Caitlyn Jenner did not "decide to become" a woman

[Orsino]

10. We don't really know anything about her process but what she tells us.

"Becoming" doesn't have to imply any period of "pretending," since a big part of our gender identities are what we decide to display--or are pressured into displaying--to our fellow travelers.

I think we ought to avoid absolutes in referring to others' journeys. If the word "become" presumes too much, so, I think, does claiming that there was no transition, especially when we discuss the identity of someone we've never actually known personally.

However she presents these days, or decades from now, I hope that she never has to run from the fact that she once made a damned fine man, too. I'm content to let her tell her own story in her own way.