What Open Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism

[Yo_Mama]

12. I object to this being called feminism.

Feminism is equal human rights for men and women. This is not feminism, and he is not a feminist.

Writing as a woman, if another woman were home taking care of the kids by mutual agreement and the husband decided that granted him the right to go out screwing around, I would not accept it as empowerment. There is a natural power imbalance in the equation there - the non-working, custodial parent has less options, and concern for the children often limit the ability to object.

I also strongly object to making such an arrangement public when the kids will inevitably be confronted with it, which is my worst beef with this exercise in bad behavior seeking public endorsement. Feminism IS NOT about bad behavior; it's about good behavior, and having the right to do what is right.

One of these days, the odds are that one of these two are going to meet someone else, and this couple will split. Every human being is capable of loving more than one human being. Those who deliberately restrict themselves to one partner probably do so because they are a bit more realistic.

People have a right to open relationships. There's nothing new about that. But people probably should not publicize it in this way when children are involved, because those kids are going to be faced with precisely this article and this contention, and it's just not fair to the children.