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234. I am so sorry for your loss, Nance

Wed May 27, 2015, 03:15 AM

May 2015

Jeff was a truly good-guy..sharp as a tack with a blistering wit. He will be sorely missed. It sucks that he went so quickly, but let me tell you..after my stroke in January, I have pondered my own demise, and I would NOT want to linger, fading away for months/years. I have seen too many of my dear friends struggle mightily and be in constant pain for years, only to suffer some more at the end.

It sounds like you had some time to adjust and to say what needed saying and to enjoy thew time you had left. I'm sure you would have wanted 22 more years, but it sounds like you two made the most of the time you had.

Take care of yourself now, and LET PEOPLE AROUND YOU HELP.. We all shrug off offers of help, because we want to put on the strong face, but you suffered too, and friends/family can take a little of the load off your shoulders..

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Where to Begin - When Something So Special Has Ended? [View all] NanceGreggs May 2015 OP

I am so sorry for your loss Nance! hrmjustin May 2015 #1

My deepest sympathy Nance riderinthestorm May 2015 #2

My sincere condolences Beaverhausen May 2015 #3

So sorry for your loss Nance mcar May 2015 #4

Sorry seems so inadequate. Solly Mack May 2015 #5

May Jeff rest in peace. lovemydog May 2015 #6

I am so very sorry for your loss. Peace and comfort to you and all who love him. PeaceNikki May 2015 #7

I'm so sorry for your loss. Autumn May 2015 #8

Love you Nance! leftofcool May 2015 #9

A wonderful tribute, Nance! MineralMan May 2015 #10

I'm so sorry for your loss treestar May 2015 #11

He did the original iteration awoke_in_2003 May 2015 #81

My heart goes out to you and your family, NanceGreggs. octoberlib May 2015 #12

condolences and silent key allan01 May 2015 #13

May you eventually find peace in the wonderful memories of the love that you shared. demmiblue May 2015 #14

My best to you. SoapBox May 2015 #15

Very sorry for your loss Nance... stevenleser May 2015 #16

Nance, what a beautiful tribute to your beloved Jeff. MoonRiver May 2015 #17

I got a teared up reading this OKNancy May 2015 #18

I've done that several times today awoke_in_2003 May 2015 #82

I'm really sorry H2O Man May 2015 #19

My deepest condolonces etherealtruth May 2015 #20

I loved Jeff, Nance. Blue_In_AK May 2015 #21

I'm so sorry, NanceGreggs. Lars39 May 2015 #22

I'm so sorry. yewberry May 2015 #23

Peace to you and your family SalviaBlue May 2015 #24

My deepest condolences to you, Nance. greatauntoftriplets May 2015 #25

Two wonderful DUers malaise May 2015 #26

my condolences Nance quickesst May 2015 #27

You have my condolences. Rex May 2015 #28

..... madfloridian May 2015 #29

Deepest condolences to you Nance. He was a DUzy. He will be missed. joanbarnes May 2015 #30

I am so sorry. GoCubsGo May 2015 #31

Nance, Raine1967 May 2015 #32

So very sorry for your loss Fumesucker May 2015 #33

I'm so very sorry for your loss, Nance Hekate May 2015 #34

Very sorry for your loss MissDeeds May 2015 #35

Oof Egnever May 2015 #36

So sorry for your loss wellstone dem May 2015 #37

so sorry for your loss. barbtries May 2015 #38

I'm happy for the 22 years you had together, and sad for your loss n/t eridani May 2015 #39

You have my depest sympathy GeoWilliam750 May 2015 #40

Thank you for sharing such sweet insights of your beloved.. Peacetrain May 2015 #41

Deeply sorry for your loss. Warren DeMontague May 2015 #42

What a beautiful tribute. ucrdem May 2015 #43

condolences, Nance villager May 2015 #44

Sorry for your loss, Nance. bravenak May 2015 #45

Upwards and Onwards! Agony May 2015 #46

So sorry. Beautiful post. likesmountains 52 May 2015 #47

Nance, I am so terribly sorry. JeffR was one of the smartest, baddest people here Number23 May 2015 #48

I am sorry for your loss. icymist May 2015 #49

I am so sorry for your loss. Andy823 May 2015 #50

A warm embrace, sweetie. onehandle May 2015 #51

Nance, I am very sorry for your loss Marrah_G May 2015 #52

My heart aches for you. MerryBlooms May 2015 #53

...... daleanime May 2015 #54

I am so sorry for your loss riverbendviewgal May 2015 #55

Love to you, Nance. WilliamPitt May 2015 #56

Nance Bobbie Jo May 2015 #57

So much joy and laughter. bleever May 2015 #58

I am so sorry KT2000 May 2015 #59

Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. greatlaurel May 2015 #60

Nance--as much as I have admired your words here before--these are the best. panader0 May 2015 #61

My deepest sympathies to you & your family. CrispyQ May 2015 #62

Jeff was so lucky to have someone like you! And we are/were lucky to have you and had Jeff on DU FailureToCommunicate May 2015 #63

... shenmue May 2015 #64

What a huge loss to you, your family and friends LiberalEsto May 2015 #65

oh, Nance bigtree May 2015 #66

I'm so sorry for your loss BainsBane May 2015 #67

What a beautiful tribute to Jeff, Nance~ Cha May 2015 #68

... Mnemosyne May 2015 #69

Beautiful. Thank you. n/t n2doc May 2015 #70

Thank you Nance.. cbayer May 2015 #71

My heart breaks for you! helderheid May 2015 #72

Thank you for this. babylonsister May 2015 #73

Thank you Nance, and please accept Mira May 2015 #74

I'm so sorry! JeffR was one of a kind - a DUzy - and we'll miss him. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2015 #75

you both are our blessing irisblue May 2015 #76

"his ability to make people laugh" awoke_in_2003 May 2015 #77

Touching tribute, Nance Ruby the Liberal May 2015 #78

tears... welled up salin May 2015 #79

My heart is with you. MuseRider May 2015 #80

I am such a peripheral member here TNNurse May 2015 #83

So sorry for your loss. AtomicKitten May 2015 #84

My sincerest condolences frazzled May 2015 #85

I have been thinking of you for the past few days, Nance dixiegrrrrl May 2015 #86

Thanks for the post, Nance. NYC_SKP May 2015 #87

Please accept my deepest sympathy Katashi_itto May 2015 #88

( ::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::: WillyT May 2015 #89

Very sorry for your loss, Nance. City Lights May 2015 #90

So very sorry for you loss, Nance. mountain grammy May 2015 #91

Grief is such a personal thing, and sharing it with us makes me feel deeply honored. Loki May 2015 #92

My deepest sympathy. Jackpine Radical May 2015 #93

As a research scientist sharp_stick May 2015 #94

My love and condolences to you Nance. annabanana May 2015 #95

Beautiful tribute.....may we all find such a love...my deepest sympathies.... AuntPatsy May 2015 #96

My sincere condolences Crabby Appleton May 2015 #97

Sharing even after his death. rurallib May 2015 #98

Sorry Nance. Kingofalldems May 2015 #99

Very sorry. n/t Bonhomme Richard May 2015 #100

So sorry, Nance. Gidney N Cloyd May 2015 #101

. JI7 May 2015 #102

You have always been one of my favorites, and my heart just aches for you. MADem May 2015 #103

A touching tribute to a good man. My condolences, Nance. nt ChisolmTrailDem May 2015 #104

My heart goes out to you. I hope your memories of such love will sustain you for LoisB May 2015 #105

I am so sorry, Nance. Go in peace Jeff, you will be missed, thank you for being part of our uppityperson May 2015 #106

A beautiful tribute to your love. sheshe2 May 2015 #107

My deepest condolences to you, Nance... virgdem May 2015 #108

You're amazing Nance. So sorry for your loss. joshcryer May 2015 #109

Bless you. ((hugs)) vanlassie May 2015 #110

Your precious time with JeffR....we should all be so fortunate Sheepshank May 2015 #111

Nance, nature made us all brothers and sisters, Unknown Beatle May 2015 #112

So sorry for your loss MaggieD May 2015 #113

I'm deeply sorry to hear this. JohnnyLib2 May 2015 #114

Very sorry for your loss. Paka May 2015 #115

My deepest condolences. 840high May 2015 #116

Deepest sympathy Nance. kentuck May 2015 #117

Oh Nance. My deepest and most sincere condolences and sympathies. morningfog May 2015 #118

hugs nadinbrzezinski May 2015 #119

My sympathies. Agschmid May 2015 #120

Sorry, Nance. n/t freshwest May 2015 #121

Oh my dear Nance... CaliforniaPeggy May 2015 #122

I am sorry for your loss. nm rhett o rick May 2015 #123

I am so sorry for your loss Nance... Triana May 2015 #124

That was the most beautiful tribute I have ever read Richard D May 2015 #125

Beautiful post worthy of a beautiful person alcibiades_mystery May 2015 #126

Hard to know what to say. May he cross easy. nolabear May 2015 #127

You were luckier than most. You found a soulmate. xfundy May 2015 #128

Nance.... jazzimov May 2015 #129

Nance, where to begin? Dem2theMax May 2015 #130

I'm so sorry you lost him. Warpy May 2015 #131

I am sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester May 2015 #132

(((hugs))) Nance. Jeff was a wonderful person who will be missed. sueh May 2015 #133

Oh, Nance blondie58 May 2015 #134

So sorry for your loss. bearssoapbox May 2015 #135

I'm so sorry for your loss. Peace and comfort to all who loved and will miss JeffR. SaveOurDemocracy May 2015 #136

This thread needs more kicks. longship May 2015 #137

my deepest sympathy marym625 May 2015 #138

And, a beautiful light goes out. juajen May 2015 #139

I forgot. Being a widow isn't easy. juajen May 2015 #140

I am so very sorry, Nance! sabrina 1 May 2015 #141

So sorry for your loss. progressoid May 2015 #142

You were blessed to have found each other and to have shared so much together. merrily May 2015 #143

Well said. Major Hogwash May 2015 #144

My deepest condolences to you and everyone who loved Jeff Tom Ripley May 2015 #145

The best of the universe JustAnotherGen May 2015 #146

Condolences for your tragic loss, Nance Pooka Fey May 2015 #147

Sad. So sorry for your loss rpannier May 2015 #148

Very sad to hear of your loss, Nance. boston bean May 2015 #149

I find this shocking to say the least... rasputin1952 May 2015 #150

Very sad to hear this. cwydro May 2015 #151

My sincerest sympathies,Nance. sufrommich May 2015 #152

Hi Nance Renew Deal May 2015 #153

My deepest sympathies. TM99 May 2015 #154

a beautiful tribute backwoodsbob May 2015 #155

My sincerest condolences on your loss. ClusterFreak May 2015 #156

Nonce, not that you need me to point this out.... DFW May 2015 #157

Your words are the perfect tribute to a man who brought so much life to DU. beac May 2015 #158

My deepest sympathy to you. nruthie May 2015 #159

I have few words to share The Wizard May 2015 #160

Aloha 'oe JeffR, aloha no Nance. mahina May 2015 #161

Your time together sounds precious Puglover May 2015 #162

... SidDithers May 2015 #163

I was shocked and saddened to hear of the loss of JeffR... Spazito May 2015 #164

What a lovely tribute, Nance. catbyte May 2015 #165

I'm sorry for your loss IVoteDFL May 2015 #166

You have style, Nance. randome May 2015 #167

NanceGreggs Diclotican May 2015 #168

I am so sorry for your loss, Nance. In_The_Wind May 2015 #169

Thank you Thespian2 May 2015 #170

Wishing courage and strength to you, Nance, at this terrible juncture in your life. Surya Gayatri May 2015 #171

Sincere consolences Plucketeer May 2015 #172

Nance....I'm speechless.... BlancheSplanchnik May 2015 #173

All the best to you, NanceGreggs. DisgustipatedinCA May 2015 #174

You're in my thoughts CaptainTruth May 2015 #175

jeff, wherever you are heaven05 May 2015 #176

So very sad for your loss, Nance. crim son May 2015 #177

RIP wryter2000 May 2015 #178

I'm so sorry for your loss, Nance. intheflow May 2015 #179

Message auto-removed Name removed Jun 2015 #237

Fantastic tribute, and such good advice. bigwillq May 2015 #180

My sincere and heartfelt condolences, Nance. Cooley Hurd May 2015 #181

RIP Jeff. cherokeeprogressive May 2015 #182

I am sorry for your loss. immoderate May 2015 #183

JeffR represented the best of DU�.. blm May 2015 #184

I can see that he was well-loved here eloydude May 2015 #185

You are such a kind person Nance... CoffeeCat May 2015 #186

My heartfelt condolences Algernon Moncrieff May 2015 #187

And in the end world wide wally May 2015 #188

My deepest sympathy for your loss. Moostache May 2015 #189

He will rest in peace, because...you. N_E_1 for Tennis May 2015 #190

Godspeed to your Jeff, and best wishes to you Nance. NaturalHigh May 2015 #191

So sorry for your loss, Nance mithnanthy May 2015 #192

It's hard to lose the people we love, my best to you and your family and friends at this time. Bluenorthwest May 2015 #193

Peace to your husband and to you, NanceGreggs..so sorry to hear of your deep loss. Jefferson23 May 2015 #194

Thanks for sharing this. JEB May 2015 #195

A DUzy from JeffR (saved in My Inbox): Buzz Clik May 2015 #196

Thanks sooo much ... NanceGreggs May 2015 #222

(( )) Nance lamp_shade May 2015 #197

Well done, Nance. kentuck May 2015 #198

May he rest in peace NewJeffCT May 2015 #199

whenever someone passes DonCoquixote May 2015 #200

We lost a good friend..... Are_grits_groceries May 2015 #201

Nance - what a wonderful tribute BumRushDaShow May 2015 #202

Such a touching tribute to a lovely person Dems to Win May 2015 #203

My deepest condolences noiretextatique May 2015 #204

His spirit will live on both on DU and in the world-at-large AikidoSoul May 2015 #205

No words. Just tears and hugs for you. protect our future May 2015 #206

at a loss for words... my deepest sympathies. Raster May 2015 #207

I'm very sorry to hear this. n/t alarimer May 2015 #208

My deepest sympathy susanr516 May 2015 #209

I am so sorry for your loss demtenjeep May 2015 #210

Such a lovely tribute. countingbluecars May 2015 #211

I am so sorry Jeff was taken from you Liberal_in_LA May 2015 #212

My condolences. Warren Stupidity May 2015 #213

Peace to you, Nance countryjake May 2015 #214

I have no words. And I'm crying as I type. GoneOffShore May 2015 #215

Nance... pacalo May 2015 #216

Very sorry to hear this Prism May 2015 #217

truly a life well lived..sincere and heartfelt condolences Ninga May 2015 #218

I am so very sorry for your loss kanda May 2015 #219

Best for you Nance. trumad May 2015 #220

A heartfelt thanks ... NanceGreggs May 2015 #221

I still remember getting my first DUzy progressoid May 2015 #223

I am so sorry. Kali May 2015 #224

Such a terrible loss...... femmocrat May 2015 #225

I am so sorry for your loss-- vixengrl May 2015 #226

My condolences to you for your loss. I lost someone very dear to me a few years ago. LongTomH May 2015 #227

What you had was special... MrMickeysMom May 2015 #228

A true story - FourScore May 2015 #229

R.I.P. JeffR CreekDog May 2015 #230

I am so sad you lost him. redwitch May 2015 #231

I am so sorry for your loss Nance! akbacchus_BC May 2015 #232

I am so sorry for your loss suffragette May 2015 #233

I am so sorry for your loss, Nance SoCalDem May 2015 #234

I didn't see this before. herding cats May 2015 #235

My deepest sympathies go out to you... Hugin May 2015 #236

I am so very truly sorry, Nance. So sorry. nt msanthrope Jun 2015 #238