I'm sorry, but trying to dictate someone's identity to them is always wrong.

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7. So when George Bush claimed to have served the country in the National Guard

we can't point out that no, actually he skipped out on that? Or when somebody who never served in the military claims to have done so, actual veterans can't get upset because that would be against somebody's self-identity?

You don't get to appropriate somebody else's life for your own. It appears that the woman was lying. That isn't a self-identity issue, that's being a craptastic human being. Even if she had only good intentions, she still lied which isn't something to respect.

And it actually does have an impact on other people. What happens to that charter now, or even to the larger NAACP at either the state or national level? What happens to the work that was being done at that chapter that now gets left in the lurch because she lied?

So no, I won't respect her identity, because it's apparently complete bullshit.