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underahedgerow

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58. I agree. Sometimes you just have to get on with it. Sometimes the situation is good,

Fri Jul 10, 2015, 03:30 PM

Jul 2015

sometimes it's under the most dire of circumstances, and I've had it both ways.

When I was young, I moved from upstate NY to Florida with 1 suitcase. Moved from there to Chicago a couple years later with 2 suitcases and a little money. Stayed with a friend, got a job, got an apartment and loved living in Chicago for a year, but I got bored and wanted to be on the West Coast. The shop I was working for offered to give me a job in SF and put me up in their condo for a few weeks and I got a flat of my own, and more jobs and got more experience in various job markets. I knew I needed to be in LA for the music and show business work I wanted to pursue, so I packed myself off to LA... I think on a bus! I stayed with various shady characters and had some crazy experiences! But I landed a real job finally, and stayed in a weekly apartment for almost a year and saved up for a proper apartment.

I moved about every 2 years in LA, always to a next better place... Got better jobs, bought and sold houses and property and did really really well! I decided to move to Europe, to the South of France and for a while it was good, but life is life and it went to shit after a few years. I lost everything.... my house, work... I had to give up one of my 2 dogs to a lovely family in order to keep a roof over my head. But it worked out, and I rebuilt my life again, as we have to do.

Now I've been bopping around Europe for various projects and work, and I still find I move about every 2 years, and I kind of like it. My worldly goods fit in a (rental) van, and frankly I don't even need most of them. The projects I take provide housing which makes life easier. The current project doesn't require my gorgeous Parisienne street clothes, so they're all in storage... but they let me have my dog Kevin, and he's sure he's in doggie heaven on this estate!

Storage is good, sometimes I pay for it, most times I can manage to find something for free. I have storage and parking in Paris anytime I need it, and a flat I can use there most of the year.

My housekeeper in LA was wonderful. Her name was Daisy and we became good friends (she got a LOT of goods from my house when I moved from LA!!). She told me her story of walking to Los Angeles from El Salvador to make a better life for herself and her daughter back home. I think of her when I am going through hard times. If she can walk 2700 miles to make a better life for herself, I can pack up my stuff, find a home for my dog and get on with my life too, if I need to.

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Relocating is not as hard as people believe it is. [View all] vinny9698 Jul 2015 OP

"Illegals"? Srsly? cherokeeprogressive Jul 2015 #1

Agreed kcr Jul 2015 #98

F-ing seriously! smirkymonkey Jul 2015 #147

. geek tragedy Jul 2015 #2

And what other magical trick do you propose? hobbit709 Jul 2015 #3

Look at history the great migrations. vinny9698 Jul 2015 #7

In any bad situation you can find someone who got a shittier end of the stick Major Nikon Jul 2015 #20

I don't really understand you point in comparing contemporary to things like the Oregon Trail. NorthCarolinaL Jul 2015 #88

Found that the toughest issue is Wellstone ruled Jul 2015 #4

Face Book, email, web cams, vinny9698 Jul 2015 #9

Yes,once one gets the Rellies put back in their cages, Wellstone ruled Jul 2015 #42

I want to relocate PasadenaTrudy Jul 2015 #53

While you are waiting get some free training from your community college vinny9698 Jul 2015 #127

And I'm sure your sparkling intellect was a calling card Starry Messenger Jul 2015 #5

No doubt. HERVEPA Jul 2015 #101

I lulz'ed KG Jul 2015 #6

k+r... TeeYiYi Jul 2015 #8

Salvation Army doesnt do that anymore. randys1 Jul 2015 #84

They do if you have good stuff... Gormy Cuss Jul 2015 #91

"Illegal" as a noun is considered offensive. Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #10

Apparently it allows it as an adjective in this context. KamaAina Jul 2015 #14

Auditioning for "Clueless, the Sequel"? closeupready Jul 2015 #11

Then explain the great migrations in American history vinny9698 Jul 2015 #16

Setting aside the fact that many died on those great migrations, Gormy Cuss Jul 2015 #92

migration =/= relocation Lordquinton Jul 2015 #99

I am not the only one who has relocated for job, school vinny9698 Jul 2015 #135

I really don't get your posts Lordquinton Jul 2015 #136

A) I don't drive. B) It's "undocumented immigrants". KamaAina Jul 2015 #12

Go Greyhound and relocate to city with a good transportation system. NYC, San Fran vinny9698 Jul 2015 #18

I'm already in the Bay Area! KamaAina Jul 2015 #26

Good Luck vinny9698 Jul 2015 #45

What sort of work do you do? DisgustipatedinCA Jul 2015 #93

Haven't done tech for many years KamaAina Jul 2015 #107

three words: sweetapogee Jul 2015 #108

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. KamaAina Jul 2015 #122

Do you know what the cost of living is in those two cities? Kelvin Mace Jul 2015 #39

wow. fishwax Jul 2015 #13

Do me a favor... TeeYiYi Jul 2015 #15

OK sorry vinny9698 Jul 2015 #70

The toughest issue is that people are resistant to change taught_me_patience Jul 2015 #17

Plan your work, then work the plan vinny9698 Jul 2015 #23

The internet has made it so much easier taught_me_patience Jul 2015 #27

I prefer the phrase unauthorized immigrant population. aikoaiko Jul 2015 #19

It's sad people are focused on the word "illegals" and ignoring the message of the OP n/t taught_me_patience Jul 2015 #21

emotionalism tymorial Jul 2015 #82

I agree, for the most part. alarimer Jul 2015 #22

Did you keep anything?... TeeYiYi Jul 2015 #24

Photos and memorabilia make a small part of your belongings vinny9698 Jul 2015 #30

Thank you... TeeYiYi Jul 2015 #34

Relocating can be extremely difficult. It may, or may not, be worth it. uppityperson Jul 2015 #25

I am just telling people to catch a fish, you need to go where the fish are biting. vinny9698 Jul 2015 #37

"You are not in the right location if you can not find a job"? Seriously? uppityperson Jul 2015 #43

Nor is it as easy as we'd like to believe. LanternWaste Jul 2015 #28

I need to recommend a book to you: Saviolo Jul 2015 #29

This is not the answer for everyone vinny9698 Jul 2015 #31

You're not even remotely picking up what I'm putting down Saviolo Jul 2015 #35

Are you comparing $20k loan to having some one put two boxes in their closet? vinny9698 Jul 2015 #50

That student didn't take the job you found so you took it personally and wrote him off? uppityperson Jul 2015 #56

Nothing Personal about it vinny9698 Jul 2015 #63

I misunderstood the "I never did" part, thought you meant you just never called him. uppityperson Jul 2015 #64

Again you're vastly missing my point Saviolo Jul 2015 #59

Then take a crude wooden spear in hand and start walking. hobbit709 Jul 2015 #60

Today you can drive to food banks and get food on a weekly basis. vinny9698 Jul 2015 #69

If you have a car and the food bank isn't already depleted. hobbit709 Jul 2015 #73

I'm reminded of this video: Saviolo Jul 2015 #78

Why should I try it.they used all their knowledge and resources to move so am I vinny9698 Jul 2015 #141

It's not too hard for me either. YMMV whatthehey Jul 2015 #32

If you have no important ties to speak of, then it's easy. pnwmom Jul 2015 #33

And this is the question all must answer independently whatthehey Jul 2015 #38

My point is that the OP is dismissive of the importance that family and friends pnwmom Jul 2015 #47

He may be, or he may have just made the other choice. Dunno. whatthehey Jul 2015 #49

Skype is nice, but it will never replace physical relationships with children. pnwmom Jul 2015 #51

Exactly. I can't quite get my husband to understand that my relationship with my Nay Jul 2015 #57

I am glad you had an easy time of it, Kelvin Mace Jul 2015 #36

I have had friends who owned a lot of rental property. The problems are the 2 Ts' vinny9698 Jul 2015 #125

I've managed rentals, it's really not that easy. LeftyMom Jul 2015 #131

Wealthsplaining feels good, but this is all very obvious advice. RadiationTherapy Jul 2015 #40

I think he left out the part about smothering his ailing grandma with a pillow eridani Jul 2015 #113

Many single mothers that would love to relocate for decent jobs cannot due to restrictions by the Mnemosyne Jul 2015 #41

^^^this, 1000 times this laundry_queen Jul 2015 #115

My daughter is in basically the same situation, no jobs here in her field and she can't move. Mnemosyne Jul 2015 #137

privilege makes everything seem easy fizzgig Jul 2015 #44

You can get jobs online to teach in China vinny9698 Jul 2015 #48

yeah, i assumed you used the internet fizzgig Jul 2015 #52

+1 uponit7771 Jul 2015 #77

Actually owning a house is more of a burden vinny9698 Jul 2015 #140

Interesting - thanks for the post. nt jonno99 Jul 2015 #83

You taught English, and yet you use phrases like "for my wife and I?" DFW Jul 2015 #120

Wow ellie Jul 2015 #46

Point? Texasgal Jul 2015 #54

His point is that since he did it, it's just as easy for everyone else. hobbit709 Jul 2015 #55

People have been relocating since creation vinny9698 Jul 2015 #72

What is your POINT? Texasgal Jul 2015 #74

I agree. Sometimes you just have to get on with it. Sometimes the situation is good, underahedgerow Jul 2015 #58

Is your post some sort of joke? Texasgal Jul 2015 #68

People do live like this PasadenaTrudy Jul 2015 #103

You don't mention a single loved one or even friend (other than your housekeeper, maybe.) pnwmom Jul 2015 #117

Got it, so how do I do it when... I_Like_Hammers Jul 2015 #61

Then you need to apply for SSI vinny9698 Jul 2015 #67

How do you live while waiting for approval. hobbit709 Jul 2015 #75

She already is bouncing around from relative to relative vinny9698 Jul 2015 #126

So which state are we going to relocate the republicans?? Angry Dragon Jul 2015 #62

And the agenda behind this post is? daredtowork Jul 2015 #65

The best thing about living in NYC is that you can... meaculpa2011 Jul 2015 #66

The older you get, the harder it is to relocate. Trust me on that. (nt) Paladin Jul 2015 #71

Senior Citizens Retiring out of the US. vinny9698 Jul 2015 #76

Yep,last time I did it Go Vols Jul 2015 #81

Just added it all up. 1939 Jul 2015 #89

Three times I've relocated to another city/state for raccoon Jul 2015 #79

Life is just SO damned easy ... Trajan Jul 2015 #80

I hate it when people try to make it look so easy, then use it as an excuse to judge and condemn... AZ Progressive Jul 2015 #85

This. PowerToThePeople Jul 2015 #86

Yes it even looked like fun in the grapes of wrath dembotoz Jul 2015 #87

I've relocated four times in my life Gormy Cuss Jul 2015 #90

What am I missing? Why are people yelling at you here? DisgustipatedinCA Jul 2015 #94

I've done it several times in my life, but "home" is still hard to leave bhikkhu Jul 2015 #95

You had a house you could rent out gollygee Jul 2015 #96

Half of my relocations I did not have a house vinny9698 Jul 2015 #130

2 big things chade Jul 2015 #97

I am gonna have to go ahead Quayblue Jul 2015 #100

"Africans relocated from Africa to Europe and that is how the world got populated." ladyVet Jul 2015 #102

Great post Art_from_Ark Jul 2015 #110

I think I see what your problem is. You aren't a sociopath n/t eridani Jul 2015 #114

This is all Romney up in the house Person 2713 Jul 2015 #104

I've done 2 out of state moves in my life BuelahWitch Jul 2015 #105

Gas money. Got some? UHaul rental money. Got some? Deposit money. Got some? cherokeeprogressive Jul 2015 #106

your last sentence says it all fizzgig Jul 2015 #111

Sez you. Liberal In Texas Jul 2015 #109

I didn't say it was fun. A lot easier if you are on SS vinny9698 Jul 2015 #123

Where in my post did I use the word fun. vinny9698 Jul 2015 #133

OK, bright boy. You do all that and then you lose the new job eridani Jul 2015 #112

If you are working minimum wage jobs don't relocate vinny9698 Jul 2015 #128

IT courses? How wonderful for you! You'll get a chance to train your own H1b replacement eridani Jul 2015 #129

Well if you only have minimum wage skills then moving is not for you vinny9698 Jul 2015 #132

Little demand for IT people unless you have an H1b visa n/t eridani Jul 2015 #134

Empathy is not as hard as you appear to think it is. pnwmom Jul 2015 #116

moving is relatively easy IF you have nothing invested where you are magical thyme Jul 2015 #118

I think it depends on the person's situation, not everyone can take such a shocking leap of faith davidpdx Jul 2015 #119

It's easier to list challenges and obstacles than to just do it Generic Brad Jul 2015 #121

I laugh. hunter Jul 2015 #124

I see what you're doing here Facility Inspector Jul 2015 #138

I also see what you're doing here. polly7 Jul 2015 #139

I imagine that you've successfully relocated under quite a few bridges Orrex Jul 2015 #142

... bluedigger Jul 2015 #146

Is there some kind of relocation debate I don't know about? ileus Jul 2015 #143

I think it's a thread to kick someone here who's already down. nt. polly7 Jul 2015 #144

This post reeks of bullshit. tenderfoot Jul 2015 #145