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[Bluenorthwest]

26. Here's the thing, it's not the person using the slur that really bothers me, it's the rest of you

who stand there and demand that those being denigrated provide their own defense. I was recently verbally assaulted with a very ugly anti gay slur in public, and the people that really pissed me off were the others who heard it and just stood there, looking at me as if their Straight Asshole was my problem and not their problem.
If you hear a minority being subjected to slurs, the thing that takes power from the slurs is when members of the majority step up and say 'Stop it' to the slur merchants. It's not up to black people to 'train themselves' it's up to white people to housebreak their own bigots. It's not up to me to develop some resistance to hate speech, it's up to you to stop allowing your peer group to get by with using them at all.

And your pretense of being above all angry response is just self serving bullshit. If you are that composed in life, then you are exactly the person who should be taking a stand if you are subjected to insults, you should do that to protect the next person in line for insult, to help make slurs entirely unacceptable.