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In reply to the discussion: Why I really dislike the Time nursing cover [View all]laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)I suppose we should all name our kids Bob or Jane, dress them nicely and stylishly, make sure they have the latest toys and gadgets, make sure they don't have 'weird' interests like science or math, make sure that as parents we aren't fat or too stylish, that we look like a 'soccer mom' (whatever that is), that we drive the appropriate vehicles, that we only teach kids the values that will make sure they won't be teased - don't teach them to stand up for themselves ever, teach them to be followers, teach them to never question authority, make sure they are good at sports, etc etc.
See how ridiculous your assertion is? I'll be damned if I compromise my deepest held convictions on child rearing because there's a chance my kid might be bullied about it.
Sounds like my ex, who, when I asserted that maybe buying Barbies for my daughters wasn't such a good idea, that Barbies perpetuated a warped sense of body image and beauty, said, "My kids will have Barbies, I won't have them bullied at school because they are the losers that don't have Barbies because of some stupid tree hugger crap." At the time, being very subservient, I allowed my girls to have Barbies. Guess what? Their friends that didn't have them weren't bullied or made fun of. Nor did my kids give a crap when they went over to their friends' house and didn't play with Barbies - there were plenty of other things to do. Looking back it's totally ridiculous to make parenting decisions on whether or not your child MAY be bullied. If the bullies are allowed to bully, they will find SOMETHING.