't lie to people to make them feel better. F4lconF16 May 2015 #100

Yep. SusanCalvin May 2015 #104

I do have cancer SusanCalvin May 2015 #97

Of course it's not Ms. Yertle May 2015 #87

Wow. polly7 May 2015 #89

But some of these posters seem to take comments like treestar May 2015 #91

People who are dying or struggling with the tragic loss of a loved one polly7 May 2015 #96

It's not spreading my religious beliefs Ms. Yertle May 2015 #94

Yuck. nt. polly7 May 2015 #98

You'd like me gone from this world. F4lconF16 May 2015 #101

Pay no mind to the frauds. nt. polly7 May 2015 #103

I can think of someone else the world would be better without HERVEPA May 2015 #105

That's the religion of GOD! If you don't think the right way and BELIEVE!, then the ChisolmTrailDem May 2015 #117

You know that's not what I said, Ms. Yertle May 2015 #120

You know, if the world was without religious people who... ChisolmTrailDem May 2015 #130

Just for the record SusanCalvin May 2015 #134

Yep. SusanCalvin May 2015 #54

So instead of "everything happens for a reason" try "everything is random, tough luck" KittyWampus May 2015 #51

Well, the thing with the comments you give as examples SusanCalvin May 2015 #55

So maybe tone of voice and intent is what really matters most? KittyWampus May 2015 #56

Exactly SusanCalvin May 2015 #58

Religionists are fond of meaningless platitudes about "the higher purpose" of the universe Orrex May 2015 #107

Oh does that ring a bell with me. SusanCalvin May 2015 #135

Excellent. Those cards make sense. nt valerief May 2015 #22

As a survivor (so far), I would have loved one of those cards. Solly Mack May 2015 #23

Me too! Mostly, my experiences with my friends and family were positive when I was diagnosed. Luminous Animal May 2015 #34

I got a lot of people not knowing what to say. Solly Mack May 2015 #39

My gosh I must be lucky. SusanCalvin May 2015 #25

That was my reaction, too. Jim Lane May 2015 #136

Judging from the posts here SusanCalvin May 2015 #137

My favorite one... CrawlingChaos May 2015 #26

Thanks for reminding me about those books. SusanCalvin May 2015 #28

This one speaks to me ... 1StrongBlackMan May 2015 #29

My fave is the PUNCH one. I can't believe people think God wants kids to get cancer. SunSeeker May 2015 #31

i hate "everything happens for a reason" in just about any situation JI7 May 2015 #40

The one I hated the most came from my republican, catholic boss who said" At least you had her for monmouth4 May 2015 #42

Wow. Rex May 2015 #43

When I see stories of solidarity and people rallying to one person, I have to think they are lucky AZ Progressive May 2015 #45

No, I think you're right. nt F4lconF16 May 2015 #47

These are excellent and needed, thanks for posting ... slipslidingaway May 2015 #48

These are so spot on. Wish I'd had some for my younger brother... FailureToCommunicate May 2015 #50

Bravo!! Duppers May 2015 #63

I'll punch whoever tells you it's because of your own life choices IronLionZion May 2015 #67

Thanks for posting this. russspeakeasy May 2015 #92

How wonderful. SheilaT May 2015 #111

I'd like this one: "When you pray for me, ask your sociopathic asshole of a god Arugula Latte May 2015 #112

There ya go. nt SusanCalvin May 2015 #116

The first one's hilarious. The second one's perfect. Iggo May 2015 #113

Good Turbineguy May 2015 #123

and some Mother's Day cards... Duppers May 2015 #129