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laundry_queen

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33. Oh yeah, the 'are you mom enough' stuff

Fri May 11, 2012, 09:54 PM

May 2012

is crap.

I belonged...once upon a long time ago...to a message board that was full of attachment parenting women that were ALL about the contest as to who could be the BEST attachment parent. They pissed off a lot of people and a lot of women ended up leaving and forming more supportive message boards because of the competition aspect of it. So I really disagree with the 'competition' implication that the title has.

But I don't know...I get what you are saying about the picture, but having seen 3 year olds run up to their moms, lift their shirts, have a quick drink while standing up and leave to go play, I also know breastfeeding/attachment parenting isn't always about some kind of virtuous mothering goddess smothering her nursing child with snuggles.

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Why I really dislike the Time nursing cover [View all] cali May 2012 OP

that's creepy bigtree May 2012 #1

Because JustAnotherGen May 2012 #2

ha! bigtree May 2012 #4

Except JustAnotherGen May 2012 #7

ya.... but, it will be in a mud pit of wrestling with torn clothes.... gotta keep it real for the seabeyond May 2012 #8

I luuuurv JustAnotherGen May 2012 #11

back atcha, woman. nt seabeyond May 2012 #12

Spot on madokie May 2012 #79

Saw a comment at the Washington Post that summed it up for me: MadrasT May 2012 #3

right. along with calis OP. so into breatfeeding and the nature of it all. keep your fuckin hands seabeyond May 2012 #5

They just want to sell more magazines, Quantess May 2012 #6

There it is RZM May 2012 #30

you got it. magical thyme May 2012 #91

That kid is going to spend the rest of his life with that image following him. Arkana May 2012 #9

as a mom that sees a higher in all things, even things that are not good... i can easily see seabeyond May 2012 #10

The kid is going to be fine. FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #16

+1000000 nt laundry_queen May 2012 #22

No, he is gonna be f***ed up. blueamy66 May 2012 #82

Sorry, not following you. n/t FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #85

If a mom wants to breast feed HappyMe May 2012 #13

LOL!! that is unintentionally funny cali May 2012 #14

you need to add this link. an understanding the choices they had for a cover, and why..... seabeyond May 2012 #17

The shot of her with the little boy actually in her arms LadyHawkAZ May 2012 #26

that is what i posted just now, below. that picture showed attachment. this is detached "attachment" seabeyond May 2012 #29

yeah LadyHawkAZ May 2012 #54

stir up drama. seabeyond May 2012 #56

If that kid was 3, then I'm 22. Bake May 2012 #18

Yeah, he looks like a first-grader. And uncomfortable with the pose. TwilightGardener May 2012 #21

One of our neighbor's kids was that tall at 3. And my own daughter wasn't far behind. n/t gkhouston May 2012 #42

He drinks a lot of milk. Son of Gob May 2012 #49

The kid is 3. I heard that crap all of my daughter's life. She is full grown now at age 22 Luminous Animal May 2012 #65

Thank YOU! ScreamingMeemie May 2012 #67

actually the kid will be four very shortly. cali May 2012 #73

Really? She said that? blueamy66 May 2012 #78

That would have been stupid. She was talking at 9 months. Luminous Animal May 2012 #94

Not only that, some moms CAN'T breast feed. YellowRubberDuckie May 2012 #76

Yep! You got it! blueamy66 May 2012 #81

I completely disagree FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #15

I agree. laundry_queen May 2012 #23

i listened to NPR on this. a list of women involved in promoting breastfeeding and all had issue seabeyond May 2012 #27

Oh yeah, the 'are you mom enough' stuff laundry_queen May 2012 #33

I agree Dorian Gray May 2012 #80

Toddlers? Clearly you never taught preschool. cr8tvlde May 2012 #31

What if it were a feminine mom in a nice skirt and blouse and a blonde, ringleted, innocent-looking seabeyond May 2012 #34

Um, yeah it is their job. laundry_queen May 2012 #35

Well, there is a difference... cr8tvlde May 2012 #50

so you are saying it is better that we are seeing the son breast feed than a daughter? seabeyond May 2012 #55

Yes, because the sexual tension would not be there cr8tvlde May 2012 #59

There is no sexual tension "there" The sexual tension is with "you", FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #87

"What if it were a feminine mom in a nice skirt and blouse and a blonde, ringleted, innocent-looking FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #47

I'll be glad when people stop acting like an exposed breast FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #46

Take the "toddler" out of it and she can strip to naked...it's not about boobies or "nip slips" cr8tvlde May 2012 #62

the boy toddlers does not make it edgy.... that is the stupid. jeezus.... seabeyond May 2012 #68

Kiddie porn?!? laundry_queen May 2012 #72

It's disturbing that you are determined to see sex and abuse FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #88

That's a toddler? blueamy66 May 2012 #83

The Young Boy Does NOT Look Happy to Be There. I Suspect it's Deliberate. NYC_SKP May 2012 #19

Uh, he looks big enough to tackle her. DevonRex May 2012 #20

Yep. Thinking this poor kid isn't going to have a lot of "play dates" cr8tvlde May 2012 #24

Seriously. That picture is online now. It'll NEVER go away. DevonRex May 2012 #25

Why does Dad's location matter? ScreamingMeemie May 2012 #43

Whoa. Are you serious? Dad doesn't matter? cr8tvlde May 2012 #51

What "makes sense now"? I happen to have a problem with this cover. ScreamingMeemie May 2012 #52

Why does a dad's location matter when breastfeeding? uppityperson May 2012 #53

My second child would've been at least that big at 3 years old. laundry_queen May 2012 #36

I nursed both my boys. They stopped nursing on their own. DevonRex May 2012 #66

Publicly breastfeeding a three-year-old. We have a family story about that. aquart May 2012 #28

Good for her! What great quick thinking! CaliforniaPeggy May 2012 #32

:) laundry_queen May 2012 #37

Time posted this right before "Mother's Day" too ?????? BillyJack May 2012 #38

Interesting tidbit. laundry_queen May 2012 #39

This is why I like it and dislike it. It got attention. morningfog May 2012 #40

yes. by once again, pitting women against women. nothing new there. but hey.... seabeyond May 2012 #41

And that is another issue that can be explored. morningfog May 2012 #45

Here's my problem with this cover. I bottle fed one of my kids and breastfed the other. ScreamingMeemie May 2012 #44

I look at it as actual art, in the best sense of the word bhikkhu May 2012 #48

There is nothing "real" or "artsy" about having a photo of a young boy and his mother cr8tvlde May 2012 #57

Because society is so cold and closed and intolerant bhikkhu May 2012 #58

Why would a parent use their child as a sociological experiment? cr8tvlde May 2012 #61

Why are people so put out by breastfeeding bhikkhu May 2012 #64

++++++++ n/t FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #86

It's only screwed up in America. nt laundry_queen May 2012 #70

That may be, regardless, this is where he must grow up...it's reality cr8tvlde May 2012 #89

Kids will always find something to bully about. laundry_queen May 2012 #93

one of the niftiest about husband, that to this day i value and appreciate. 3 yr old. never saying seabeyond May 2012 #95

:) He sounds like a great guy. nt laundry_queen May 2012 #96

I wonder how "extended breast-feeders" feel about kids with bottles at 3-7 years old. joshcryer May 2012 #60

I'd have no issue with it. laundry_queen May 2012 #71

"make him fly, mother!" Warren DeMontague May 2012 #63

Grr. I hate that little brat. He's one step below Joffery on my list of characters who need to die. white_wolf May 2012 #69

Don't worry. boppers May 2012 #75

Check back at 16 . . . I bet the kid's still there. Vinca May 2012 #74

That's a kid? Fla_Democrat May 2012 #77

Time wanted to sensationalize the issue and sell magazines Cairycat May 2012 #84

The whole attachment parenting things creeps me out and makes me worry about the future alarimer May 2012 #90

Time has changed the cover picture. Prometheus Bound May 2012 #92