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AngryDem001

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48. What I mean is that you can teach children that their body is THEIRS,

Sat May 23, 2015, 12:00 AM

May 2015

without instilling a fear of the world. Caution, yes.....but not fear.

What concerns me is that parents are going to fall for the media's mantra that there is a "boogeyman" out there. Be it pedophiles, mass shooters etc.

I guess what I am trying to say is to educate kids about the dangers that they may face, while still letting them trick-or-treat and play outside. Please, please let kids maintain some semblance of innocence.

I was not attacking anyone with my "fear-mongering" comment.

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Things we should know about child molesters. (They are everywhere.) [View all] pnwmom May 2015 OP

The statistics repeatedly bear out that 1 in 4 women; and 1 in 7 men... CoffeeCat May 2015 #1

CoffeeCat, this is why I posted. pnwmom May 2015 #2

Another point too, about the perp profile... CoffeeCat May 2015 #3

I've read that, too, and it makes sense. pnwmom May 2015 #5

Not all predators are victims. Many victims do not become predators. Dont call me Shirley May 2015 #50

But "acting out" sexually with siblings... CoffeeCat May 2015 #69

If victims of sexual abuse are going to be labelled as potential aggressors they will stop Dont call me Shirley May 2015 #73

I do get what you are saying... CoffeeCat May 2015 #82

That's amazing... CoffeeCat May 2015 #4

I so hope you're right, CoffeeCat. I've been hoping that her dealing with this pnwmom May 2015 #6

My niece called me a couple of weeks ohheckyeah May 2015 #7

Wow. I'm thinking it's time for someone to hire a lawyer. Slapping her on the head is assault. pnwmom May 2015 #10

I wanted ohheckyeah May 2015 #19

"I think the pats and rubbing are to get the girls used to his touch." - that's called "grooming". FSogol May 2015 #24

Thanks. ohheckyeah May 2015 #25

And, The Principal Needs To Be Re-Educated As Well ProfessorGAC May 2015 #30

Holy crap Dorian Gray May 2015 #64

I am ohheckyeah May 2015 #65

A supportive Dorian Gray May 2015 #85

People always try to make it about "the Other", but they are in our own communities too.... Hekate May 2015 #8

+1000. n/t pnwmom May 2015 #9

This is just my opinion, AngryDem001 May 2015 #11

1 of out 4 girls has been molested as a child. This is not fear-mongering, this is reality. pnwmom May 2015 #12

And some number of boys as well. xfundy May 2015 #14

Yes -- 1 out of 6 or 7. It's an epidemic. n/t pnwmom May 2015 #16

1 out of 4? SheilaT May 2015 #18

It came from a CDC report. pnwmom May 2015 #20

I certainly hate to doubt the CDC, although that report SheilaT May 2015 #36

they say it is from the 2003 crime victimization survey hfojvt May 2015 #39

I'm sort of wondering the same thing. SheilaT May 2015 #40

Child sexual abuse is a larger category than rape/sexual assault. pnwmom May 2015 #44

That rate you cite Cal Carpenter May 2015 #70

it was for a year hfojvt May 2015 #71

And my point is that rape statistics and child molestation statistics are two different things. pnwmom May 2015 #81

The report from the Cleveland Rape Crisis Center had footnotes pnwmom May 2015 #42

CDC site says report not found- here is what the CDC actually says- snooper2 May 2015 #43

Child sexual abuse is a broader category, including types of actions pnwmom May 2015 #45

I'm not trying to minimize anything just looking for the raw data from CDC or FBI snooper2 May 2015 #46

The number includes girls up to the age of 18 so it would obviously be lower at the age of 11. pnwmom May 2015 #47

Not when they really are everywhere. xfundy May 2015 #15

I am tuned into reality. AngryDem001 May 2015 #21

What are some effective ways to educate children about the threat they face? Brickbat May 2015 #23

Talk openly to the children. Assuming it's not a primary parent who is molesting them underahedgerow May 2015 #28

Oh, I know. I just wanted to see where AngryDem001 drew the line between education and Brickbat May 2015 #32

What I mean is that you can teach children that their body is THEIRS, AngryDem001 May 2015 #48

I think that was the OP's point. Brickbat May 2015 #66

Respect children's bodily autonomy by not forcing them to hug or kiss people. KitSileya May 2015 #35

Consciously conflating concern and awareness with "scared" kind of invalidates your premise LanternWaste May 2015 #38

It's not the boogeyman behind a tree, it's the one preparing dinner, or watching TV on the sofa Scootaloo May 2015 #77

I imagine many people believe accuracy is indeed, fear mongering. LanternWaste May 2015 #37

Sorry but they are everywhere. Step out of the denial hole. Dont call me Shirley May 2015 #51

Sorry, but I am not going to go through life scared of my own shadow. AngryDem001 May 2015 #52

I didn't say be afraid. I said be aware. Big difference. Dont call me Shirley May 2015 #53

I apologize for snapping. AngryDem001 May 2015 #55

Dem001... Dont call me Shirley May 2015 #72

I do have a great therapist. AngryDem001 May 2015 #74

Thank goodness for great therapists! Dont call me Shirley May 2015 #75

This is accurate. Blue_In_AK May 2015 #13

Yes, the one I know of is a well-respected business owner. No one would ever guess. pnwmom May 2015 #17

The one I know lives in 840high May 2015 #83

And often they get away with it for years because it gets hushed up. hobbit709 May 2015 #22

Josh Dugger comes to mind. I always suspect the overly religous katmondoo May 2015 #26

But you should also be aware that these people exist in all types of families pnwmom May 2015 #41

"focus 90 percent of our efforts toward protecting children from the abusers who are not strangers" lumberjack_jeff May 2015 #27

By talking about it outside the home, in churches, in schools and anywhere we can. If WE underahedgerow May 2015 #29

Teaching bodily autonomy and consent from an early age. Brickbat May 2015 #33

Anecdote; Nearly all child molesters were also victims of molestation. That is not to say however, underahedgerow May 2015 #31

ore to the fact, most of them are the ones you least expect it of. KitSileya May 2015 #34

Thank you pnwmom Dont call me Shirley May 2015 #49

You're very welcome! pnwmom May 2015 #57

This hits close to home!!! Here is personal proof of the post's premise. Mira May 2015 #54

I am so glad your son and grandson dodged that bullet. pnwmom May 2015 #56

"They usually dont appear different in any way"- I disagree WestCoastLib May 2015 #58

Jerry Sandusky. Does the name ring any bells? Did you suspect him all along? pnwmom May 2015 #59

Have you seen video of jerry Sandusky? WestCoastLib May 2015 #60

I know a number of people in the Penn State community pnwmom May 2015 #61

People never like to admit they were wrong WestCoastLib May 2015 #67

What makes a person seem "off" ? oberliner May 2015 #68

Most people should be able to pick up on them WestCoastLib May 2015 #86

OK oberliner May 2015 #87

Jim Bob Duggar greymattermom May 2015 #62

He does seem creepy, and so does his wife. But we have might have more to worry about pnwmom May 2015 #63

Be afraid... Be very afraid... Oktober May 2015 #76

I think it's also wise to include the gender of the Lilith Rising May 2015 #78

It truly is scary. romanic May 2015 #79

I'm glad you trust your instincts, romanic, and had better judgment than your dad. n/t pnwmom May 2015 #80

Thank you. romanic May 2015 #84