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9. Nope! Something my father said to me after he was diagnosed

Sat Jul 25, 2015, 12:26 PM

Jul 2015

With terminal illness - its just between him and me . . . But those words hit home.

I think I fear for those I leave behind. I know people move through grief - but the number of times I've said -

I wish dad could have been here.
My gramfeathers woud have loved Luhrman's Gatsby.
I wish Slacker could have been at this girls weekend.
What would Wendell be today(cousin who was murdered heading to American for Law)? He'd be like Corey Booker I bet.

My oldest friend I've known for 39 years. I have so many friends and a good family. Whatever the reality of death is - I want to go to it quickly and not be conscious of those thoughts and words.

And well - I have a neat picture of my dad's hand on my mom's shoulder at his funeral/grave side. No one was standing behind her. Just his hand. I'm not afraid of that.

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Do you fear Death? [View all] darkangel218 Jul 2015 OP

Most people must because some Christian evangelicals Lint Head Jul 2015 #1

And that is very sad. darkangel218 Jul 2015 #3

I don't think they use the fear of death ... JustABozoOnThisBus Jul 2015 #8

The reason I say that is because the fear of injury or death is innate in most animals. The Lint Head Jul 2015 #17

"Not sure" --- because..... femmocrat Jul 2015 #2

That is why I personally support assisted suicide darkangel218 Jul 2015 #4

Death can be scary if you have things to lose or people depending on you Hydra Jul 2015 #5

I fear the dying part. PasadenaTrudy Jul 2015 #6

That's sort of my position... HereSince1628 Jul 2015 #37

Same here. Boudica the Lyoness Jul 2015 #38

No, but... beevul Jul 2015 #7

That is why we should support assisted suicide darkangel218 Jul 2015 #11

Nope! Something my father said to me after he was diagnosed JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #9

I worry about a lingering, painful and expensive passage. lpbk2713 Jul 2015 #10

I had a good friend who died in hospice and I visited her when she first went in and CTyankee Jul 2015 #23

Sometimes yes, sometimes no Lurks Often Jul 2015 #12

I fear leaving my kids until they are out of the house on their own. nt Logical Jul 2015 #13

I do not fear death, I worry about my kids and grandchildren. Paper Roses Jul 2015 #14

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2015 #15

Depends on how, I suppose. Throd Jul 2015 #16

I fear living too long. Vinca Jul 2015 #18

Amen, Vinca. onecent Jul 2015 #40

I have had powerful personal experiences that preclude fear of death. dixiegrrrrl Jul 2015 #19

I was dead for billions of years before I was born and remember no particular inconvenience. Twain Tierra_y_Libertad Jul 2015 #20

Next big adventure. safeinOhio Jul 2015 #21

A murder death yes for the sake of my family rbrnmw Jul 2015 #22

I do not fear death. oneshooter Jul 2015 #24

No. higherarkies Jul 2015 #25

I have long found it very strange that SheilaT Jul 2015 #26

I fear pain and helplessness. SusanCalvin Jul 2015 #27

Death happens whether we fear it or not lunatica Jul 2015 #28

I don't fear losing consciousness, SusanCalvin Jul 2015 #31

TERRIFIED...I don't want to miss out on anything!!!!!! nt MADem Jul 2015 #29

no i don't fear wendylaroux Jul 2015 #30

interesting poll topic Liberal_in_LA Jul 2015 #32

A little bit. There's still so much I want to do. . . DinahMoeHum Jul 2015 #33

Nope. I've been living on borrowed time for 44 years. 11 Bravo Jul 2015 #34

no handmade34 Jul 2015 #35

This message was self-deleted by its author LiberalArkie Jul 2015 #36

"varying by personal beliefs" Android3.14 Jul 2015 #39

Not a peaceful one. moonandsixpence. Jul 2015 #41