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FedUpWithIt All

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87. There is no sexual tension "there" The sexual tension is with "you",

Sat May 12, 2012, 01:29 PM

May 2012

the reader, who is projecting issues onto the mother and her child.

The people having issue with this are the ones who are seeing what they want to see. The are projecting their twisted notions. Their projections are not the reality though. The reality is simply a mother feeding and nurturing her child.

The picture was brilliant in that it actually reflects the projection rather than the reality and it clearly has hit the mark.

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Why I really dislike the Time nursing cover [View all] cali May 2012 OP

that's creepy bigtree May 2012 #1

Because JustAnotherGen May 2012 #2

ha! bigtree May 2012 #4

Except JustAnotherGen May 2012 #7

ya.... but, it will be in a mud pit of wrestling with torn clothes.... gotta keep it real for the seabeyond May 2012 #8

I luuuurv JustAnotherGen May 2012 #11

back atcha, woman. nt seabeyond May 2012 #12

Spot on madokie May 2012 #79

Saw a comment at the Washington Post that summed it up for me: MadrasT May 2012 #3

right. along with calis OP. so into breatfeeding and the nature of it all. keep your fuckin hands seabeyond May 2012 #5

They just want to sell more magazines, Quantess May 2012 #6

There it is RZM May 2012 #30

you got it. magical thyme May 2012 #91

That kid is going to spend the rest of his life with that image following him. Arkana May 2012 #9

as a mom that sees a higher in all things, even things that are not good... i can easily see seabeyond May 2012 #10

The kid is going to be fine. FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #16

+1000000 nt laundry_queen May 2012 #22

No, he is gonna be f***ed up. blueamy66 May 2012 #82

Sorry, not following you. n/t FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #85

If a mom wants to breast feed HappyMe May 2012 #13

LOL!! that is unintentionally funny cali May 2012 #14

you need to add this link. an understanding the choices they had for a cover, and why..... seabeyond May 2012 #17

The shot of her with the little boy actually in her arms LadyHawkAZ May 2012 #26

that is what i posted just now, below. that picture showed attachment. this is detached "attachment" seabeyond May 2012 #29

yeah LadyHawkAZ May 2012 #54

stir up drama. seabeyond May 2012 #56

If that kid was 3, then I'm 22. Bake May 2012 #18

Yeah, he looks like a first-grader. And uncomfortable with the pose. TwilightGardener May 2012 #21

One of our neighbor's kids was that tall at 3. And my own daughter wasn't far behind. n/t gkhouston May 2012 #42

He drinks a lot of milk. Son of Gob May 2012 #49

The kid is 3. I heard that crap all of my daughter's life. She is full grown now at age 22 Luminous Animal May 2012 #65

Thank YOU! ScreamingMeemie May 2012 #67

actually the kid will be four very shortly. cali May 2012 #73

Really? She said that? blueamy66 May 2012 #78

That would have been stupid. She was talking at 9 months. Luminous Animal May 2012 #94

Not only that, some moms CAN'T breast feed. YellowRubberDuckie May 2012 #76

Yep! You got it! blueamy66 May 2012 #81

I completely disagree FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #15

I agree. laundry_queen May 2012 #23

i listened to NPR on this. a list of women involved in promoting breastfeeding and all had issue seabeyond May 2012 #27

Oh yeah, the 'are you mom enough' stuff laundry_queen May 2012 #33

I agree Dorian Gray May 2012 #80

Toddlers? Clearly you never taught preschool. cr8tvlde May 2012 #31

What if it were a feminine mom in a nice skirt and blouse and a blonde, ringleted, innocent-looking seabeyond May 2012 #34

Um, yeah it is their job. laundry_queen May 2012 #35

Well, there is a difference... cr8tvlde May 2012 #50

so you are saying it is better that we are seeing the son breast feed than a daughter? seabeyond May 2012 #55

Yes, because the sexual tension would not be there cr8tvlde May 2012 #59

There is no sexual tension "there" The sexual tension is with "you", FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #87

"What if it were a feminine mom in a nice skirt and blouse and a blonde, ringleted, innocent-looking FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #47

I'll be glad when people stop acting like an exposed breast FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #46

Take the "toddler" out of it and she can strip to naked...it's not about boobies or "nip slips" cr8tvlde May 2012 #62

the boy toddlers does not make it edgy.... that is the stupid. jeezus.... seabeyond May 2012 #68

Kiddie porn?!? laundry_queen May 2012 #72

It's disturbing that you are determined to see sex and abuse FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #88

That's a toddler? blueamy66 May 2012 #83

The Young Boy Does NOT Look Happy to Be There. I Suspect it's Deliberate. NYC_SKP May 2012 #19

Uh, he looks big enough to tackle her. DevonRex May 2012 #20

Yep. Thinking this poor kid isn't going to have a lot of "play dates" cr8tvlde May 2012 #24

Seriously. That picture is online now. It'll NEVER go away. DevonRex May 2012 #25

Why does Dad's location matter? ScreamingMeemie May 2012 #43

Whoa. Are you serious? Dad doesn't matter? cr8tvlde May 2012 #51

What "makes sense now"? I happen to have a problem with this cover. ScreamingMeemie May 2012 #52

Why does a dad's location matter when breastfeeding? uppityperson May 2012 #53

My second child would've been at least that big at 3 years old. laundry_queen May 2012 #36

I nursed both my boys. They stopped nursing on their own. DevonRex May 2012 #66

Publicly breastfeeding a three-year-old. We have a family story about that. aquart May 2012 #28

Good for her! What great quick thinking! CaliforniaPeggy May 2012 #32

:) laundry_queen May 2012 #37

Time posted this right before "Mother's Day" too ?????? BillyJack May 2012 #38

Interesting tidbit. laundry_queen May 2012 #39

This is why I like it and dislike it. It got attention. morningfog May 2012 #40

yes. by once again, pitting women against women. nothing new there. but hey.... seabeyond May 2012 #41

And that is another issue that can be explored. morningfog May 2012 #45

Here's my problem with this cover. I bottle fed one of my kids and breastfed the other. ScreamingMeemie May 2012 #44

I look at it as actual art, in the best sense of the word bhikkhu May 2012 #48

There is nothing "real" or "artsy" about having a photo of a young boy and his mother cr8tvlde May 2012 #57

Because society is so cold and closed and intolerant bhikkhu May 2012 #58

Why would a parent use their child as a sociological experiment? cr8tvlde May 2012 #61

Why are people so put out by breastfeeding bhikkhu May 2012 #64

++++++++ n/t FedUpWithIt All May 2012 #86

It's only screwed up in America. nt laundry_queen May 2012 #70

That may be, regardless, this is where he must grow up...it's reality cr8tvlde May 2012 #89

Kids will always find something to bully about. laundry_queen May 2012 #93

one of the niftiest about husband, that to this day i value and appreciate. 3 yr old. never saying seabeyond May 2012 #95

:) He sounds like a great guy. nt laundry_queen May 2012 #96

I wonder how "extended breast-feeders" feel about kids with bottles at 3-7 years old. joshcryer May 2012 #60

I'd have no issue with it. laundry_queen May 2012 #71

"make him fly, mother!" Warren DeMontague May 2012 #63

Grr. I hate that little brat. He's one step below Joffery on my list of characters who need to die. white_wolf May 2012 #69

Don't worry. boppers May 2012 #75

Check back at 16 . . . I bet the kid's still there. Vinca May 2012 #74

That's a kid? Fla_Democrat May 2012 #77

Time wanted to sensationalize the issue and sell magazines Cairycat May 2012 #84

The whole attachment parenting things creeps me out and makes me worry about the future alarimer May 2012 #90

Time has changed the cover picture. Prometheus Bound May 2012 #92