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CoffeeCat

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12. I'm glad that you survived too...

Fri Jun 5, 2015, 02:21 AM

Jun 2015

I believe that it is a huge victory to be able to tell your story and see the abuse and the abusers in true light.

I couldn't have told my story when I was 20. I was in such denial.

I'm sorry that your mom was so terrible, but it is empowering to name what she was. It's like handing the abuse back to them. We never get over it, but at least we can understand that we were not at fault and that something was terribly wrong with these people.

I appreciate your kindness. Best to you.

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I have no words. ScreamingMeemie Jun 2015 #1

Thank you... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #13

This is so beautifully put. peace13 Jun 2015 #2

Thank you Kim... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #14

Bless you RobertEarl Jun 2015 #3

Thank you... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #15

I agree that it is hard to believe that it is a coincidence that the cop who they went to StevieM Jun 2015 #4

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your intuitive feelings are hopemountain Jun 2015 #47

Thank you for your kind words... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #72

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(((CoffeeCat))) Solly Mack Jun 2015 #6

Hugs to you (((Solly Mack))) CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #18

I can kind of relate to your story & thank you so much for sharing it. giftedgirl77 Jun 2015 #7

I'm glad you're OK now xfundy Jun 2015 #16

Thank you, it didn't get much better until I was about 30 giftedgirl77 Jun 2015 #19

Ignorant, bigoted, violent, wife beating, child beating, pedophilic families is Zorra Jun 2015 #8

I agree... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #21

Thank you for sharing your story. dem in texas Jun 2015 #9

Thank you so much... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #20

Oh damn, that was well put...... BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2015 #10

Thank you for sharing that stopwastingmymoney Jun 2015 #11

I'm glad that you survived too... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #12

Thank you stopwastingmymoney Jun 2015 #69

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Yes, it's been a long time now stopwastingmymoney Jun 2015 #88

A well written and very brave post. Paka Jun 2015 #22

I just saw clips of the Duggar girls being interviewed Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #23

thank you for sharing that with us renate Jun 2015 #24

Wow! Recommended. Duppers Jun 2015 #25

In a weird way you could say my family was an iceberg family too. Kalidurga Jun 2015 #26

You are a very strong person! CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #84

Thank you I feel guilty about getting away so much Kalidurga Jun 2015 #87

CoffeeCat, I can't begin to comprehend what Unknown Beatle Jun 2015 #27

Wow! malaise Jun 2015 #28

My iceberg family melted SoCalDem Jun 2015 #29

Thank you for sharing your story with us Fumesucker Jun 2015 #30

Incredible post ((((CoffeeCat)))) CrawlingChaos Jun 2015 #31

thank you cali Jun 2015 #32

Recognizing and ending the cycle of abuse Freddie Jun 2015 #33

another sign of how sick this country has become that the duggars are celebs and are propped up by KG Jun 2015 #34

Powerful. Javaman Jun 2015 #35

"Iceberg family" is such a perfect term riderinthestorm Jun 2015 #36

Holy hell, this is one of the most powerful stories I have read on DU. demmiblue Jun 2015 #37

Thanks for sharing. Xyzse Jun 2015 #38

Simply amazed by you. prayin4rain Jun 2015 #39

Thank you for bravely telling your story Dems to Win Jun 2015 #40

Oh my god... MynameisBlarney Jun 2015 #41

Wow. Thank you for sharing your story and your insight. Avalux Jun 2015 #42

Typing through my tears. Canoe52 Jun 2015 #43

Brilliant cp Jun 2015 #44

I am sorry for your experience but I am grateful that you shared it. DawgHouse Jun 2015 #45

This: chervilant Jun 2015 #46

It is so amazing that you were able to share this. TNNurse Jun 2015 #48

Peace tazkcmo Jun 2015 #49

Thanks for sharing. My best to you and all that suffer as you have/do. nm rhett o rick Jun 2015 #50

That you can write such a perfect and potent account DamnYankeeInHouston Jun 2015 #51

I'm sorry you had to endure this. Nobody should. Horse with no Name Jun 2015 #52

That 13 year old was a kid, too. Warpy Jun 2015 #53

Thank you so much Warpy... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #91

Oh CoffeeCat, so poignantly written. Dont call me Shirley Jun 2015 #54

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... Dont call me Shirley Jun 2015 #92

And that bit "they were asleep" & "it was through their clothes" is most likely bullshit AnotherMother4Peace Jun 2015 #55

What an amazing story, CoffeeCat. Thank you SO much for sharing this pain and this dreadful burden calimary Jun 2015 #56

A wonderful post too stopwastingmymoney Jun 2015 #68

Thanks, sweetie. calimary Jun 2015 #70

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Thank you for bravely sharing with us. myrna minx Jun 2015 #57

Please keep talking. The Jungle 1 Jun 2015 #58

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Thank you. Was talking to my husband tonight about the problem I am seeing that has permeated glinda Jun 2015 #59

I am glad that you escaped your own... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #78

They are both spinning and protecting their craziness. America is in the trash can. glinda Jun 2015 #93

I know broken families--devastated by heroin or death, MisterP Jun 2015 #60

Powerful and extremely well written. 99Forever Jun 2015 #61

Thank you for writing that. byronius Jun 2015 #62

Against all odds, your breaking the abuse cycle is amazing, this should be shared, AuntPatsy Jun 2015 #63

I am completely blown away... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #76

Definitely....it helps for some in that they don't feel so alone with it all... AuntPatsy Jun 2015 #77

I am so very sorry LiberalElite Jun 2015 #64

"They are a victim factory...." Hekate Jun 2015 #65

CoffeeCat you are very brave ImBushed Jun 2015 #66

You bring up an interesting point... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #75

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My family...for a relatively short time .... Sheepshank Jun 2015 #67

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Iceberg Families EweWish Jun 2015 #71

Wow, what a kind post... CoffeeCat Jun 2015 #73

So emphathetically stated. blue neen Jun 2015 #79

...ending the cycle... blue neen Jun 2015 #80

WOW! wendylaroux Jun 2015 #82

I have no adequate words to express my sorrow for what you went through etherealtruth Jun 2015 #86

I'm not sure this is being blown up to be more than it really is JonLP24 Jun 2015 #89