Equating or aligning polygamy with gay marriage is bigotry and has no place here....

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120. You are missing the point.

"polygamy has historically..."

See, this is where things break down. *Religious* polygamy isn't polygamy. The examples you point to are not the end all of the discussion.

The problem comes when trying to compare polyamory to gay marriage, instead of the more correct comparison, polyamory vs monogamy. Polyamory doesn't specify any of the genders, sexuality, or interpersonal relationships of the people involved. Just like marriage, now that gay marriage has become the law of the land.

I've known long-term gay triads, for example. There is no sociological issue with them, no hierarchical structure. Just three guys who love and care for each other. Are you trying to tell me that allowing them to form a legally-recognized union is bad for society somehow?

I've known long-term families with a woman married to a man and also "married" (in spirit only, unfortunately) to another woman. They have kids, they co-parent, and they live a happy, healthy lifestyle. Their kids have two mommies and a daddy. Is their family structure bad for society? Is someone being mistreated somehow?

The real problem I see in this discussion is that it sounds disturbingly like "well, some gay men are pedophiles, and we can't have that, can we?" And I agree -- pedophilia is a crime of violence and cannot be tolerated. But it isn't the "gay" part that is the issue. There are polygamous groups that are horribly abusive to the women and children involved. Those are crimes. But if there was a monogamous couple with kids with the same family dynamics, it would be just as criminal.

Don't conflate the two. Polyamory can be just as viable as monogamy. *Individuals* can be abusive.