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8. It's hard -- we're wired that way...

Thu May 17, 2012, 01:51 PM

May 2012

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Cognitive dissonance theory warns that people have a bias to seek consonance among their cognitions. According to Festinger, we engage in a process he termed "dissonance reduction", which he said could be achieved in one of three ways: lowering the importance of one of the discordant factors, adding consonant elements, or changing one of the dissonant factors.

Everyone is subject, somewhat. But for some it allows a rigidity of belief that defies the insanity label.

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How can you communicate with someone that is too close-minded to hear the facts? [View all] kentuck May 2012 OP

you laugh in their faces. unblock May 2012 #1

I trust you don't seriously imagine that would happen. Jackpine Radical May 2012 #3

ridicule is the ONLY thing that has a chance of (eventually) breaking them free unblock May 2012 #15

You just feed into their persecution complexes. Jackpine Radical May 2012 #22

When I showed my mother the results of the study that showed Maraya1969 May 2012 #30

There is no point in trying to convince them of anything. Zalatix May 2012 #37

You can't, people usually need to see it in their own lives marlakay May 2012 #2

See my post #30 Maraya1969 May 2012 #32

I'm surprised most people who watch fox marlakay May 2012 #39

She kind of fell into the wrong crowd after my Dad died and was influenced Maraya1969 May 2012 #40

I would guess then that she was never as far-gone as many on the right, Jackpine Radical May 2012 #43

Talk about the weather or some TV show, SalviaBlue May 2012 #4

Yeah, I'm not in that situation, but see the value of agreeing to disagree among family. pinto May 2012 #6

Hey sis! vanlassie May 2012 #34

Use facts that are pertinent to their individual situation. Relate it to *them*, not some vague pinto May 2012 #5

They might just be saying the same thing about you Nuclear Unicorn May 2012 #7

Nobody wants to be called stupid... kentuck May 2012 #9

I dunno. Nuclear Unicorn May 2012 #11

I would like to see people change with elections... kentuck May 2012 #13

It's hard -- we're wired that way... immoderate May 2012 #8

this is exactly why they need to be laughed at. unblock May 2012 #17

Also... gulliver May 2012 #35

Excellent! Goes back to the premise, you don't need to be crazy... immoderate May 2012 #44

Indeed... kentuck May 2012 #45

Maybe we can get an extremely literate douchebag to talk to them? Tommy_Carcetti May 2012 #10

Ultimately you walk away shaking your head. hifiguy May 2012 #12

I guess.... kentuck May 2012 #20

Yep! treestar May 2012 #26

Someone on DU recently called Karl Marx a 'reactionary'. I immediately coalition_unwilling May 2012 #29

It is not; the nature of the meaning of words got hifiguy May 2012 #33

Almost impossible to argue with dictators, and make no mistake that is what they want Bandit May 2012 #14

Answer: You don't, you chalk it up as a loss and move on... truebrit71 May 2012 #16

I think this sequence from Bull Durham fits .... JoePhilly May 2012 #18

Our Republic was founded and based on the Liberal Enlightenment librechik May 2012 #19

As far as I know, there is no way to communicate with a person who has a closed mind. nt ladjf May 2012 #21

I used to listen to them and engage in "friendly debate." KansDem May 2012 #23

You can't, you don't. I have decades of experience with my mom whose the worst sort of Republican riderinthestorm May 2012 #24

Raising your voice and flailing your arms around sometimes helps slackmaster May 2012 #25

I went to a party with a girlfriend some years back and she ended up so blitzed (somehow) TheKentuckian May 2012 #27

I find open-ended questions sometimes help. My problem comes when coalition_unwilling May 2012 #28

You don't. lonestarnot May 2012 #31

You have to go sub-cortical, imo gulliver May 2012 #36

Trick question. You cannot. Rex May 2012 #38

How very succinct.... kentuck May 2012 #41

Short answer: you can't. nt daaron May 2012 #42