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Xyzse

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68. I agree... Though I must admit that now and then I inadvertently make that mistake.

Fri Jun 12, 2015, 02:13 PM

Jun 2015

It is mostly in regards to one person though.

A friend of mine, she got married to her wife at the time, who then after 5+ years decided to have the operation to become a man instead.

Since I first known him as my friend's wife, I still sometimes call her, her wife then automatically change to husband.

One reason though that I still make that mistake quite a bit, is because when I talk about them, I tend to have to explain what happened historically with my friend, saying that she was married on my birthday back in 2000, with her wife who is now her husband.

So, now and then, I reverse, because for a few years, she would also change back and forth, so I am mostly confused... Like Jon Snow, I know nothing.

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Just so we're clear, if you deliberately use the wrong pronoun [View all] NuclearDem Jun 2015 OP

We agree. nt Xipe Totec Jun 2015 #1

Thank you for saying it. enlightenment Jun 2015 #2

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Apparently not. enlightenment Jun 2015 #8

Well, the people at the point of that dagger in the back are all still around Scootaloo Jun 2015 #32

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Thank you for this. johnp3907 Jun 2015 #4

Why not? 63splitwindow Jun 2015 #5

THAT IS why not call them their desired pronoun? 63splitwindow Jun 2015 #7

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Thanks... 63splitwindow Jun 2015 #38

Off thread, but assume the handle is a Vette reference bigbrother05 Jun 2015 #55

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Seriously. If someone introduced themselves to you as Bob, NuclearDem Jun 2015 #18

Sometimes it just comes down to something that simple! calimary Jun 2015 #36

Thanks 63splitwindow Jun 2015 #37

Well put. brer cat Jun 2015 #48

Well put. brer cat Jun 2015 #51

Thanks. 63splitwindow Jun 2015 #58

Kick Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #9

Perfect post, except... tarheelsunc Jun 2015 #10

The thing is I understand being in the position of not understanding trans* issues. NuclearDem Jun 2015 #15

Yup. cherokeeprogressive Jun 2015 #11

Great post. Thank you. TDale313 Jun 2015 #13

Thank you, NuclearDem! City Lights Jun 2015 #14

I am glad I am not the only one that thinks it's sad this had to be posted. Kalidurga Jun 2015 #16

k&r with thanks uppityperson Jun 2015 #17

what about relying on gender theorists who've openly said transwomen are trying to infiltrate women? MisterP Jun 2015 #19

You can safely assume, after an OP like this, NuclearDem Jun 2015 #20

As a trans woman, they're full of shit. I don't go to "women's spaces"*. I honestly sit at home MillennialDem Jun 2015 #21

Wow, thank you for mentioning that. OneGrassRoot Jun 2015 #47

Yeah it really happens and it's ridiculous. There are even some who think MillennialDem Jun 2015 #60

TERFs get banned here. Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #31

I'm not sure what a TERF is... Scootaloo Jun 2015 #33

Trans Exclusive Radical Feminists. Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #35

They aren't particularly radical feminists then, are they? F4lconF16 Jun 2015 #41

+1. nt tblue37 Jun 2015 #46

That's my position too. Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #57

^ BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2015 #77

What do they believe? treestar Jun 2015 #66

Womyn-born womyn. NuclearDem Jun 2015 #67

Thanks, kind of what I thought treestar Jun 2015 #72

What NuclearDem said. Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #70

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To what ends? awoke_in_2003 Jun 2015 #44

Yeah, WHAT ABOUT THAT? Brickbat Jun 2015 #50

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They're assholes. Next question. yardwork Jun 2015 #86

K&R. Very glad to see some ugly trash taken out to the dumpster earlier... bullwinkle428 Jun 2015 #22

From a trans woman, thanks for this post. Glad I don't have to deal with the pronoun game any longer MillennialDem Jun 2015 #23

My pleasure, and congratulations! NuclearDem Jun 2015 #25

Let me be clear that I could care less about Caitlyn...just like I cared less about Bruce. brooklynite Jun 2015 #24

I think you mean "couldn't care less" nt Logical Jun 2015 #26

But what if brooklynite were being sarcastic? rock Jun 2015 #28

But, maybe awoke_in_2003 Jun 2015 #45

Big kick & rec LostOne4Ever Jun 2015 #27

Doing that is a conservaturd practice. xfundy Jun 2015 #29

Sad that you had to post this on a Liberal website AwakeAtLast Jun 2015 #30

While we're at it, it's "trans man" or "trans woman" (with a space). Spider Jerusalem Jun 2015 #34

Thanks, I'll edit that in. NuclearDem Jun 2015 #40

Thanks for the info. Makes sense. Nt F4lconF16 Jun 2015 #43

K & R. DemocraticWing Jun 2015 #39

Talking to potential roommates F4lconF16 Jun 2015 #42

Wait, pronouns? romanic Jun 2015 #49

Here's your sign. nt RandiFan1290 Jun 2015 #52

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Well said. riqster Jun 2015 #54

I agree and deliberate is the key davidpdx Jun 2015 #56

There's no shame in a mistake. NuclearDem Jun 2015 #63

The person you are referring to is munching cold leftover pizza as we speak KamaAina Jun 2015 #64

I saw that. Unfortunately, that's not the only one, even from just that thread. NuclearDem Jun 2015 #65

I agree... Though I must admit that now and then I inadvertently make that mistake. Xyzse Jun 2015 #68

I have had to catch myself recently... Glassunion Jun 2015 #69

Dumb question: why the asterisk in trans*? nt JustABozoOnThisBus Jun 2015 #73

It's probably not necessary, but I put it there NuclearDem Jun 2015 #75

Ok, thanks JustABozoOnThisBus Jun 2015 #76

I like that style. F4lconF16 Jun 2015 #80

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K&R nt. NCTraveler Jun 2015 #74

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K & R Dont call me Shirley Jun 2015 #81

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Thank you Lordquinton Jun 2015 #83

Plus a billion ismnotwasm Jun 2015 #84

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